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Saint Valentin: Inkomoko y'Umunsi w'Abakundana

2012-02-14T06:05:00.001-08:00

Umunsi wa Saint Valentin wizihizwa tariki ya 14 Gashyantare ku isi hose ufatwa nk’umunsi w’abakundana, uwo munsi ukaba uhurirana n’umunsi Kiliziya Gatolika izirikana ku buzima bwa Mutagatifu Valantini.

Ariko kuri uwo munsi wa Saint Valentin (Valentine’s Day) hari ibintu byinshi bitandukanye bikunze kuvugwa, ariko si ko byose aribyo, kandi si nako abantu bose babyumvikanaho.

Kuri uwo munsi, abasore n’inkumi bakundana bahana impano zitandukanye ziganjemo impapuro zanditseho imitoma, n’indabo z’amaroza atukura ubusanzwe avuga urukundo rugurumana .

Aha bivugwa ko buri mwaka, kuri Saint Valentin hoherezwa amakarita agera kuri miliyari imwe n’igice, muri yo 83.6% akaba atangwa n’abagore bayaha abo bakunda.

Kuki St Valentin iba muri Gashyantare

Kera umunsi wo hagati mu kwezi kwa Gashyantare ufatwa nk’ikimenyetso cy’urukundo n’uburumbuke kuva mu bihe bya kera . Mu Bagereki, kwari ukwezi bibukagamo ubukwe bw’imana zabo zikomeye Zeus na Héra. Mu Baromani, tariki 15 Gashyantare wabaga ari umunsi bizihizagaho Lupercales, aho baturaga ibitambo Lupercus, imana y’uburumbuke (fertilité).
Abakundana bakunze guhana impano zitandukanye zirimo indabyo z'amaroza, amakarita n'ibindi

Saint Valentin witirirwa umunsi w'abakundana yari Muntu ki

Uwitirirwa uriya munsi ni Valentin w’i Roma, bivugwa ko ku ngoma y’umwami w’abami Claude w’Umugome (Claude Le Cruel), Roma yari mu ntambara abaturage batakundaga, maze afata icyemezo ko nta musirikari uzongera gushaka. Hagati aho, Valentin we yakomeje gusezeranya rwihishwa abakundanaga, harimo n’abasore b’abasirikare.

Byaje kumenyekana ibukuru n’uko arafungwa, ku munsi wo kunyongwa we rero (hari tariki 14 Gashyantare) yoherereza umukobwa wari ufite se wacungaga iyo gereza agapapuro kanditseho ngo “biturutse kuri Valentin wawe” Uwo mukobwa ngo Valentin yamwibonagamo… Ng’uko uko Valentin yagizwe umurinzi w’abakundana (le patron des amoureux).

Gukuna si ryo shingiro ryo kubaka urugo ruhire

2012-02-03T09:26:00.000-08:00

Abaturage bo bemeza ko Gukuna bituma imibonano mpuzabitsina igenda neza

Mu gihe bamwe mu baturage bavuga ko kudakuna ku mugore bishobora gusenya ingo impuguke zo ziremeza ko gukuna atari ryo shingiro ryo kubaka urugo ngo rukomere.

Gukuna, ibyo benshi bazi nko guca imyeyo, usanga henshi na henshi mu ngo abashakanye batabivugaho rumwe. Hamwe na hamwe, usanga umugabo ashaka umugore yamugeza mu rugo agatangira kumuca inyuma amuhora ko atamushimisha (atamuryohereza). Intandaro yo kudashimisha umugabo ngo yaba ishingiye ahanini ku kuba umugore ataraciye imyeyo nk’uko bamwe mu bagore bubatse babivuga.

Appolinarie Uwiringiyiman, umugore w’imyaka 29 akaba na nyina w’abana bane, yemeza ko umugore utarakunnye adashimisha umugabo mu gihe baba bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Uwiringiyimana avuga ko gukuna byongerera umugore amahirwe yo kunyara kandi aribyo akenshi bishimisha umugabo.

Uyu mubyeyi avuga ko iyo umugabo aguciye inyuma agahura n’undi wakunnye arushaho kumushimisha maze wowe utarabikoze ukaba uribagiranye. Uyu mugore atanga urugero rwa mugenzi we atashatse kuvuga amazina waharitswe n’umugabo babyaranye kabiri bapfuye ko atakunnye.

Uwiringiyimana avuga ko mugenzi we yahoraga atukwa n’umugabo amucyurira ko atakunnye, ndetse ngo binagera aho umugabo amwirukana ngo ajye gushaka uko yakuna abone kumugarukira mu rugo. Uyu mudamu ngo yitabaje Uwiringiyimana amusaba ko yamufasha.

Ati: “Yansabye ko namurangira umuti watuma abasha gukuna mubwira kujya asiga amavuta y’inka ku mishino agakurura”.

Uretse n’uyu mudamu wamwitabaje, Uwiringiyimana avuga ko akunze kwitabazwa n’abandi bakobwa bakuze biganjemo cyane cyane abataravukiye mu Rwanda cyangwa abakuriye mu mijyi bakamubaza uko babigenza ngo bakune.

Uwiringiyimana, ufite abana babiri b’abakobwa muri bane yabyaye, avuga ko igihe cyabo cyo gukuna nikigera atazatinya kubigisha uko babikora nk’uko nawe yabyigishijwe na nyina wamubyaye.

Yaragize ati: ”Turi nko mugikoni twiherereye nzajya mbibereka kuko bifite akamaro”.

Viateur Hitimana, umugabo w’imyaka 41 y’amavuko akaba na se w’abana babiri, we avuga ko umugore utarakunnye aba ameze nk’umwana muto. Ibyo ngo bishobora gutuma umugabo atamurarikira cyangwa ngo yumve afite ubushake bwo gukorana nawe imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Uretse n’ibyo, uyu mugabo avuga ko umugore utarakunnye akenshi adahehera mu gihe cyo gutera urubariro. Kuri we asanga ibi bishobora gukomeretsa umugabo mu gihe bakoze imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Hitimana avugako ataryamanye n’umugore we mbere y’uko amushaka (ibyo bita “avance”.), gusa ngo ntiyari gutinda kumwirukana iyo asanga atarakunnye.

Ati:”Nari nsanzwe mpeheta. Iyo nsanga atameze nk’abandi twahuye mbere nari kumuzingisha agataha iwabo”

Umuco wo gukuna wafatwaga nk’itegeko mu Rwanda rwo hambere. Uyu muhango wakorwaga n’abakobwa b’abangavu bakawukorera mu rubohero babifashijwemo n’abandi bakobwa bakuze kubarusha.

Ancille Nyirabikari,umukecuru w’imyaka 75 y’amavuko avuga ko umukobwa yashoboraga no kwigishwa na nyina cyangwa nyirasenge.Ibi ngo babimwigishaga bagirango bamutegurire kuzarushinga rukomeye, kuko ngo uwabaga atarakunnye yafatwaga nk’icyohe mu muryango ashyingiwemo akaba yakurizamo kutumvikana na nyirabukwe cyangwa baramukazi be bityo akaba yanasendwa.

Uyu mukecuru avuga uko kutumvikana n’umuryango ushyingiwemo byaterwaga n’uko mu gihe cyabo bameraga ko kurongora umukobwa utaraciye imyeyo bitera itubya(igabanuka ry’amatungo n’imyaka) mu muryango yashyingiwemo, ari nacyo cyatumaga bene uwo mugeni bamwita” ikimara kimara abantu n’ibintu.”

Iby’uyu mukecuru kandi byiyongeraho ibyanditswe na bamwe mu banditsi bacukumbuye umuco wohambere mu Rwanda. Mgr Aloys Bigirumwami, mu gitabo yise “Imihango,imigenzo n’imiziririzo mu Rwanda rwa kera”(129p), avuga ko umukobwa wabaga yaraciye imyeyo yitwaga umunyamutima, ndetse ko yabaga anaciye akenge kuko ngo yabaga yaraganiriye n’abandi mu rubohero.

Uyu mwanditsi avuga kandi ko kudakuna byashoboraga gutuma umukobwa atabona umugabo kuko ngo bagenzi be bashoboraga kumusebya hose bakoresheje amazina atandukanye nk’ igipampara,Nyirakirimubusa n’ayandi bitaga abakobwa batakunnye.

N’ubwo aba baturage bemeza ko gukuna ari ikintu cy’ingenzi mu kubaka urugo, bamwe mu basobanukiwe ibyerekeranye n’ubuzima bw’imyororokere bavuga ko gukuna ntacyo byongera mu buryohe bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Emma Claudine, umuhanga mu buzima bw’imyororokere akaba n’umunyamakuru wa Radiyo Salus mu kiganiro kigendanye n’ubuzima bw’imyororokere ”Imenye nawe”, avuga ko ari ukunyara kw’umugore ari no kugira ububobere ntaho bihuriye no gukuna kuko hari benshi mu bagore batakunnye babasha kunyara ndetse hakaba hari n’abakunnye ariko batanyara.

Uyu munyamakuru avuga ko kugira ububobere mu gihe cy’imibonano ubwabyo bitandukanye no kunyara. Ububobere ubwabwo ngo buterwa n’uko umugore yifitemo imisemburo ya kigore ihagije ku buryo ibasha kuvubura ububobere mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Yongeraho ko iyi misemburo itangana ku bagore bose ndetse hari n’abatayigira; ari nayo mpamvu bamwe bagira ububobere bwinshi abandi bakagira buke ndetse hakaba abatagira na mba.

Kugira ngo umugore anyare mu gihe cyo gushyikirana n’umugabo, Emma Claudine avuga ko agomba kuba afite isoko ivubura amavangingo (azwi nk’ amazi) bita “glande Skènes” mu gifaransa. Iyo soko ngo niyo ishobora kuba ivubukamo amavangingo mu gihe cyo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Emma avuga ko gufunguka kw’ako kagega ngo biterwa n’uko umugore yishimiye uwo bari kubonana kandi n’umugabo nawe akabasha kumugera ku nyota. Ibyo ngo babikesha kuba babanje gutegurana mbere y’uko bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Uretse n’ibyo kandi ngo kunyara bituruka kuri rugongo (clitoris) kandi ngo nta mugore utayigira yaba yarakunnye cyangwa atarakunnye.

Ati:”Ubonanye n’umukobwa atakwiyumvamo ntashobora kunyara n’ubwo yaba yarakunnye akajana”.

Bamwe mu bagabo birukana abagore babo babahora ko batakunnye, Emma akaba asanga ibi bituruka ku myumvire iri mu bagabo bamwe. Umusore akenshi ngo ajya gushaka umugore yarishyizemo ko uwakunnye ariwe w’igitangaza ushobora no kunyara, ibi bikaba bishobora gutuma iyo aramutse asanze atarakunnye ahita yiheba agakeka ko adashobora kunyara bityo ntabe akimunyuze bibaho. Gusa uyu munyamakuru asanga iyi myumvire ishobora no kuba ku bagabo bamwe na bamwe babona gukuna nk’umwanda.

Emma avuga ko nta mugabo wakagombye kwirukana umugore amuziza kuba yarakunnye cyangwa atarakunnye.Buri wese ngo yakagombye korohera mugenzi we bashakanye akamwakira uko Imana yamuremye, kuko ngo abantu badahwanya imiterere y’umubiri.

At: ”Umugore we se ko yemera igitsina cy’umugabo we uko kingana kose ntiyite ku cyo akunda?”

Emma Claudine, umubyeyi w’ abana babiri, umukobwa n’umuhungu, avuga ko adateganya guhatira umwana we gukuna. Gusa ngo azamuganiriza ku bigendanye no gukuna maze yifatire icyemezo ubwe.

Ati: ”Ushobora kumuhatira gukuna akazashakwa n’umugabo utabikunda akakubona nk’uwamushutse; abanjye nzabaganiriza bifatire icyemezo ubwabo bityo ntibazangaye”.

Akabanga k'Urukundo: Inama z'Urukundo

2011-07-27T00:53:00.000-07:00

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Akabanga K'Urukundo

2011-07-22T08:57:00.000-07:00

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Umujinya mu Rugo

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Menya Kuganiriza Umugabo Wawe

Intandaro y'Ibibazo mu Ngo

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Amoko 5 y'Urukundo

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Uburyo Butandukanye Bwo Gusomana

2011-07-21T12:37:00.001-07:00

GUSOMANA KWA MALAIKA (Angel Kiss)

Uku gusomana kuraryoha kugatuza umutima. Usoma umukunzi wawe ku ngohe cyangwa ku ruhande rw'ijisho. Abakobwa b'imyaka inyuranye bakunda gusomwa muri ubu buryo.

GUSOMA KU ITAMA (Cheek Kiss )

Ni ugusoma umuntu umwereka ko umukunda kandi umwitayeho. Ni ugusomana gukoreshwa iyo abantu babiri bagitangira urukundo .Urambika ikiganza cyawe ku rutugu rw'umukunzi wawe ukamukoza iminwa witonze ku itama.

GUSOMANA:UBURYO BW'IKINYUGUNYUGU (Butterfly Kiss )

Muba mwegeranyije amaso n'amazuru muhumekeraniraho. Wegeranya ingohe zawe nize zigakoranaho mu uhumbya ingohe zawe zimukoraho.

GUSOMANA GUKONJE (Freeze Kiss )

Ubu buryo bwo gusomana burashimishije. Utamira urubura maze ugasoma umukunzi wawe ukamuha urwo rubura n'ururimi.

GUSOMANA KW'ABESKIMO (Eskimo Kiss)

Abeskimo ni ubwoko buba mu karere kanini kitwa Groenland kayoborwa na Danemark. Musomana mwegeranije amaso ku buro muba muhumekeraniraho. Mukubanaho amazuru umwe akuba izuru ku ry'undi. Gukundana ni ugukina.

GUSOMA KU GUTWI (Earlobe Kiss)

Ufata ugutwi k'umukunzi wawe ukagutamira, ukakunyunyuza. Biraryoha cyane kandi bitera gushyukwa cyane. Ni byiza kwirinda kumuhumekeraho cyane mu gutwi kuko bizana urusaku.

GUSOMANA KW'ABAFARANSA (French Kiss)

Gusomana kw'abafaransa gukoresha ururimi mu kanwa. Abakundana basimburana guhana ururimi no kurunyunyuza no kuruzengurutsa mu kanwa. Uku gusomana banakwita "gusoma muri roho" kuko bivugwa ko roho n'ubuzima binyura mu mwuka unyura mu kanwa.

GUSOMA KU GAHANGA (Forehead Kiss)

Ni uburyo bwo gusomana bwerekana urukundo rwa kibyeyi cyangwa urw'inshuti zisanzwe. Urambika iminwa yawe ku gahanga k'uwo ushaka kwereka ko ukunda.

GUSOMA KU KIRENGE(Foot Kiss)

Ni ikimenyetso gikomeye cy'urukundo. Ushobora kumva ubukirigitwa ariko biraryoha. Ushobora kurigata cyangwa kunyunyuza ino ugasoma no mu bworo bw'ikirenge.

GUSOMA IKIGANZA (Hand Kiss )

Uzamura ukuboko k' umukobwa ugasoma inyuma y'ikiganza.

GUSOMANA MU IBARUWA (Letter Kiss )

Ushobora kwisiga lips ku munwa ukawurambika kw'ibaruwa ukayoherereza umukunzi. Bishimisha nko gusomana bisanzwe. Nta gishimisha nko kumenya ko undi akigukunda nubwo ari kure.

GUSOMA KU IJOSI (Neck Kiss)

Uhagarara inyuma y'umukunzi wawe ukamurigata ijosi hanyuma ukamusoma nka kabiri cyangwa gatatu ku ijosi.

Ubushakashatsi ku Gusomana

2011-07-21T12:37:00.000-07:00

Iyi raporo turayikesha Deborrah Cooper wa site yitwa AskHeartBeat.Com.

Mu bushakashatsi Deborrah Cooper yakoze ku gusomana yatangaje ibi bikurukira:

1.UMUNTU ABANTU BIFUZA GUSOMANA NA WE ABA AMEZE ATE?

Mu bantu Deborrah Cooper yabajije, bamubwiye ko bashimishwa no gusoma umugore,umukobwa, umugabo cyangwa umusore bakeye, bafite iminwa myiza, bafite isura nziza, baseka neza kandi bafite amenyo meza.

2.NI BANDE BAKUNDA GUSOMANA CYANE?

Deborrah Cooper asanga nubwo abagabo bakunda gusomana bitababa mu mutima cyane. Asanga abagabo bihanganira gusomana kugira ngo bashobore kwigerera ku ntambwe ikurikiyeho yo guhuza igitsina. Ngo ntabwo abagabo basomana bumva ariho bigomba kurangirira, ngo ni inzira iba ifite aho ibajyana! Abagore bo ngo bakunda gusomana cyane kandi bakumva byamara igihe kirekire nta handi bashaka bumva bahagijwe no gusomana.

Uburyo 6 Bwo Gusomana Ugomba Kwirinda

2011-07-21T12:36:00.000-07:00

GUSOMANA BITA KATRINA (The Katrina Kiss)

Katrina ni serwakira yayogoje Amerika mu bihe bishize. Ubu bwoko bwo gusomana bwuzuramo amazi menshi mu kanwa no ku munwa. Ku buryo nyuma yo gusomana usanga abantu buzuye amazi hose ari ngombwa gushaka igitambaro ngo bihanagure cyangwa bakajya koga. Ni byiza kumira mbere yo gusomana ngo ugabanye amacanshwe mu kanwa.

GUSOMANA KW'ICYUGU(The Iguana Kiss)

Ni ugusomana n'umuntu ufite iminwa yumye ku buryo umusoma igushwaratura. Birakwiye gutegura iminwa no kuyoroshya mu buryo bushobotse nko gusigaho ka vaseline.

Usanga usomana ururimi rwamunaniye kurucunga ku buryo arujombagura mu kanwa k'umukunzi we nk'imashini idoda akaruzengurutsa hirya no hino mu kanwa..

GUSOMA MU BUVUMO(The Cave)

Umukunzi umwe aba yabumbuye umunwa we ku buryo ururimi rwawe ntaho ruhurira n'umubiri wo mu kanwa ku buryo wagira ngo urimo kwisoma. Icyo gihe imibiri ntikoranaho mu kanwa nta n'uburyohe buboneka.

GUSOMA UMUGABO UTIYITAHO(The Dirty Harry)

Ni ugusomana n'umugabo ufite ubwanwa bugufi buhanda, ugasanga nyuma yo gusomana umugore arimo kokerwa ku mubiri we woroshye. Birakwiye ko umugabo ategura imisaya ye nta hande umubiri w'umugore.

GUSOMA MU NKANKA(Trolling for Tonsils)

Hari abasomana bagakurayo ururimi rwose bakarugeza mu nkaka z'umukunzi ku buryo bamubuza guhumeka. Si byiza. Gabanya ururimi rwawe.Gusomana ni ukwishimisha.

GUSOMANA K'URUPFU(The Kiss of Death)

Uzi gusoma umuntu ugasanga mu kanwa ke hanuka nk'inyama ziboze! Oza mu menyo kandi ujye uhindura uburoso bw'amenyo buri mezi atatu.Ikindi ugomba kumenya ni uko abantu batanywa itabi badashimishwa no gusoma abarinywa. Irinde kurya ibiryo bigira impumuro ikomeye nk'ibitunguru mbere yo gusomana keretse ahari mwabisangiye. Irinde gusomana wasinze uzi neza ko uwo musomana mutasangiye! Buri gihe ugomba gukora ibishimisha mugenzi wawe. Iyo atishimye nta byishimo aguha.

Gusomana kwiza ni uko umuntu yibuka na nyuma yo kubikora. Gusomana ni uburyo bwo kwerura ibyo utakwatuza amagambo nko kumubwira uti"ndagukunda, uramuke,mpora ngutekereza." Itegereze uko umukunzi wawe amerewe igihe murimo gusomana ugire ibyo uhindura ukurikije uko ubona amerewe.

Amayobera y'Urukundo

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1.URUKUNDO NO KUBENGUKA

Hari igihe umuntu areba undi akumva aramubengutse.Agahita abyitiranya n'urukundo.Kwinjira mu rukundo ngo ni uko uhise umubenguka wenda kubera isura ye cyangwa imyambarire bishobora kuguhuma amaso ugategereza ku mukunzi wawe no ku urukundo rwanyu ibidashobora kuboneka.
Ushobora guhita ubona ni mushakana izaba ari paradizo,ugatangira gufata nk'ikigirwamana umukunzi wawe, ntiwite ku bibazo byo kuba muhuje uko mubona isi n'imigambi.(idini,umuco,umutungo,n'ibindi),bikaguhuma amaso n'ibitekerezo,bigatuma udashishoza neza ngo urebe ejo hazaza.

2.URUKUNDO NO KURABUKWA

Niba umuntu akurabutswe si ukuvuga ko agukunda.Urukundo rusumba kurabukwa.Twese turarabuka cyangwa tukarabukwa ariko ntaho bihuriye n'urukundo.Iyo umukobwa akunyuzeho ugahindukira ukamureba, ntibivuga urukundo.

3.URUKUNDO,AMAGAMBO N'IBIKORWA

Amagambo y'urukundo yonyine ntagaragaza urukundo. Ntukibeshye ubonye kanaka akunze kukuvugisha amagambo y'urukundo n'umutima mwiza. Amareshyamugeni si yo amutunga.Urukundo nya rukundo uzarusanga mu bikorwa.

4.TURI UMWE ARIKO TURATANDUKANYE

Ni ibanga rikomeye.Abashakanye ni umubiri umwe.Nyamara buri muntu ari ukwe kandi yigenga mu mitekerereze n'imikorere.Muramutse mwigenze cyane byasa n'aho ari abantu babiri bahujwe gusa n'ipfundo ry'inzu,mwegeranye cyane umwe yaburira mu wundi.Urukundo nyarwo rwubahiriza ibi bintu.Ugomba kumenya ko umukunzi wawe atari photocopy yawe ukamenya ko mutagomba gutekereza kimwe kuri byose 100% kandi byaramuka bibaye ukamenya kwihangana no kumurekera uburenganzira nk'umuntu ku giti cye.

5.URUKUNDO NO KUBABARIRANA

Kubabarirana biragoye, cyane cyane iyo ibyaha ari byinshi kandi bibabaje umutima nyamara ariko ni ngombwa, hatabayeho kubabarirana nta kubaka urugo byabaho nta n'urukundo rwabaho.Kubabarirana ni ukwemera ko undi ashobora kugwa mu makosa nk'uko nawe ushobora kuyagwamo.Nyamara abakundana benshi ntibemera kubabarirana ni ba Hishamunda, ba Vurihoze.

6.URUKUNDO:KUNANIRWA GUKUNDA

Hari abantu bajya bananirwa gukunda. Wanabakunda bakumva bidashoboka, kuko baba batarabyigeze mu buzima bwabo. Kunda umwana wawe. Nawe azamenya gukundana. Ntawe utanga icyo adafite.Abantu benshi bakiri abana barahutajwe ku buryo nta rukundo bigeze.

Intambwe 13 zo Gusomana Neza

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Ku muntu utarasomana ho na rimwe yumva gusomana bigoye. Ariko kandi ni byo. Gusoma umugore, umukobwa cyangwa umuhungu bwa mbere ntibyoroshe. Kubibona mu mashusho biroroshye ariko kubishyira mu bikorwa ni ikindi kibazo. Iyi nkuru irakugezaho uburyo wakwitwara mu buryo bwo gusomana.

1.Ntabwo ugomba gusoma umukunzi wawe gusa ari uko mugiye guhuza igitsina. Gusomana bigomba gukorwa buri gihe nk'ikimenyetso cy'urukundo mufitanye.

2.Kugira ngo utigora mu gusomana, wikwishyiramo ibitekerezo byinshi byo gusomana nka kanaka wabonye cyangwa wumvise. Soma umukunzi wawe mu buryo busanzwe kandi bworoshye umwereka ko umukunze.

3.Mbere y'uko usoma umukunzi wawe cyangwa undi muntu ugomba kumenya niba abishaka. Ushobora kubimusaba cyangwa ukareba ibimenyetso byerekana ko agushaka nko kuba arimo kukwegera cyane cyangwa akumwenyurira k'uburyo ubona ko agukunze.

4.Ntugatamira umunwa wose w'umukunzi wawe. Abagore ntibakunda umuntu ubasoma ku buryo iminwa itoha cyane.

5.Ntugakomeze iminwa yawe. Jya ureka iminwa yorohe. Ntugafunge iminwa yawe. Ugusoma agomba kumva iminwa yawe yoroshye, yirekuye kandi ishimishije, imutegereje.

6.Abagore benshi bakunze gusomwa banakorwa mu misatsi. Ntukibagirwe gukora mu misatsi y'umugore wawe cyangwa undi mukunzi.

7.Ntabwo ari ngombwa ko ukoresha ururimi kugira ngo gusomana biryohe. Gusomana kwinshi kuryoha ntigukoresha ururimi. Gukoresha ururimi(French Kiss) biraryoha ariko iyo umuntu abisobanukiwe neza. Niba utabisobanukiwe, byihorere gusomesha iminwa biraryoha na byo.

8.Iyo umaze kumenyerana n'umukunzi wawe ushobora kugerageza uburyo bwo gusomana bwabashimisha.

9.Ntugasuzugure gusomana. Ni ubryo bwo kuvuga ibyo udashobora kwatuza amagambo! Kumubwira ko umukunda kandi ko wifuza ko muba umwe. Abagabo benshi babona ko gusomana ari inzira ifite aho ibaganisha-ku gitsina. Ni byiza kubaha gusoma ukabikora ubikunze, iyo umugore abibonye ashobora kugusaba ko mujya mu yindi ntera.

10.Ni byiza gusomana uhumirije.Ushobora gutangira gusomana ureba ariko iyo iminwa imaze gukoranaho ni byiza gufunga amaso kuko bituma wibagirwa byose ugatekereza gusa ku gikorwa cyo gusomana. Abantu bakunze kuvuga ko niba umugabo arimo kugusoma areba ataba akwitayeho. Ni byo. Nuramuka urimo gusomana n'umuntu ukabona arakanuye uzamenye ko utamuba mu mutima!

11.Mbese urashaka ko agusoma? Mwegere. Umusekere, umurebe mu maso aho kureba hirya cyangwa hasi. Wikwipfumbata ahubwo irekure. Ugomba kwerekana ibimenyetso by'uko ushaka ko agusoma .Ku bagore, niba wifuza ko umugabo agusoma ugomba kwicara umwegereye kandi umureba. Niba muhagaze ntugomba kumutera umugongo. Ahubwo uramwegera ukamureba mu maso! Ushobora kumusaba ko agufungira neza iherena cyangwa akurebera niba urunigi rwawe rufunze neza! Kugira ngo abikore bisaba ko akuzengurutsa amaboko icyo gihe uhita umureba mu maso uteretse amaso ukamuhamagara mu izina n'akajwi koroshye. Ntiyabura kugusoma.

12.Gusomana n'igitsina. Iyo musomanye cyane hari igihe muba mwumva mushatse kujya ku yindi ntera. Si byiza ko mujya mu yindi ntera mutabyiteguye kubera ingaruka ziterwa no guhuza ibitsina bitateguwe. Ni byiza guhitamo gusomanira ahantu byatuma mudashobora guhuza ibitsina nko mu busitani bwa rusange cyangwa muri film. Gusomana mwicaye ku buriri akenshi bivamo guhuza igitsina.

13.Gira isuku! Ugomba koza mu kanwa kandi ukaba uhumura neza!

Amategeko y'Urukundo

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1.GUSHYIRA KU MUNZANI

Ni byiza kumenya ko ubwoko bumwe bw'urukundo budahagije,ukamenya kuvanga amoko y'urukundo mu gihe cya ngombwa kuko icyo ubwoko bumwe bukora ubundi butagishobora.

2.NTA RURABO RUTOHA RUTUHIWE

Nta kizere ko niba urushinze uyu munsi,uzaruhorana. Kubaka urugo ntibinaniranye hagoye kurugumana. Ingo nyinshi muri iki gihe ntizitinda gusenyuka. Urukundo ni rwo nkingi y'Urugo Ruhire. Ariko urukundo ni nk'ururabo kandi ntirutoha rutuhiwe. Kugira ngo wubake urugo ruhire ugomba kureba niba mu rukundo mukundana harimo intege nke ukagerageza gukosora ahagoramye hakiri kare ugifite uburyo,amazi atararenga inkombe.

Bimwe mu Bimenyetso Bigaragaza ko Imibanire y'Abashakanye ari Mizima

-kuba mushobora kuba inshuti nziza nk'uko mushobora kuba abakunzi

-kuba buri umwe wese ashishikajwe no kuba umukunzi mwiza aho guhora ahatanira guhindura undi. Ugomba kubanza kwitokora mbere y'uko utokora uwo mubana

-ibibazo bigwiriye urugo bigomba kubabera amahirwe yo gukomeza ahajegajega mu mibanire yanyu aho gutangira kwitana bamwana.

-kuganira mubwizanya ukuri, mwaba muvuga ibyo mutumvikanaho, mu mujinya n'akababaro, ndetse no mu gihe muganira inkuru nziza munashimana

-urukundo rugaragarira mu bikorwa ndetse no mu mvugo, n'uburyo umuntu ahinduramo mo ijwi.

-kwiga gukundana ni umwuga ukomeye mu buzima.Ku bemera, Imana, yo Rukundo, ni ngombwa muri uwo mwuga.

Kurambagiza-Igihe Kiza Cyo Gutandukana

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Gutandukana n'uwo mwarambagizanaga n'indi ntangiriro mu buzima. Ubyigiraho byinshi, bikazakurinda amakosa ubutaha. Bikwigisha gukemura ibibazo, kwihanganira kudakundwa, kwihangana mu agahinda ko gutandukana.

KURAMBAGIZA:IBIMENYETSO BIGARAGAZA KO IMIBANIRE IGEZE AHARINDIMUKA.

1.Amahane akomeye n'amatiku y'urudaca

Nta zibana zidakomanya amahembe, ariko iyo iminsi y'amahane n'intonganya iruse iy'amahoro n'urukundo n'ubwumvikane hari ikiba kitagenda neza mu mibanire. Iyo ibibazo bidashira,ahubwo bikongera umurego,kandi bikarushaho kuvuna umutima uko iminsi igenda ihita,ushatse wakwitegereza imibanire yanyu ukanareba niba ubuzima nk'ubwo ari bwo uhisemo. Ibyo byose ni ibimenyetso byerekana ko mutiteguye kwinjira mu mibanire itoroshye yo kubakana urugo.

2.Kubabazanya mu mubiri no mu mutwe

Guhemukirana birimo -kurwana,
-gusebanya,
-gutarangana, -kubeshyerana,
-guhora mugerekanaho amakosa,
-kurambagiza abandi,ibi byose byerekana ko mutiteguye kubana.

Ubonye ibimenyetso nk'ibi ni byiza guhagarika umubano.

3.Kutumvikana ku bintu bya ngombwa mu ubuzima

-Hari ubwo umwe aba yikundira ubuzima bwo mu cyaro,
undi yaribengukiye ubwo mu mujyi,
-umwe yemera imana cyane undi atekereza ko bibiliya ari imigani,
-umwe atekereza ko abana benshi ari amaboko, undi yishakira kuzabyara umwana umwe rukumbi,
-umwe yarize i Ruhande,undi yarize ikigoroba,
-umwe se yari umwami,undi se yari umugaragu.

Uru si urwenya ndimo, ibi ugomba kubitekerezaho cyane kuko abantu nk'aba kubana birabagora.Muri bwa burindagire bwo kurebana akana ko mujisho no guturana ibisigo byose biba ari munange,ariko iyo igihu gitamurutse ibyo maze kuvuga nibyo byigaragarira gusa.

Ni ho uzasanga umugabo yita umugore inkandagirabitabo,umugore abwira umugabo ati"ni iwacu tugutunze".Ni ibyo kwitonderwa rero, agapfa kaburiwe ni impongo.Urukundo rushobora gusiba utunogo duto,ariko ntirushobora gukoreshwa ibigaragara ko bidashoboka.

4.Gukenerana cyane birenze urugero

Gukenerana ni byiza,abakundana baba bakeneranye. Ariko hari ubwo birenza urugero,ugasanga umuntu arashaka ko umuhora iruhande, waba hari aho utarabukiye,akibwira ko umutaye wagiye kwishakira abandi, wagaruka akakubaza impigi n'akayiziritseho,agashaka ko umubwira intambwe n'iyindi aho wagiye, uwo mwahuye n'icyo mwavuganye. Uru ni urukundo rwuzuye ishyari n'ubwoba. Iyo murambagizanya ukabona ibi bimenyetso ntuzibeshye ngo urakunzwe, ahubwo uzabe witegura amahane mu buzima bwawe.Kuko umuntu nk'uyu uramukunda bikaba iby'ubusa akaba ntamunoza,umutima we ntiwigera wemera ko umukunda by'ukuri.

5.Kunanirwa no kuganira

Hari igihe mu irambagiza, muba muri kumwe ariko kuganira bikananirana,mugatinyana,mukagirirana amasoni menshi,mugafatana nk'aho umwe ari mu biro by'undi cyangwa muri abanyamahanga,ntimwisange, mukumva mutisanganaho. Mu by'ukuri ubwo niko biba bimeze. Uko umuntu yitekereza mu mutima we ni ko aba ari. Ntabwo umwe aba yisanga ku wundi. Indirimbo z'ubukwe zishobora guhishaho gato ibyo bibazo, ari ko ubukwe bwahumuza induru zigatangira iwanyu

6.Kutavugirwamo

Hari ubwo usanga mutihanganirana,mutavirana ku izima, buri umwe wese yitwara nk'umwami kuri mugenzi we.Iki n'ikimenyetso ko imibanire itazaba myiza.

KURAMBAGIZA:UBURYO BWO GUTANDUKANA

Abantu benshi bakunze kubona imibanire yabo mu kurambagiza ari mibi bakagira ubwoba bwo gutandukana batekereza ko ibintu bizaba byiza nubwo ibimenyetso byaba bigaragaza ko nta mahirwe ahari. Abenshi banga gutandukana kubera ko baba banga
-kubabaza uwo bigeze gukundana,
-ubwoba bwo kwitwa umwana mubi,
-gutinya gusigara bonyine.

Amakosa Abantu Bajya Bakora mu Gutandukana

-kwiburisha ntibazongere guhura n'umukunzi wabo

-kongera amahane n'akajagari,kugira ngo bahuhure umubano

-kwitana bamwana

Uburyo Bwiza Bwo Gutandukana

-Mubwize ukuri kandi uvugane umutima mwiza

-Wimutungura:ngo nimuhura umubwire uti"singushaka,sinkigukeneye nta cyo umaze".

Ahubwo

-shaka ahantu heza,hiherereye n'igihe cyiza ,
-wemere amakosa yawe mu mi banire yanyu,
-umushimire ibyiza wamubonyeho,
-usige umuhaye agaciro azaheraho akomeza ubuzima bwe.

-Irinde kumuha impamvu zo kumusenya:nko kuvuga ngo"ndifuza ko umvira mu buzima nkikundanira n'abandi"

-Irinde technique za cyana kandi z'ubugoryi:

*nko kumurundaho ibyaha byose,ukigira umwere;
*kumusebya muri rubanda no kumena amabanga mwari mufitanye,
*kumutera ubwoba ko wamugirira nabi,
*no kumubwira ko uziyahura,
*kumwandikira amabaruwa atukura n'ibindi .

-Irinde kwigirira
impuhwe:niba umubano wawe nawe uhagaze ntibivuga ko ubuzima buhagaze,ahubwo iga impamvu uwo mubano uhagaze uzagerageze gukosora amakosa mu yindi mibano uzagira.

Umujinya mu Rugo

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Ababana bajya bageraho barakara.Kumenya kwitwara kuri mugenzi wawe yarakaye ni ngombwa kuko bigaragaza niba mushobora kubana.

Umujinya si ikimenyetso cy'umutima mubi cyangwa agasuzuguro,ahubwo iyo umuntu arakaye nuko hari ikiba kitagenda,aba arimo gutabaza,iyo umuntu yarakaye aba arimo gusaba imfashanyo.Ni igihe cyo kumwegera no gusubiza ibimuteye akababaro.Umujinya ni ikimenyetso cy'urukundo,ikimenyetso ko urukundo rudashobora kwihanganira akajagari.Ahatari urukundo iyo ibibazo bivutse umuntu aterera agati mu ryinyo,akigira nyirantibindeba,ati"bijye iyo byakagiye n'ubundi ntaho byaganaga".

Nubwo warakara ugomba gucunga umujinya wawe, ukawukoresha igihe gikwiye.Ntugomba kureka ngo ukugumemo utawugaragaje,kuko byakugwa nabi ku buzima,ushobora guhisha umujinya wawe,ariko uba ukurimo nta ho uba ugiye,ntunagomba kuwusuka ku muntu uko wakabaye, kuko hari ubwo utagera ku byo washakaga.Gufatira ibyemezo mu mujinya bishobora kwangiza byinshi ugasanga uremye ibibazo biruta ibyo wendaga gukemura .
Ugomba kwemera uruhare ufite mu bibazo biriho

-Ugomba kwirinda gufatira ibyemezo mu mujinya

-Ugomba gutekereza ku ngaruka z'umujinya wawe.

-Hangana n'ikibazo aho guhangana na nyiracyo,ibi bituma ufite ikibazo yitegura kukirangiza

-Wivanga ibibazo, ngo uzikure n'ibyahise.Hangana n'ikibazo kimwe gishire n'ikivaho uzane ikindi, n'aho ubundi bihinduka induru z'urudaca

-Icishe bugufi nturi miseke igoroye,nibigaragara ko ubifitemo uruhare ubyemere.

-menya kubabarira,wemere ko undi ashobora gukora amakosa nk'uko ushobora kuyakora

-Cunga ururimi rwawe!Irinde gukoresha amagambo asebanya,atukana kuko byavamo indwano

-Shakisha uburyo wanagamo urwenya ku buryo mwaseka nubwo mwaba mwatonganaga

-Ibuka ko uwo mutongana ari umukunzi wawe,wirinda kumukomeretsa aho uzi ko hajya hamubabaza cyane.Wibuke ko uri umurinzi we kandi akazi kawe ari ako kumunezeza no gukora ibishoboka byose ngo yishime.Ibuka ko n'izi ntonganya ari izo kubaka atari izo gusenya

-Gerageza kuzimya umuriro,ushobora kumwegera,ukamufata mu nda,ukamusoma,akakuririraho n'ibindi.

Menya Kuganiriza Umugabo Wawe

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Nta zibana zidakomanya amahembe.Ushobora kuba ukeneye kuganiriza umugabo wawe ku bitagenda neza mu rugo.Dore uburyo bwiza bwo kubikora:

1.Hitamo Igihe Gikwiye

Niba ushaka kugira icyo ubwira umugabo wawe, nk'ibibazo mufitanye n'ibindi, ugomba guhitamo igihe cyiza ashobora kuba yakumva kandi akagusubiza atuje,nka nyuma y'ifunguro rya nimugoroba,mugeze mu igitanda,mumaze kuzimya amatara.
Igihe kibi ni iminota 60 ya mbere avuye ku kazi.Umugabo aba agifite stress avanye ku kazi,si byiza ko wahita umwakiriza ibibazo mufitanye,urugo rwagombye kuba ubuhungiro bw'ibibazo avanye ku kazi.

2.Hitamo Ahantu Heza

Guhitamo ahantu heza,kure y'abana, y'ibibazo na stress zo mu rugo ni byiza kurusha. Urugero mugiye nko ku nkengero z'umugezi cyangwa ikiyaga,hejuru y'umusozi n'ahandi hashimishije.

3.Uburyo bwo Kuganira

Irinde kwereka umugabo wawe ko ariwe munyamakosa.Iyo utangiye nabi utuma ahita yumva ashatse kwirwanaho no koza izina rye.Niko abantu turemye.Irinde kumushyira muri icyo gihe.Icyo ugamije ni ukumubwira ibikubabaje si ukumuhindura uwananiranye.Niba hari amakosa mugomba kuyaganiraho mu urukundo n'ubwumvikane aho kwigira umwere umwe ku wundi.
Ushobora guhagarika ibiganiro niba ubona atashye nabi kubera ibibazo avanye ku kazi, cyangwa niba ubona muri rusange ibiganiro bitagenda neza kubera ingorane zihariye zabagwiriye nko kwibwa,uburwayi,kubura akazi n'ibindi.

Icyo ugomba kumenya, nta muntu ushobra kurangiza ibibazo by'undi.Abantu tugira intege nke, turarakara, turi abanyamafuti, nawe kandi nturi umugore w'umumalaika.Kubaka urugo ni ukubahana ni ukwihanganirana tukamenya ko tutuzuye tukababarirana muri byose.

Uburyo Intambara zo Mu Rugo Zirangiramo

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1.kumwihorera

umuntu yanga intonganya,akicecekera,ntagire icyo abaza kandi ababaye.Ibi bimutera agahinda akakicarana.Ikibazo ntikiba kivuyeho.Baba bicariye ikirunga

2.kumvikana

Aha barumvikana.Buri umwe wese akemera kugira icyo atakaza ngo amahoro atahe. Ni uburyo bwiza bwo kurangiza intambara

3.Kwirinda kuzamura ikibazo.

Umuntu abona ikibazo gitungutse akicecekera,nta kivugeho,akakigizayo.Akamera nk'uwihebye,nk'uwabivuyemo ibyo kurwanira urugo

4.Kumwumvisha ku gahato

Ni umuntu w'intavugirwamo, uba ushaka kuvuga rikijyana.Iyo umuteye amahane agufatira ibyemezo,akagufungira amazi n'umuriro,ukabura epfo na ruguru,ukemera ibye ku gatuza utumva utabona.Ubu ni uburyo bubi bwo kurangiza intambara.Intambara zo mu rugo si nk'iza politiki.Ntizirangira ku gahato,ahubwo uba ubibye inzika utazakira.

5.Gutuza

Intambara irangira bateye amahane,wenda banarwanye, hari n'ibyo bangije,bamaze gutuza ,nta mujinya,ku buryo buri umwe areba aho amakosa ye ari akemera kuyakosora.

Intandaro y'Ibibazo mu Ngo

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1.IMIHINDUKIRE Y'UBUZIMA

Iyo umugabo amaze gushaka bishobora kumugora iyo abona atakigenga mu buzima bwe ngo akore ibyo yifuza nk'uko yabikoraga akiri wenyine. Iyo ashatse gufata ibyemezo wenyine ari kumwe n'umugore nk'uko yabiteganyaga,agasanga agomba gufatana ibyemezo n'umugore mu buryo bwa demokarasi yarateganyaga kubifata nk'umwami,akaza gusanga ahubwo umuntu ari nk'undi,umugore amusaba kubahiriza uburenganzira bwe, umugabo yumva bimugoye akenshi agahitamo kwishaririza.N'abagabo bo mu bihugu byateye imbere bubahiriza uburenganzira bw' abagore ntibakora na 1/2 cy'imirimo yo mu rugo n'ubwo umugore yaba akora umunsi wose umurimo ahemberwa.

2.IBIBAZO BITERWA N'AMAFARANGA

Amahane menshi yo mu rugo aturuka ku buryo amafaranga agomba gukoreshwa mu rugo. Amafaranga ni kimwe mu bya mbere gikunze gutera akajagari mu bashakanye ariko iyo bigeze mu madeni n'uburyo bwo kuyishyura biba agahomamunwa. Abashakanye n'abakundana benshi bakunze gutandukana biturutse ku mahane aturuka ku mafaranga n'imitungo.Iyo urukundo rurangiye amagara aba aterewe hejuru, buri munta asama aye, mu kirundi ho bavuga ko iyo amavya aterewe hejuru buri muntu asama gwiwe

3.IBIBAZO BITERWA N'ABANA

Abana bagaragaza intege nke mu rukundo rw'abashakanye.Iyo abashakanye bari basanzwe batitanaho mbere yo kubyara,iyo babyaye bihumira ku mirari kuko urukundo rwose rw'umugore rwigira ku bana uwo mwashakanye ntabe akimwitayeho.Mu by'ukuri urugo rugomba kuba rwari rusanzwe rukomeye mbere y'uko abana baza kurukomeza kurushaho.Ni muri iki gihe umugabo abwira umugore ati"hindukira"umugore ati "ndimo guha umwana ibere". Birumvikana si bibi guha umwana ibere, ariko abakundana bitanyeho bashaka umwanya mwiza ubakwiriye ku buryo barangura amabanga y'abashakanye nta nkomyi.Mu by'ukuri urwitwazo rwo guha umwana ibere ni ikimenyetso cy'umugore udafite icyo yitayeho k'umugabo.

4.IBIBAZO BISHINGIYE KU IDINI

Imyemerere y'umuntu igira akamaro mu buzima bwe kandi benshi bakomeye ku madini yabo cyane ku buryo icyahungabanya cyangwa kigapfobya imyemerere yabo batacyemera mu buzima bwabo kabone n'aho ibyo byaba bikorwa n'umukunzi. Hari igihe kudahuza amadini bizana akajagari, cyangwa umwe yaba atemera cyane nk'undi mu idini rimwe bikaba ikibazo.Hari n'ubwo padiri,pasiteri cyangwa shehe yakugira inama zo gutandukana n'uwo mwari kumwe kuko mudahuje ku idini.Ubu nandika iyi nkuru mu rugo rw'umuturanyi biracika umugore yarahukanye kuko yanze gusengera mu idini ry'umugabo akeka ko imyemerere yabo irimo shitani.Umugabo nawe yaranangiye ngo niba umugore adasengera mu idini rye ibyiza ni uko yaba asubiye iwabo kugeza ubwo amwubahiye.Nyamara hashize imyaka myinshi babana.

5.IBIBAZO BITURUKA KU GUHUZA IBITSINA

Nigeze kujya mu rubanza rwo kunga umugore n'umugabo.Umugore arega avuga ko umugabo ntacyo amumariye mu buryo bwo guhuza ibitsina.Abari aho twaratangaye ko umugore atinyutse kumena ibanga nk'iryo ryo mu rugo. Ariko uwo mugore yabonye ko
isoni zirisha uburozi ahitamo kuvugira icyo kibazo mu bandi bagore n'abagabo. Gusa iyi nkuru iragaragaza ko kutamenya guhuza ibitsina,kutamenya ibishimisha mugenzi wawe mu rwego rwo guhuza ibitsina,ubujiji na za tabou zishyirwa ku guhuza ibitsina, bishobora gutuma abashakanye badashimishanya bikwiye muri urwo rwego bityo bikaba byasenya urugo. Mu ngo nyinshi habonekamo ibibazo bishingiye ku igitsina no guhuza ibitsina.Abenshi binjira mu mubano wo gukundana no kubaka urugo batarahuza igitsina(ari isugi) bityo ntibaba bazi iyo biva n'iyo bijya keretse hari inkuru zidafudutse baba barumvise mu rungano cyangwa muri film.Iby'igitsina nubwo bisa naho bikwiriye hose biherekezwan'isoni n'ikimwaro kandi n'aho kubyigira mu cyubahiro ntihagwiriye.Akenshi mu guhuza ibitsina abantu barihimbira bakagenda bigishwa n'amakosa.

Mu ngo nyinshi usanga abashakanye bijujuta ko umwe nta cyo iby'igitsina bimubwiye,undi ati "ntazi nuko babikora".

Hari igihe kunanirwa,uburwayi,ibibazo mu rugo n'ibindi bituma abashakanye batita ku guhuza ibitsina.

Birumvikana igitsina ntigisimbura urukundo,kuganira n'ibindi,ariko kigomba kwitabwaho.

Ubwoko bw'Amahane

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Mu rugo habamo intambara. Uburyo bwiza bwo kuzitsinda si ukuzihunga ahubwo ni ukuzirwana no kuzitsinda.Iyo uhunze intambara yo mu rugo ukayirengagiza, nta gahunda uba ufite yo kubaka urugo.Mu by'ukuri uba uvuga yuko imibanire yanyu ntacyo imaze, ko nta n'icyo urwanira, ko nta cyo uharanira. Ko ari uguhomera iyonkeje.Ariko iyo uvuye hasi ugafata intwaro zose zabugenewe ugahangana n'intambara uba uhamya y'uko utahara urugo rwawe kandi ko ugomba kurutabara byanze bikunze.Ikibazo n'uko uba urwana n'umukunzi wawe.Ariko muba mugomba kurwana,kamere y'ingo ni ko ibitegeka!Kubaka urugo si umukino, niho uzumva bavuga ngo zirara zishya bwacya zikazima.Ni ukuvuga ko mu ngo habamo ibibazo ariko ko abazubatse batitaranga ngo bishyire ku musozi,ahubwo bagerageza gukemura ibibazo byabo bonyine n'inshuti za hafi iyo bibaye ngombwa.

1.Amahane afite Ishingiro

Ni amahane afite ishingiro,aturutse ku kibazo kigaragara.Urugero nko kuba umugabo ari umusinzi ahora arara mu kabari.

2.Amahane Adafite Ishingiro

Ni amahane ashingiye mu bitekerezo bidafite ishingiro bivanze n'umujinya.Ugasanga umuntu arimo gutera undi ubwoba amuhora ibyaha n'amakosa atari yo,ashingiye ku mabwire.Urugero nko kwishyiramo umugabo cyangwa umugore ngo arasambana nta n'umunsi numwe uramubonana iyo ngeso, ahubwo wenda umuhora ko ku kazi akorana n'abagore cyangwa n'abagabo

3.Amahane Yeruye

Ni amahane abantu batera babwizanya ukuri kwibyabaye,aho byabereye, banatekereza uburyo bwo gukemura ibibazo mu kuri batabeshyanya

4.Amahane ateruye

Ni amahane abantu batera batabwiranye ko bafitanye ikibazo,ahubwo bagaterana imijugujugu,bacengana, bahimana,bagirirana nabi mu buryo bunyuranye,ariko ntiberure ngo bashyire ahagaragara icyo bapfa nubwo buri umwe aba akizi cyangwa agikeka mu mutima we.

5.Amahane ya Kazarusenya

Ni amahane akomoka ku bintu abashakanye bananiwe no kumvikanaho kandi by'ingirakamaro mu mibereho y'urugo.Amahane nk'aya akunze gusenya urugo

6.Amahane yoroshye

Ni amahane asnzwe y'ubuzima busanzwe abantu bakunze kugirana.Akenshi akunze kurangira.

7.Amahane akomoka k'umuntu umwe n'Akomoka kuri Bombi

Amahane akomoka k'umuntu umwe arangira ari uko nyiri ikibazo yemeye kugikemura.Urugero:kugabanya ubusinzi no kurara mu gasozi.
Amahane muhuriyeho arangira ari uko mwese mwiyemeje kwisubiraho.Niba mutavaga ku izima,mugomba kwiga kumvikana,mukamenya guharirana.

Menya Umugore Wawe Icyo Ari Cyo

2011-07-21T12:29:00.000-07:00

Umugabo akura agaciro ke mu kuba ikirangirire ku kazi.

-Yumva akomeye iyo ageze ku byo yiyemeje gukora,
-kuba yitunze ntawe asaba,
-kwiga no kumenya umwuga mu buzima uzamutungira umuryango,
-kuba umugenzuzi w'abandi,
-kuba bosi,
-gukundwa no gushimwa n'abandi ku kazi cyangwa mu bucuruzi.

Umugabo ufite ibi ntaba akeneye gushimwa n'umugore ngo akunde yumve ko afite agaciro.Birumvikana ko umugore amufitiye akamaro nk'umukunzi we ndetse na mugenzi we wa buri munsi,ariko agaciro ke nk'umugabo ntigakomoka k'umugore gakomoka ahandi.

Ibi maze kuvuga haruguru ni ukuri k'umugabo,ariko si ukuri k'umugore wirirwa mu rugo.Kuko umugore we nta bundi buryo ajya abona bwo kumushima no kumuha agaciro.Abagabo bumva bafite agaciro iyo bubashywe,abagore bumva bafite agaciro iyo bakunzwe.Kandi uru rukundo nta wundi rwakomokaho usibye k'umugabo.

ABAGORE BAKENERA URUKUNDO RW'UKURI

Urukundo rw'urumamo rubabaza umugore cyane.Umugore aba ashaka urukundo rw'ukuri,ntaba akeneye umubeshya ngo aramukunda.Abagore baba bifuza gukundwa n'abagabo babo nk'imboni z'ijisho,umutima w'umugabo ntugire ahandi uterera atari kuri bo.Umugabo akabakunda,akabubaha,akabitaho kandi akabiberekana urukundo n'impuhwe.

Niyo mpamvu agatima k'umugore gahora k'umugabo,umugore akirirwa ategerezanije ibyishimo ko umugabo ataha avuye ku umurimo.Niyo mpamvu umugore atajya yibagirwa urya munsi mwasezeraniyeho,ni yo mpamvu umugore yirirwa akubuza gusoma ibitabo n'ibinyamakuru,aba agira ngo umurebe umukunde.

Ushobora kuba umugabo mwiza muri byose,ukita ku rugo rwawe n'ibindi,ariko iyo umugore akeka ko nta urukundo umufitiye uba uvomera mu urutete.Inzu nziza,intebe n'ameza by'agahebuze ntibyubaka agaciro k'umugore,ariko urukundo rw'ukuri rutuza umutima w'umugore wawe.

Kubaka Urugo ni Ukuganira

2011-07-21T12:28:00.000-07:00

Kimwe mu bituma mu ngo habonekamo ibibazo ni ukunanirwa no kuganira.

Uko amaraso afitiye ubuzima agaciro kanini ni nako kuganira bimemereye urukundo

-ni byiza kumenya kuvuga ibikuri ku mutima ukamenya no kumva ibyo undi avuga kandi ukabyitaho ukanereka uwo muganira ko ushishikajwe no kumwumva. Nibwo buryo bwonyine bwo kubaka urukundo no gukemura ibibazo.

-akenshi ibibazo bikunze kudakemuka kubera ko umwe mu bashakanye ashaka kuvuga wenyine no kumvwa ntiyite ku bisubizo n'ibitekerezo by'undi

-kutita ku by'undi avuga biterwa n'uko

-undi aba arangaye,atitaye ku wundi
-kuba atemera ibyo abwirwa
-kuba afite umujinya

INZITIZI ZO KUGANIRA

1.akenshi usanga umwe mu bashakanye adashaka kuvuga kuko aba afite ubwoba ko navuga undi amwakira nabi,bityo akicecekera ngo yirinde amahane

2.hari ubwo umuntu aba afite agahinda n'ibibazo ku buryo ananirwa kubishyira mu magambo.Umutima wuzuye amaganya ntusobanura amagambo.

3.hari abagabo batamenya kuganira n'abagore bagashimishwa no kubatesha agaciro imbere y'abandi bantu

4.hari abatava ku izima. Nubwo baganira bakaba bashaka ko ari bo bumvwa gusa

5.hari abayoberwa bagahitamo kwicecekera,bikabyara inzika n'urwango bishobora kuzasenya urugo umunsi ugeze.

6.guhitamo mu bivugwa utegereje kumva ibyo ushaka cyangwa kurwanya ibyo udashaka

KUMENYA KURWANA INTAMBARA ZO MU RUGO

-Mu ntambara zo mu rugo ugomba kumenya gusaba ukamenya no gutanga,ugomba kumenya kuvuga ukamenya no kumva

-mu ntambara zo mu rugo ugomba kwirinda ubugome n'ubugizi bwa nabi,gutukana no gusebanya,kwibutsa ibya kera byababaje.

-ugomba kwihatira kurangiza ibibazo mu maguru mashya, ukirinda ko bihinduka amatiku n'inzigo

-ugomba gusaba ibishobora gutangwa ukirinda amabwire n'ibitekerezo uhawe n'umujinya

Inkingi zo Kubaka Urugo Ruhire

2011-07-21T12:27:00.001-07:00

1.Urugo Ruhire ni Ukwerekana ko Witaye kuri Mugenzi wawe

Kwerekana ko witaye kuri mugenzi wawe mu magambo no mu bikorwa.Kumushima yakoze neza,kumubabarira yakosheje,kumufata akaboko atsikiye. Urukundo ntirushira,ahubwo abantu barekeraho kwitanaho umwe akabona undi nk'aho ari aho kandi azagumaho nubwo yaba atitaweho.Ibi biroga urukundo,rukagenda ruyonga.

Ibitera Ibura ry'Urukundo

-hari abantu batigeze bakundwa batazi uko bakunda abandi
-kwikunda,umuntu akifuza kwishakira inyungu ze cyane kurusha kwita kuri mugenzi we.
-guhora ugaya abandi,wumva nta cyiza bakora,ugahora ubakosora,ugahora wigira nyirandabizi
-gukunda utagukunda.Hari igihe ukunda umuntu ukabona atagusubiza,ugacika intege.Urukundo rukarangirira aho.

2.Urugo Ruhire ni Ugufata Igihe cyo Kuba Hamwe

Rimwe na rimwe abashakanye ntibabona igihe cyo kuba hamwe.Usanga bafite imirimo itandukanye itabemerera kugira akanya ko kuba hamwe no kwegerana.Ni ngombwa ko abashakanye babona umwanya wo kuba hamwe.

3.Urugo Ruhire ni Ukumenya Guhangana n'Intambara zo mu Rugo

Intambara zo mu rugo ni uburyo bwo gukemura ibibazo iyo zirwanywe neza.Ingo zizasenyuka zirengagiza ibibazo n'intambara.

4.Urugo Ruhire ni Ukumenya Kuganira

Kubaka urgo ni ukumenya kuganira.Kumenya kuvuga no kumenya kumva.Uko amaraso ari ingirakamaro mu mubiri ni nako kuganira bimeze ku rukundo.

5.Urugo Ruhire ni Ukwemera Kumwe mu Muryango

Abashakanye bahuje ukwemera, bafite intego imwe mu buzima, babona ibintu kimwe bakunze kubana neza.Ukwemera kurabahuza kukabafasha kurwubaka.

Impamvu Umugore Ahura n'Ibibazo mu Rugo

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1.Umugore Kumva nta Agaciro Afite

Gutekereza ko nta muntu ugukunda, ushobora kumva ibibazo byawe, ngo akwiteho.

-Kwibaza impamvu utazi gukora ibyo abandi bakora mu buryo buboroheye.

-Imirimo yagenewe abagore mu muco nyarwanda n 'ahandi akenshi usanga ari imirimo isuzuguritse , ibi byose bituma umugore ubwe yumva yisuzuguye.

Umuti ni uko abagabo bagomba kwereka abagore babo urukundo kandi bakabitaho kugira ngo abagore bumve bafite agaciro kandi hari icyo bamaze.

2.Umugore Arananirwa Akabura Umwanya wo Kuruhuka

Iyo imirimo ibaye myinshi ku buryo imwe idatunganywa neza,bituma abagore benshi bumva ntacyo bamaze imbere y'abagabo babo.

3.Umugore Akenera uwo yatura Akababaro ke

Abantu benshi cyane cyane abagore bakunze kwihanganira ibibazo iyo bazi ko hari umuntu ubari hafi kandi ushobora kubibafashamo.Imvune zo kurera abana bato, n'imiruho ya buri munsi yo mu rugo nko guteka,gufura imyenda,isuku yo mu rugo,guhaha mu isoko n'ibindi byose bishobora koroha no kwihanganirwa n'umugore,iyo umugabo yeretse umugore ko amwumva,ko niba hari ibyo atatunganije neza atari ubushake bwe.

Iyo umugabo yumvise umugore byihanganisha umugore bigatuma agira intege zo gukomeza gukora iyo mirimo nubwo bwose iba igoye bwose.

Buri muntu wese aba akeneye gushimwa no kumva ko afite agaciro mu bandi.Abagabo bashimwa iyo bazamuwe mu mirimo,iyo bongerewe umushahara cyangwa iyo umukoresha ku kazi abashimye ko bakoze neza umurimo bashinzwe. Umugore wo mu rugo nawe aba agomba gushimwa n'umugabo uburyo abana bakeye cyangwa uburyo amasahane asukuye.

Nyamara abagabo benshi ibi ntibabikangwa usanga badashima abagore,ahubwo bagatangazwa n'impamvu umugore ahora ananiwe kandi afite umunabi.

Amoko 5 y'Urukundo

2011-07-21T12:24:00.000-07:00

1. Gusenga uwo Ukunda (Cyangwa Urukundo rw’impumyi)

Ubu bwoko bw’urukundo ni bwa bundi usanga uwo ukunda umushyira hejuru cyane ukamukura mu buzima busanzwe ukamufata nk’ikigirwamana, ugasa nk’umusenga. Amakosa ye n’intege nke ze ntubibona cyangwa ukabirenza ingohe ubireba kugira ngo ukomeze umukunde .

Urukundo nk’uru nirwo bita “urukundo rw’impumyi”. Bene uru rukundo ntirutinda kurangira. Iyo ikigirwamana (ni ukuvuga wa muntu uba ufatwa kuburyo budasanzwe) gushyirwa hejuru no gusengwa cyangwa amafuti ye n’intege nke ze bitangiye kugaragarira umuyoboke we, urukundo rurarangira.

2. Urukundo Rwica

Bene uru rukundo usanga abakundana nta kindi bakora usibye gukundana gusa. Uru ni rumwe bavuga rutwara “umuntu uruhu n’uruhande”, urukundo rushaka kwikubira no kwiharira umukunzi, rugira ishyari (gufuha) rikabije kuko abakundana baba bumva nta bundi buzima bubaho usibye ubwo gukunda. Aha ukunda agira icyizere gike cy’uko yaba adakundwa ari nako ishyari rimwotsa mu mutima agahora atekereza ko yatenguhwa n’umukunzi we.

Uru rukundo ntiruba rukomeye kuko usanga abarukundana iyo bari mu bihe byabo baba bameze nk’abari mu ijuru ariko iyo baramutse banganye bakangana urunuka.

Gusa ariko, hari igihe bananirwa kwangana bakongera bakiyunga. Aba bantu usanga ari ba bandi bahora bifuza ‘ gusohoka muri gereza y’urukundo’, rwarabatwaye uruhu n’uruhande ariko babisohokamo bakumva nta cyabarutira rwa rukundo rubatera ishyari rimwe na rimwe n’agahinda.

3. Urukundo Rwikunda

Iki gice ni cyo usanga mo ukunda akunda undi atamukunze by’ukuri ahubwo amushakamo inyugu zinyuranye, harimo nko gushaka kuryamana nawe, amafaranga cyangwa icyubahiro. Abantu nk’aba bakunda gukunda abantu benshi icyarimwe, bose bababeshya ko babakunda

4. Urukundo rw’Ubucuti

Uru ni urukundo rw’ubatse ku kwizererana, gukemurirana ibibazo, kubana no gushaka uburyo abakundana bakubaka ubuzima buzarama. Uru rukundo ntirugerageza kwikubira umukunzi no kwegerana birenze. Ikindi kandi bene uru rukundo rubona amakosa rukayihanganira cyangwa rukayakosora, ibi bituma abarukundana bashobora kwihanganirana mu bihe bikomeye.

5. Urukundo rwo Kwitanga

Uru rwitangira umukunzi, ukunda ariyibagirwa, akareba gusa igishimisha umukunzi we mu nyungu ze. Abakunda uru rukundo iyo habaye ibibazo nibo bishyiraho ibyaha byose bakanigerekaho imitwaro yose, bakumva ko aribo banyamakosa bagomba guhinduka. Bene aba bantu ntibaba bashaka ko undi yireba ngo nawe abe yahinduka.

Muri mpa nguhe y’urukundo ngo batanga byinshi bakakira bike bityo bakemera kuryamirwa ngo urukundo rutangirika.

Uru rukundo ni urwo kwitonderwa kuko abarukundana hari ubwo barukoresha bashaka gutegesha abandi urukundo rwabo, ndetse rimwe na rimwe babona batabigeraho bikabaviramo kuruvamo no kwanga bikomeye uwo bakundanaga.

Ibimenyetso 18 Bishobora kugaragagaza ko Umukunzi Wawe Asigaye Aguca Inyuma

2011-07-21T12:21:00.000-07:00

Abantu bamaze igihe bakundana, baba basigaye baziranye ku buryo umwe iyo yahindutse gato, undi (niba abyitayeho) ashobora guhita abibona.

Ubundi umugabo n’umugore baba basa n’aho ari umuntu umwe, yaba ari mu buryo bufatika, yaba ari mu mitekerereze n’ibindi; ibi ariko bigahinduka iyo umwe muri bo atangiye kugira ka kageso ko guca mugenzi we inyuma.

Bimwe mu bimenyetso bishobora kukwereka ko umukunzi wawe asigaye aguca inyuma:

1. Niba umukunzi wawe atangiye kugira umuco wo kuguca inyuma, akenshi uzasanga muri telefoni ye yatangiye kugenda ashyiramo code (akajambo k’ibanga) ku buryo nta wundi muntu ushobora gusoma message zirimo cyangwa kureba uwamuhamagaye. Aha rero aba asa n’utangiye kwikeka, ko ibyo arimo gukora bizamenyekana.

2. Ikindi rero, ni ukuntu aba asigaye kenshi asa n’aho kwitaba telefoni ahantu hari abandi bantu cyane cyane umukunzi we bimugoye. Usanga kenshi ajya kwitabira hanze, muri douche, agatinda kuri telefoni,..

3. Ashobora no kugaragaza ibimenyetso nko kuba usigaye umuhamagara kenshi ntakwitabe kandi ubizi ko nta nama cyangwa akazi kenshi afite muri iyo minsi.

4. Atangira kandi gufungura izindi emails udasanzwe uzi, niba hari n’iyo wari usanzwe uzi na password yayo agerageza kuyihindura kugira ngo hatazagira icyo ubona muri mails ze.

5. Ahandi ushobora kurebera n’iyo nk’umwe mu bakundana usanga iyo undi yamaraga amasaha nibura nk’abiri nta telefoni y’umukunzi we iramugeraho, wasangaga byamubabaje cyane, ariko ubu ukaba usanga yamuhamagara, atamuhamagara byose bisa n’aho ari kimwe, ibyo nabyo byerekana ko wa mwanya yamuhaga ubu hari undi asigaye yarawuhariye ku buryo bisa n’aho ntacyo bimutwaye cyane yaba abonetse cyangwa atabonetse.

6. Atangira kukwita akandi kazina k'urukundo utari usanzwe umenyereye, Har igihe aba arimo kukwitiranya n'undi mukunzi we

7. Ku bantu bashishoza cyane, ushobora kumva umuhumuro wa parfum(cyane cyane ku bagabo) utandukanye n’ uwo usanzwe umuziho.

8. Hari n’igihe akenshi cyane cyane ku bantu bashakanye usanga niba mwari mumenyereye ko nibura mutera akabariro nka gatatu mu cyumweru, ugasanga n’ibyumweru bibiri bishize ntacyo mwibwira, ukabona rwose ntabyitayeho cyane,… nabyo bishobora kukwereka ko asigaye afite ahandi ahugira ku buryo rwose atakibishidukira cyane.

9. Ikindi niba hari umwanya yajyaga agenera urugo ubu arasa n’utakiwufite, za mission z’akazi za hato na hato, week end akazi karakomeza, kageza ninjoro, …

10. Amafaranga yinjiraga mu rugo atangira kugabanuka ku buryo bugaragara; niba musanzwe mufite uburyo bwo guhana amakuru ku byerekeranye n’ikoreshwa ry’amafaranga yanyu mwembi birahagarara

11. Usanga kandi atangira guhindura imico, ukabona arasa n’aho ari umuntu mushya utari uwo usanzwe uzi.

12. Nta hantu agishaka ko mujyana, kandi mbere yarishimiraga cyane kugendana nawe, agufashe ukuboko.

13. Usanga kandi atangira kugenda asa n’utagishishikajwe n’ibyo mu rugo; niba mwubatse mufitanye n’abana, ibyo kwita ku masabukuru yabo no kuba ari mu rugo mu munsi mukuru wabo ugasanga byaragabanutse.

14. Inshuti zanyu mwembi, zitangira kugenda zikwishisha, wenda kuko zizi uburyo aguca inyuma ariko zikabura uko zikubwira ngo zitarusenya…

15. Usanga kenshi abo bantu baca inyuma abakunzi babo batishimira na gato kumva ibiganiro bijyanye n’abagabo/abagore baca inyuma abafasha babo, ahubwo ugasanga arimo kubaburanira cyane,…

16. Aha kandi usanga akenshi asigaye akunda gutinda kuri computer cyane wagiye kuryama, akenshi kubera ko yahanye gahunda n’undi ngo bahurire kuri chat.

17. Kenshi muri telefoni ye uzasanga ari telefoni zamuhamagaye ari izo we yahamagaye, ari ubutumwa yabonye n’ubwo yohereje byose abisiba, ku buryo ushobora kwibaza niba iyo telefoni ikoreshwa bikakuyobera.

18. Ikindi kandi ni uko akenshi usanga asa n’utakishimiye cyane ko umwerekana mu bantu b’inshuti zawe, niba umusabye ko hari aho mujyana agatangira kukubaza ibibazo byinshi.

Intambwe 7 Mu Kubona Umukobwa Mukundana

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Ni gute wabona umukobwa mukundana

1. Ntuzigere wishyiramo ko uri gushaka umukobwa mukundana

Igihe wishyizemo ko uri gushaka umukobwa mukundana, uzatungurwa no kubona utari kumubona mu gihe wihaye. Ibaze nawe umukobwa wese ubonye ukabona arakunyuze umusabye gukundana nawe! Biroroshye cyane ko yahita akeka ko ufite akabazo mu mitekerereze, bityo bikamworohera kuguhakanira.

Ugomba kwishyiramo ko ukeneye kugirana umubano n’ abantu muri rusange, cyane ab’ igitsina gore. Wabona umukobwa wumva wishimiye ukamwegera nk’ inshuti isanzwe ukamwimenyereza, ukamwereka ko nta bintu birebire bikugenza bitari ubucuti busanzwe. Ibi bigabanya ukwigunga, bikanakongerera amahirwe yo kubona umukobwa mukundana. Mu kurushaho kumwitaho no kumuba hafi ni naho urukundo ruzabazamukamo mwembi ubundi mukaba mwaba inshuti .

2. Iyo muganira, ni byiza ko uyobora aho kuyoborwa

Ntabwo ari byiza ku muhungu gukundana n’ umukobwa kuko ari we wabishatse. Ahubwo ni wowe muhungu wihitiramo. Igihe muganira rero ujye ugerageza kuyobora ibyo muganira, ariko nyine nta terabwoba. Ibi kandi ukabikora ku buryo bitagaragarira buri wese ko ushaka kuyobora ibiganiro. Nk’ umuhungu uba ugomba kwereka umukunzi wawe ko uzamwuzuza, bishatse kuvuga ko uzamukorera byinshi atakwishoboza. Aho rero uba ugomba guhera ku biganiro kuko ariyo gahunda iba ibahuje muri icyo gihe. Muri make ntutume yicwa n’ irungu nk’ aho ibiganiro byabuze.

3. Irinde kuba wenyine

Ntabwo uzabona umukobwa mukundana kandi nta n’uwo muganira bisanzwe ufite. Menya inshuti zawe kandi ugerageze kubana nazo mu gihe cyo kwishima. Aha ndavuga nko gusohokana, gukinana, gutemberana, gusurana n’ ibindi. Ugomba kandi kumenya inshuti z’ umuntu wumva uri gukunda ubundi ukagenda umenyana nazo byanashoboka mukagira gahunda muhuriramo. Urugero niba abakobwa bagendana bakunda koga, nawe ugafata ifatabuguzi kuri piscine aho bogera. Icyo gihe nawe muzamenyana ubundi umubano usanzwe ube watangiye.

Niba kandi ushaka ko umuntu runaka muzakundana mu bihe biri imbere, ni byiza ko umuha e-mail yawe, nimero zatelefone, na facebook yawe ku buryo igihe cyose yagushaka atakubura.

4. Saba umukobwa wifuza ko mukundana ko mwasohokana

Burya ntabwo wamenya niba umuntu yaguhakanira gusangira nawe icyo kunywa igihe atarabikwibwirira. Kandi si kenshi umuntu yakwangira ko musangira. Ni byiza rero ko usaba umuntu uri kwiyumvamo ko mwasangira icyo kunywa cyangwa kuko bituma ubona umwanya wo kumwereka icyo ushoboye. Niba wumva bishobora kukugora kubimubwira amaso ku maso, ushobora kumwoherereza nk’ aka sms, cyangwa ukamuhamagara kuri telefone cyangwa se ukamwoherereza e – mail.

5. Menya neza umukobwa wifuza uwo ari we

Igihe wumva ko umukobwa muzakundana igihe kirekire, ni byiza ko uzitonda cyane mu guhitamo. Menya neza ibintu bya ngombwa umukobwa muzakundana agomba kuba afite ubundi nubibona ubone kumushaka no kumusaba urukundo.

Hari abahungu bazi uburyo bashobora gukurura umukobwa byihuse bahuriye nko mu kabyiniro, ubundi bwacya umwe agaca ukwe undi ukwe.

6. Sohokana n’ abakobwa batandukanye kugira ngo umenye neza uwo ukeneye

Umuhungu wese ugerageje gusohokana abakobwa batandukanye usanga akubwira ko uwo yabonaga mbere ko ari we akeneye, mu by’ ukuri atari we. Ikosa abantu benshi bakora ni ukwihuta cyane mu gushaka inshuti bitewe n’ uko batajya bashobora gutereta. Ibi bituma benshi bahita bafata uje mbere bitewe no kwanga kuguma ari bonyine.

Nuhitamo nabi uzabaho ubabaye cyane kurusha uko wari kuba umeze iyo uba nta muntu ufite.

Umumaro nyamukuru umugore aba amaze mu buzima bw’ umugabo ni ugutuma yishima kurusha uko yari ameze mbere y’ uko amubona. Ibi rero bivuze ko igihe ataguha ibyo byishimo atari umugore ugukwiye.

7. Jya ujya ahantu hatandukanye uhure n’ abantu bashya

Burya mu buzima iyo ugiye ahantu henshi, uhura n’ abantu benshi, bamwe ugahita ubibagirwa abandi bakaba inshuti za hafi, abandi bakaba inshuti zisanzwe, hari abo mukorana business hari n’ ababa abakobwa b’ inshuti.

Ibi kandi ntibivuze ko uzashaka guhura n’ abantu ubona mwagirana umubano wazavamo wenda urukundo. Ushobora guhura n’ umukecuru akakugeza ku mukobwa we cyangwa se umwuzukuru we.

Ushobora no guhura n’ abagore bakakugeza ku nshuti zabo z’ abakobwa cyangwa se abavandimwe babo ushobora kuzakuramo umukobwa mukundana.

Ibintu 11 Bituma Abagore Bakurura Abagabo

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1. Guseka

Abagabo benshi bakururwa n’inseko; inseko nziza rero ikaba ari kimwe mu bimenyetso abagore bifashisha kugira ngo bakurure abagabo ikabafasha kubiyegereza mu bitekererezo.

2. Imiterere y’umugore cyangwa umukobwa

Uko umugore abumbye n’uko ateye bikurura abasore cyangwa abagabo ; aha ni ukuvuga isura ye yo mu maso, uburyo umubiri we uteye ndetse n’ingano ye. Iyi miterere ishobora gutuma umugabo atera intambwe ya mbere asanga umukobwa, imitereye y’umubiri we iyo ije yiyongera ku mutima mwiza uwo mukobwa cyangwa se umugore afite biba mahwi.

3. Ijwi

Ijwi ry’umugore rifite uburyo rikurura abagabo. Iyo ari ijwi ryoroshye, avuga yenda nko kurira, harimo ikintu gisa n’impuhwe ngo niyo amaze kuvugana n’umugabo usanga rya jwi rimugaruka mu bitekerezo akumva arashaka gusubira mu kiganiro bagiranye.

4. Indoro

Indoro yonyine ivuga amagambo arenze igihumbi ; iyo noneho igamije gukurura umuntu badahuje igitsina biba ibindi bindi. Amaso cyangwa indoro bishora gutuma umugabo ahita akunda umukobwa ataniriwe areba indi miterere y’umubiri we

5. Imisatsi miremire

Imisatsi miremire myiza nayo ni kimwe mu bintu abagabo bakundira abagore. Imisatsi kandi igaragaza ubwiza bw’umugore.

6. Uruhu ryoroshye, indeshyo n’iminwa

Iyo umukobwa afite uruhu rwiza ryoroshye, iminwa myiza ndetse n’indeshyo umusore yakunze ngo bidatinze uwo mukobwa ashora guhita yigarurira uwo musore kuko ngo aba yamaze ku mushyira mu cyiciro cy’abakobwa beza kandi bakururura abagabo.

7. Ubutoya

Muri iyi si ya none abagabo bakururwa n’abakobwa bafite urubavu ruto, atari ukunanuka cyane na none kandi atari munini cyane.

8. Umutima mwiza

Iyo umukobwa agira umutima mwiza, usanga ahanini anasetsa bigatuma gukurura ibitekerezo by’abagabo bimworohera kuko abagabo benshi baba bashaka kuruhuka mu mutwe iyo babonye umuntu ubaganiriza neza akagerageza no kubasetsa bahita bamwiyumvamo rwose.

9. Ubwenge

Ubwiza bwiyongera ku bwenge ni ikintu abagabo barebaho cyane kuko burya iyo umukobwa ari mwiza ariko mu mutwe nta kigenda biba bipfuye imbere y’umugabo. Iyo rero umukobwa abifite byombi biramworohera gukurura kuburyo bworoshye abagabo.

10. Ubwigenge

Ku bagabo umukobwa cyangwa umugore ushobora kwifatira icyemezo adatekereza undi umuntu uza kumubwira uko abigenza barabikunda cyane.

11. Ubunyangamugayo no kugaragaza urukundo

Ku bagabo kugira ngo inzira zijyanye n’urukundo zigende neza ahanini areba uburyo umukobwa cyangwa se umugore yifata n’uburyo agaragaza ; ibi bikiyongera ku buryo uwo mugore aba yakira abantu baza bamugana bituma abona ko azamukunda, akamwubaha kandi akanamubwiza ukuri.

Inama 12 Zagufasha Gukurura Abantu

2011-07-21T12:18:00.000-07:00

1.Indoro

Gerageza kureba mu buryo umuntu atabona ko ufite ubwoba cyangwa igihunga. Irinde guhumbaguza no kureba hirya no hino nk’aho hari ikintu urimo gushaka. Reba neza witonze. Indoro iri mu bintu bikurura abantu benshi yaba abakobwa cyangwa abahungu abagore cyangwa se abagabo.

2.Imvugo

Iirinde kuvugira hejuru, kuvuga wiruka cyangwa ucuranwa amagambo. Vuga witonze, ukoreshe ijwi rituje kabone n’iyo waba ugeze mu bintu biteye ubwoba cyangwa byagukuye umutima. Ugomba kugerageza ukiyoroshya, ukavuga neza, kuko ni byo bizatuma abantu bose bashaka kukumva, bakagukunda, bagakunda n’ibyo uvuga ; mbese ukagenda ubakurura gahoro gahoro kubera kuryoherwa n’ijwi ryawe.

3.Kwiyitaho

Ugomba guhora wita ku isura yawe. Niba uri umukobwa, menya kwisiga amavuta ajyanye n’uruhu rwawe, nawe mugabo umenye niba mu maso hawe hakeye, niba hatarimo umwera, cyangwa se ngo habe hayagirana. Ikindi, reba imyambaro wambaye niba yatuma abantu bakwitaho. Aha icyo ugomba kumenya ni uko bashobora kukwitaho kubera amabara wambaye, kubera uburyo ikubereye mbese ijyanye n’imiterere yawe cyangwa bakakwitaho kubera uburyo ari imyenda idasanzwe kandi igezweho.

4.Ingendo cyangwa intambuko

Ingendo iri mu bintu bikurura abantu ndetse ikanatuma bakwitaho by’umwihariko. Ingendo yawe yigire umwihariko. Ingendo yawe igomba kugendana n'uburyo wambaye. Uburyo utambukamo wambaye ijipo sibwo buryo uzagendamo wambaye ijeans.

5.Kumenya kubana n’abantu

Burya ubwiza bw’inyuma bushobora kugufasha gukurura abantu ariko ikintu cyiza kurushaho ni ukuba ufite bwa bwiza ariko ukaba uzi no kubana n’abantu, uzi kuganira kandi ukamenya kuganira na buri muntu bitewe n’urwego arimo. Jya usabana n’abantu b’ingeri zose bizagufasha nta kabuza.

6. Ubwiza

Bushobora kuba ari ubw’umugabo cyangwa ubw’umugore. Ubwiza bw’umukobwa butuma abantu bamwitaho, wabishaka cyangwa utabishaka. Ugomba rero kumenya ko ubwiza wavukanye budahagije, ahubwo ugashyiraho akawe usiga umubiri ndetse ukanawambika ibintu bituma abantu bakwitaho kurushaho. Ugomba kugerageza gushaka itandukaniro n’abandi bari, niba uri umugore ukagerageza ukisiga mu buryo butandukanye n’ubw’abandi .

7. Imyambarire

Imyambarire ni kimwe mu bintu bifasha ingaragu cyangwa abantu batarashaka gutereta cyangwa gukurura abo badahuje ibitsina. Icyo usabwa gukora ni uko ugomba kureba imyenda myiza kandi bibaye byiza yaba umwihariko wawe, ugashaka imyenda cyangwa inkweto bidakunda kwambarwa n’abantu benshi. Rimwe na rimwe hari igihe uzabona umukobwa yambaye ipantaro y’abagabo cyangwa yambaye umwambaro utagendanye n’igihe ukeke ko yibeshye cyangwa yakoze ibyo atazi, nyamara hari ubwo aba yabikoze ku bushake kugira ngo abantu bamwiteho bamwitegereze. Gusa ugomba kwirinda kwambara amabara atagaragara cyangwa yijimye cyane.

8. Imivugire

Ijwi ryawe n’uburyo uvuga hamwe n’amagambo ukoresha biri mu bintu bikurura abantu cyane. Aha bisahatse kuvuga ko iyo ufite ijwi ukaba uzi no kurikoresha neza bituma ukurura abantu benshi.

Uburyo umuntu asubiza ibyo bamubajije, ibimenyetso ukoresha ndetse n’izindi ndimi ukoresha mu biganiro byose bigufasha gukurura abantu benshi.

9. Gusabana

Gusabana cyangwa kumenya kubana n’abantu bose bituma umuhungu cyangwa se umukobwa akurura abantu benshi. By’umwihariko ku mukobwa ho ni ikintu cyiza cyane. Niba rero ujya wumva bavuga ngo urasabana ubwo nawe uhite wishyira mu mubare w’abantu bakurura abantu benshi. Uburyo wegera abantu , uko ubaganiriza ubatega amatwi , ubakemurira ibibazo biri mu bintu bikurura abantu benshi ndetse burya utuma hari n’abagenda bagutekerezaho.

10. Kuryoshya ibiganiro

Iyo uri umuntu uryoshya ibiganiro ukurura abantu benshi cyane, kabone n’iyo waba utari mwiza mu buranga. Ibi bituma iyo uvuga buri wese aba yifuza kugera aho uri bityo ukigwizaho umubare munini w’abaryoherwa n’ibyo uvuga ariko nako bamwe bagenda barushaho kugutekerezaho.

Umuntu rero uzi kuryoshya ibiganiro akenshi no gutereta biramworohera kuko bitamuvuna kwiyegereza uwo yakunze cyane ko benshi baba baza bakurikiye ibiganiro bye nawe akaboneraho.

11. Kumenya kuvugira kuri telefone

Telefone ni imwe mu ntwaro zifashishwa mu gukurura abantu . Hariho umuntu uba uzi kuvugira kuri telefone ku buryo atuma uwo bavugana atarambirwa cyangwa abantu bagahora bifuza kumuhamagara kugira ngo biyumvire uburyo avugamo. Ibi rero bisaba kuba uzi kwishyira mu mahoro, ubundi ukavuga witonze.

12. Kumenya ubwenge

Iyo uri umuntu w’umuhanga kandi uzi ubwenge ni ibintu bituma ukurura abantu kuko baba bizeye ko ibyo ukora n’ibyo uvuga ubizi kandi byuzuye amagambo y’ubwenge. Ikindi kandi baba bumva ibikorwa byawe birimo ubwenge kandi ari byiza. Ibi bituma bamwe hari abaza kukuvomamo ubwenge, maze ukigirira inshuti utyo.

Ibintu 7 Wakora Bikereka Umukunzi Wawe ko Umwitayeho

2011-07-21T12:13:00.000-07:00

1. Gerageza guhamagara umukunzi wawe mu gitondo ukangutse (ku batarashakana) umubaze uko yaramutse, umubaze gahunda ye y’uwo munsi, umubwire ko umukunda kandi ko akurutira abandi bose.

2.Jya wereka umukunzi wawe inshuti zawe, ugaragaze ko umwishimiye kandi ko atagutera ikimwaro cyo kugendana nawe.

3.Gerageza gusa nk’uw’iyibagirwa. Gushimisha umukunzi wawe ntukabikore ufite icyo ugamije kindi kitari ugutuma yishima. Ntukabikore kugira ngo abandi bakurebe cyangwa se usa n’aho utegereje igihembo.

4.Jya unyuzamo utungure umukunzi umuha impano zoroheje ariko zifite icyo zisobanuye: umujyane mu bitaramo, muri za karaoke aho uziko bacuranga uturirimbo tw’urukundo dufite n’icyo tubibutsa mwembi.

Umusohokane ahantu uziko akunda nibura rimwe mu mezi nk’abiri, kabone n’iyo wowe waba utahakunda ye.

5.Jya unyuzamo umuzanire indabo mu rugo, bitari gusa ku munsi we w’amavuko(anniversaire), ku munsi w’abakundanye(Saint Valentin) cyangwa indi minsi ifite ibisobanuro byihariye mu buzima bwe .

6.Rimwe na rimwe jya ugerageza gutetesha umukunzi wawe, nubona ananiwe umusabe ko wamukorera ka massage bitari ibya buri gihe wamumenyereje. Ariko umutungure umunsi umwe umubwire ko wifuza kumufasha kuruhuka, nimuba mwicaye muri salon murimo kwirebera television, umukore mu musatsi, umwoze ibirenge niba aje ananiwe, umubwire umwenda umubera cyane wifuza ko yazambara ejo unawumuterere ipasi.

7.Niba mwicaranye muri mwenyine shaka CD, iriho indirimbo z’urukundo uziko akunda uzimushyiriremo, muzumvane. Ni byiza cyane kwibuka iyo mwumvaga ku munsi wa mbere akwemerera urukundo.

Uburyo 5 Bwo Kwitwaramo Usohokanye n'Umukobwa Ubwa Mbere

2011-07-21T12:05:00.000-07:00

Hari gihe ushobora kuba uri umusore mwiza ariko ikintu cyo gutereta cyarakwihishe ndetse utajya unamenya uburyo wakwitwara mu gihe wasohokanye inkumi. Ugasanga niba umusohakanye rimwe ntazemere ko musubirayo kubera uburyo wabyitwayemo.

1. Ugomba kureka umukobwa akihitiramo ahantu ashaka gusohokera

Ni byiza ko mu gihe ugiye gusohokana umukobwa bwa mbere umuha amahirwe cyangwa se umwanya wo kwihitiramo ahantu heza yumva haza kumunyura mu gihe muba muri kuganira. Nutamuha umwanya rero ngo nawe yihitiremo aho ashaka, ashobora kutanyurwa dore ko ngo abagore cyangwa abakobwa baba bazi guhitamo ahantu hari buze gutuma baryoherwa n’ikiganiro. Urumva ko utabikoze intambwe ya mbere yaba yamaze kugutsinda.

2. Mu gihe muganira mureke nawe agire icyo avuga

Hari abasore basohokana abakobwa bakiharira ijambo nkaho barimo gutanga isomo cyangwa ikiganiro. Niba wa sohokanye umukobwa urimo gutereta ugomba kugerageza nawe ukamuha umwanya mu kiganiro akumva ko muri kumwe. Mu gihe bitabaye ibyo uzatuma arambirwa vuba ndetse n’ibyo urimo kuvuga nta gaciro azabiha.

3 . Ugomba kumuhanga amaso

Abasore benshi ntibazi kureba mu maso h’abakobwa batereta cyangwa barimo gutereta. Usanga ahubwo barimo guhuzagurika bareba hirya no hino aho kureba uwo bari kumwe. Menya ko uri mu ntangiriro zo gutereta umukobwa ntaragukunda neza icyongeyeho ni nabwo bwa mbere umusohokanye, ubwo rero nutangira ku mwereka ikinyabupfura gike no guhuzagurika utamureba mu maso azatangira kubona ko nta kigenda cyawe.

4. Mubaze ikintu ari bufate

Niba mugeze ahantu mwasohokeye nko muri hoteli, akabari cyangwa se ahantu hari ubusitani bwiza reka umukobwa yisabire icyo ashaka aho gutangira kumusabira icyo afata. Ni byo koko ushobora kuba wumva ibyo umusabiye biryoshye cyangwa ari byo abantu benshi bakunda, ariko menya ko hari igihe wabikora gutyo ugasanga we ntabikunda na gato kandi kubera ko ari bwo bwa mbere mu sohokanye ashobora kugira isoni zo kuvugako ibyumusabiye atabikunda.

5. Gerageza umuhindurire mu biganiro

Nta mpamvu yo kwibanda ku kintu kimwe mu gihe urimo kuganiriza umuntu. Shaka ingingo zitandukanye umuganirizaho. Ikindi kandi nta n'impamvu yo gutinda ku kintu keretse iyo ubona icyo kiganiro cyamuryohoye. Aha ubibwirwa n’uko urimo kumureba mu maso, ukamenya uburyo arimo kwakira ibyo umubwira. Si byiza rero kumureka ngo abanze arambirwe ibyo urimo kuvuga.

Ibimenyetso 5 Bigaragaza ko Umukobwa Akureshya

2011-07-20T08:45:00.000-07:00

Umukobwa burya nawe arabenguka. Dore ibimenyetso bitanu bizakwereka ko yakubengutse

1. Agerageza kugusetsa no kugusekera

Umukobwa wagukunze ntiyifuza kukubona ubabaye n’umunsi n’umwe, bityo bigatuma yumva yakubwira amagambo agushimisha rimwe na rimwe akabikora kugira ngo akubone useka.

2. Agusaba ko musohokana

Mushobora kuba mwari inshuti zisanzwe, mukorana , mwigana se cyangwa hari ibindi bintu bibahuza , nyuma ukumva atangiye kujya agusaba ko mwasohoka mwenyine .

3. Ibimenyetso by’umubiri

Nubona umukubwa yinjiye ahantu uri akakwicira ijisho atavuze, akagukubita agashyi, akagukora mu mugongo ujye umenya ko hari ikintu kidasanzwe arimo kukwereka.

4. Azakubwira ko Akunda Imico Yawe

Umukobwa nakubwira ko yikundira imico yawe azaba akubwiye ko agukunda. Nibwo buryo bwe bwo kuvuga ko agukunda

5. Akugira Inama z'Ubuzima

Nuganira n’umukobwa wakubengutse uzajya wumva arimo kukugira inama z’ubuzima, akwereka icyo wakora kikakugirira akamaro n’icyo utagomba gukora. Ibi kandi ntabwo azabikora yabifatiye umwanya munini ahubwo azabikubwira igihe mu

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2011-07-01T04:42:00.000-07:00

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2011-07-01T04:41:00.000-07:00

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Ubushakashatsi:Urukundo Rukomoka mu Bwonko

2011-06-21T02:19:00.000-07:00

Ubushakashatsi bwakoze n'impuguke zo muri kaminuza ya Syracuse muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe z'Amerika zavumbuye ko urukundo rudaturuka ku mutima nk’uko bisanzwe bivugwa ahubwo ko ruva mu bice bimwe byo mu bwonko.

Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe n’itsinda ry’abahanga ryari riyobowe na Stephanie Ortigue bwagaragaje ko iyo umuntu akunze hari ibice bigera kuri 12 byo mu bwonko biba birimo gukora. Ibi bice ngo bisohora imisemburo ituma umuntu yishimira cyane uwo akunda. Iyi misemburo ngo ihita igira ingaruka ku myitwarire y’umuntu nk’uko abakoze ubu bushakashatsi bakomeza babivuga.

Ubu bushakashatsi kandi bwanagaragaje ko umuntu ashobora gukunda mu gihe gito cyane kingana na kimwe cya gatanu cy’isegonda gusa.

Abajijwe niba urukundo ruva mu mutwe cyangwa mu bwonko, umushakashatsi Ortigue yasubije ati:

“Icyo ni ikibazo gikomeye, ariko navuga ko [urukundo] ruva mu mutwe n’ubwo umutima nawo ubifitemo uruhare. Urukundo burya ni ikintu kigoye gusobanura kuko ari uruhererekane rw’ibintu biva mu bwonko bikagera mu mutima ndetse n’ibiva mu mutima bikagera mu bwonko”.

Akomeza agira ati: “Hari ibimenyetso bimwe, cyane amarangamutima, dukeka ko bikomoka mu mutima nyamara biba byavuye mu bwonko”.

Aba bashakashatsi kandi bavumbuye ko iyo umuntu yatwawe n’urukundo ngo aba ameze nk’umuntu wanyoye ikiyobyabwenge cya ‘Cocaine’.

Iri tsinda rivuga ko buri bwoko bw’urukundo rufite igice cy’ubwonko cyihariye ruvamo. Nk’urugero batanga, ngo urukundo umubyeyi akunda umwana ntiruva hamwe n’urukundo rw’umusore n’inkumi cyangwa urw’abakirisitu bakunda Imana.

Ikinyamakuru ‘Journal of sey-xual Medecine’ cyanditse iby’ubu bushakashatsi cyemeza ko ubu bushakashatsi bufite agaciro kanini cyane mu bijyanye n’ibyubuvuzi bw’ubwonko, indwara zo mu mutwe ndetse n’ihungabana. Ibi ngo bishobora kuzorohereza abaganga n’abahanga mu by’imibanire n’imitekerereze (Pshychologues) kuko bemeza ko ibibazo mu ngo byinshi byaba biterwa n’ihungabana rikomoka ku rukundo.

Ku bw’iki kinyamakuru, ngo bifashishije ubu bushakashatsi abavuzi bazajya babanza kureba igice cy’ubwonko cyateye urukundo kugira ngo bavure neza abarwayi bafite ibibazo batewe narwo.

“Niba umuntu yabashije kumenya impamvu umuntu akunda n’ikimutera kubabara, bizoroha kumuha umuti”, ibi ni ibivugwa na Stephanie Ortigue.

Impamvu 5 Zituma Umugabo Wawe Aguca Inyuma

2011-06-21T01:44:00.000-07:00

1. Umugabo atangira kumva urugo rwe rutamuhaza

Igihe kiragera umwanya munini w’umugore akawumara yita ku bana, bityo umugabo agatangira kwitabwaho gake gashoboka bigatuma yumva hari icyo abura, akumva rwa rukundo yahabwaga rwaragabanutse ndetse agatangira kumva atishimiye kuba mu rugo rwe.

2. Umugore aba atakiyitaho

Iyo umugore amaze igihe kinini ashatse ageraho akagabanya uburyo yiyitagaho, ni ukuvuga ko agabanya ibyo yisigaga, umusatsi ntabe akiwitaho nk’ibisanzwe n’ibindi yakoraga mbere akiri inkumi akabigabanya cyangwa akabihagarika burundu. Ibi rero bituma umugabo abonako umugore we ashaje ndetse anasa nabi bigatangira gutuma atangira gukururwa n’abakobwa bakiri bato kandi basa neza.

3. Umugabo arashaka guhindura cyangwa kuvanga

Iyo umugabo atangiye kurambirwa gukorera imibonano mu rugo aba atangiye no kumva arambiwe no kuyikorana n’umuntu umwe akumva yahindura cyangwa akavanga. Ikindi kandi akenshi abagore ntibaba bazi guhindurira abagabo babo iyo bari gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.

4. Ashobora kuba atarigeze kunda umugore we

Ibi biterwa ahanini n’uko hari abantu bashakana badakundana ahubwo bagahitamo kureba inyungu zabo ku giti cyabo cyangwa inyungu z’imiryango y’abo. Iyo rero bamaze kubana hari igihe umugabo atangira kumva umugore babana atari we bari bakwiye kubana bigatuma atangira kujya hanze kuko hari gihe aba yumva batahita batandukana ako kanya agahitamo kujya amuca inyuma ngo yishimishe.

5. Ingeso

Hari igihe umugabo aba nta kintu yabuze iwe mu rugo, ibintu byose bihari, umugore amufata neza yemwe no mu mibonano mpuzabitsina bigenda neza ariko ugasanga rimwe na rimwe atanyurwa n’ibyo umugore amukorera ahubwo ugasanga afite umutima wo kumuca inyuma no gushaka guheheta mu bandi bagore. Iyi ni ingeso aba yisanganiwe muri we.

Nakwitwara Nte Nyuma Yo Gutandukana n'Umukunzi Wanjye

2011-06-21T01:36:00.000-07:00

Abantu benshi bamaze guhura n’ikibazo cyo gutandukana cyangwa kwangwa n’uwari umukunzi bakabura uko babyitwaramo.

Iyo ukunda umuntu uba wumva ari uwawe ku buryo utajya ubasha no gutekereza ko mushobora gutandukana ntimwongere kuba hamwe.

Dore uko wakwitwara uramutse wanzwe n’uwo wari warihebeye.

1. Ganiriza Inshuti Zawe Ibyakubayeho: Reka kubihisha inshuti; menya ko niba ari ikibazo wagize ntawe bitabaho, ikindi kandi umenye ko atari icyaha wakoze.

2 Wicika Intege:Gumana n’inshuti n’umuryango wawe, wibatera umugongo kuko mbere y’uko uhura n’uwo muntu uguhemukiye wari ubafite.

3. Reka Kumva ko Ijuru Rikuguye Hejuru: Reka kumva ko niba ufite ibibazo ugomba kwiyibagirwa. Gukunda ni byiza kandi no kwangwa birababaza, ariko rero wikumva ko ijuru ryakuguyeho ngo we kwiyitaho. Niba wakundaga kwisiga bikomeze, niba ukunda kujya mu bitaramo ntihazagire ikibikubuza; niba wajyaga uryoherwa no gusohoka ukinywera kamwe n’inshuti zawe n’ubundi ubikomeze kuko ubuzima bwo bugomba gukomeza. Abakobwa bo bakunda kwambara bakajya kwireba mu ndorerwamo ko baberewe. Bikomeze rwose kandi ntiwibagirwe ko n’ubwo uwo muntu atakigukunda, utabura abandi bakureba kandi bakagushima.

4.Wihisha Agahinda Kawe- Wikibuza Kurira: Niba wumva ubabaye ukaba wifuza kurira ntihazagire ukubuza rwose. Kurira ni byiza kuko bigufasha kuruhura umutima, ukumva akababaro karashize.

5. Ni Ayahe Masomo Wabikuramo: Ese mu rukundo rwanyu n’ubwo rushize ni iki rwakwigishije? Ushobora no kuboneramo isomo ryagufasha kutazongera na rimwe kugwa muri izo ngorane ubutaha.

6. Wikwirengagiza akababaro kawe: Hari abantu benshi bishuka ko kwirengagiza ikibazo barimo ari byo bibafasha kumera neza. Nyamara uko ucyirengagiza niko noneho cyanga kikakuremerera. Niba ubabaye wibihisha, gusa wirinde kubikabya, ariko kandi ntukanihagarareho cyane bityo bizagufasha kubikira vuba usubire mu buzima bwawe busanzwe.

7. Tekereza noneho ku nyungu zawe nyuma yo gutandukana nawe: Wenda ahari birashoboka ko wari wararetse gusohokana n’inshuti zawe, kuki se utazigarukira? Wenda ahari birashoboka ko wari usigaye ubura umwanya wo gukora ibyo wari usanzwe ukunda, kuki se noneho utabikora ko wawubonye. Tekereza n’ibindi byose byagushimishaga wari wararetse kubera uwo ukunda, maze usubire uryoherwe n’ubuzima nka kera.

8. Igihe kirakiza: Nureba ukabona ibibazo byakubanye ingutu, jya wifatira umwanya ubyihorere amaherezo igihe kizagufasha kuruhuka uwo mutwaro.

9. Fata umwanya wo gutuza: Utekereze neza ibyo ubuzima bwawe.

Impamvu 6 Zituma Abantu Bifuza Gushinga Urugo

2011-06-21T00:52:00.000-07:00

Gushaka ni kimwe mu bintu byerekana urukundo ruba ruri hagati y’umugabo n’umugore cyangwa se umusore n’inkumi maze rukajya ku mugaragaro abantu bakabimenya. Mu masezerano y’ urukundo buri wese yemerera undi ko bazabana mu byiza no mu bibi, mu bukire no mu bukene, barwaye cyangwa se ari bazima. Abenshi banongeraho ko bazabana kugeza bapfuye. Ibi ubibonye cyangwa ubyumvise ushobora kugira ngo biroroshye, ariko ntabwo ari ibintu byoroshye kugirango abantu bazabashe kubana mu mahoro no mu munezero w’urugo kugeza bapfuye kuko harimo nabo binanira bagatandukana kandi bari babyiyemeje.

Dore zimwe mu mpamvu zituma abantu bashaka umugabo cyangwa umugore.

1. Gukunda no gushaka gukundwa

Abantu bakundana iyo batarabana cyangwa se batarashakana ntibishimira uburyo baba banyemo kuko bataba babana iminsi yose. Ikindi kandi banafata umwanya wo gutekereza uko abandi bababona; ibi rero bimarwa no kubana kuko ari bwo buri wese yumva akunzwe ndetse akanabyiyumvamo nta n’ikindi yikanga .

2.Gushaka umuketakano no kwitabwaho bihagije

Iyo umuntu ashatse aba yumva afite umutekano uhagije mu buryo bitandukanye. Abagore cyane cyane iyo barongowe baba bumva bacitse ibibazo byinshi kuko kenshi na kenshi iyo bakiri ingaragu bahura n’ibibazo byinshi bishingiye ku miterere yabo. Urugero: bashobora gukorerwa ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina cyangwa se bakumva ubuzima bwa gikobwa butabashimishije.

Izo mbogamizi zose rero zigatuma bakoresha uko bashoboye kugira ngo bashake maze babone umutekano.

Abagabo nabo baba bumva bashaka abantu babitaho bababaza amakuru, mbega babakorera ibyo bashaka byose. Ikindi kandi iyo umugabo abona hari umuntu umwereka ko amwitayeho. Ibi biramushimisha cyane.

3. Gushaka umutuzo n’umunezero

Umunezero n’umutuzo nabyo biri mu bintu bituma abantu bashaka kuko baba bumva bizatuma bishimira ubuzima.

4. Gushaka kugira umuryango

Iyo umuntu ataragira umuryango, ni ukuvuga umugore/umugabo uzwi mu mategeko n’abana, usanga yumva atubashywe kabone n’iyo yaba afite amafaranga menshi, akuze se cyangwa afite umwana ariko mu buryo butazwi. Buri gihe abayumva hari ikintu kibura akagerageza gushaka uburyo yakuzuza ibyo yumva akeneye byose birimo no kubahwa nk’umubyeyi cyangwa se umuntu ufite urugo.

5. Kwikura mu bwigunge

Abantu benshi iyo batarashaka baba bumva hari ukuntu baba mu bwigunge. Nk’iyo umuntu akora yava ku kazi akabura umuntu umwakira cyangwa n’umwakiriye ntamwakire nk’uko abyifuza ngo ahita yumva yigunze maze akumva yifuje kubana n’umuntu umukunda kandi umuhora hafi.

6.Kugabanya inshingano

Hari gihe umuntu yireba maze ngo agasanga afite ibintu byinshi agomba gukora, muri make afite inshingano nyinshi kandi agomba kuzuza. Iyo bimeze bityo rero atangira kubona ko atari ngombwa ko ibyo bintu byose yabyikorera ku mutwe we wenyine maze agahitamo gushaka umuntu uzajya umufasha akamutiza imbaraga yaba mu bitekerezo cyangwa bukungu

Ibibazo by'Amafaranga n'Urukundo

2011-06-21T00:41:00.000-07:00

Amafaranga ni kimwe mu bintu bijya bibangamira imibanire y’abantu bakundana. Turebere hamwe uburyo wakwitwara kugira ngo ibibazo by'amafaranga bitabangamira urukundo rwanyu.

1. Mugomba gukora urutonde rw’ibintu bitwara amafaranga

Niba ari umuryango w’umugore, umugabo n’abana bagomba kwicara bakareba ibikenewe mu gihe runaka. Ese abana bakeneye iki? Mu rugo se ni iki kibura? Ikiba gisigaye ni ukugabanya amafaranga bitewe n’ibikemewe cyane kurusha ibindi, aho kuyakoresha uko biboneye.

Iyo abantu benshi bahembwe usanga iyo baguze ibiryo mu rugo bumva bihagije; ubundi ntibarebe ibyo abana bakeneye n’ibindi bikenewe.Iyo ibyo birangiye asigaye bayokoresha uko bishakiye, ukwezi kukazajya gushira nta kintu basigaranye,maze umwiryane n’ubwumvikane buke bigatangira.

Ibi bishatse kuvuga ko ahanini umuryango ukoresha nabi amafaranga usanga nta mahoro awurangwamo, kuko baba bari mu buzima bubakomereye buri umwe yifuza ikintu kandi atari bupfe kukibona. Mu muryango nk’uwo abana ntibaba bavuga, kimwe n’ababyeyi babo, aho buri wese aba ashinja mugenzi we gukoresha amafaranga nabi.

2. Niba ugiye kugura ikintu, banza urebe ko ari cyo gikenewe koko.

Ikintu gikunda kumara amafaranga y’abantu, ni uko usanga bayakoresha mu bintu bidakenewe kandi hari ibikenewe cyane byagombaga gukorwa. Iki kibazo gikunda kugaragara ku bagore cyane, kuko ari bo bakunda kugura ibintu batabanje kureba niba babikeneye koko. Umugore ashora kugura ibintu bibiri bisa kuko yabikunze kandi wenda atari na byo bikenewe, amafaranga akaba yanamushirana ataragura iby’ibanze.

Igikomere cy'Urukundo: Wagikira Ute?

2011-05-06T01:21:00.000-07:00

Urukundo ni rwiza, rugufasha kubaho neza, rukaguha umunezero, rukaguha ishema mu bandi,… ariko rimwe na rimwe rukagutera agahinda iyo uwo wakundaga, wihariye, wasaga n’aho wubakiyeho isi yawe agutengushye, akakwanga, akigendera.

Gutandukana kw’abakundana bishobora guterwa n’impamvu nyinshi. Ushobora kubigiramo uruhare cyangwa bikakugwirira, ariko ikigaragara kenshi ni uko iyo utandukanye n’umuntu wowe ukimukunda bikubabaza kandi bikakugiraho ingaruka, rimwe na rimwe bikanagusigira igikomere ku mutima.

Ese mu rukundo ni iki gituma umuntu akomereka mu mutima cyane?

Hari ibintu byinshi bishobora gutuma umuntu akomereka mu mutima ku buryo bishobora no gutuma umuntu ahita ava mu byo gukundana burundu. Bimwe muri ibyo bintu birimo nko kuba uwo mwakundanaga agusezereye kandi wowe wari ukiyumvamo urukundo cyangwa igihe wari ufite umuntu wimariyemo wabimubwira ugasanga we ntibimurimo ndetse aho kugirango anakumve neza, ahubwo ‘akaguca amazi’ (akagupinga), akakugira umusazi kandi nyamara ibyakubayeho ntawe bitabaho. Ikindi kijya kiboneka ni nk’iyo mu bucuti busanzwe (friendship), umwe ababaje undi akaba yamuvuga nk’amagambo yo kumusebya, kumubeshyera, kumutwarira umukunzi, n’ibindi bintu byose bishobora gutuma icyizere yari agufitiye agitakaza.

Wabyitwaramo ute bikugendekeye bityo?

Abantu benshi bazakubwira bati ihangane, humura bizashira, amaherezo bizagenda neza, uzabona undi ndetse unamuruta,…ariko iyo byakugezeho uba wumva nta n’undi muntu n’umwe ku isi wari wagira ikibazo nk’icyo ufite muri ako kanya.

Aha hari ibintu ushobora gukora kugira ngo ugabanye umubabaro:

1. Gerageza kubyisohoramo:

-Shaka inshuti cyangwa umuvandimwe wisanzuraho maze ugerageze kubimuganirizaho

Ibi birimo no kuba wamuririra ku rutugu, ukarira bihagije rwose. Ibi bizagufasha kuruhuka no kurenga icyo kuri wowe wumvaga gisa n’aho ari isi yakwituye hejuru. Mu gihe ubona bigukomereye cyane, ushobora no kuba wajya kureba umuntu utanga inama (psychologue cyangwa umujyanama mu by’ihungabana), ukabimuganiriza nawe akakugira inama.

-Ntukagire ubwoba bwo kurira kandi iyo ugiye kurira si ngombwa ko uhamagara abantu. Jya ufata umwanya utekereze ku byakubayeho, nubishaka rwose ufate umusego wawe uwuririreho, haba ku mwanywa cyangwa nijoro ndetse ntugatinye no kubikora igihe ugiye koga.

2. Gerageza kwiyumva no kwiyakira

Ibuka ibintu byiza ufite kuko ntabwo ugizwe n’ibibi gusa. Iki ni ikintu gikomeye cyane kuko rimwe na rimwe abantu bakomeretse ku mutima batekereza ko ari amakosa yabo, bakumva ko nta gihe na kimwe bari bakora ikintu cyiza mu buzima bwabo. Ibi twabifata nko kwihohotera kandi ni bibi cyane kuko bikugiraho ingaruka mbi kandi nyinshi. Gerageza kwibuka ibintu byiza ujya ukora cyangwa n’ibyaba byarakubayeho, uzirikane amahirwe wahawe n’ubuzima, icyo inshuti zawe zigukundira,… Niba wowe udashoboye kubyiyibutsa, ushobora no kwegera inshuti yawe wisanzuyeho ikabigufasha.

3. Gerageza kwiyibuka no kwiyitaho

Umutima ukomeretse ushobora kugutera ‘stress’ cyane ariko ntukemere ko utuma n’umubiri wose ubigwamo. Sinzira bihagije, urye neza, ukore imyitozo ngororangingo kugira ngo ugabanye ‘stress’ mu mutwe wawe. Niba usanzwe ukunda gusa neza no kwambara neza n’ubundi komeza ubikore.

4. Jya ukomeza ukore ibintu n’ubundi wari usanzwe ukunda

Niba ukunda kujya kureba filime, n’ubundi jya ubikomeza. Niba hari igitaramo kandi ukunda ikirori ntukagitangwemo kuko bizagufasha kwibagirwa bya bibazo ufite.

5. Gerageza guhora ufite utuntu urimo gukora

Si ukuvuga ko ugomba kwiyibagiza ibyakubayeho, ariko nibura gerageza gushaka utuntu tugufatira umwanya. Iki ni igihe cyiza cyo kujya mu bikorwa bitandukanye nko guhaha, gukora isuku mu cyumba cyawe, kujya gusura inshuti, gutegura imishinga yawe uteganya,n’ibindi bintu byagufasha kubona icyo uba uhugiyeho kurusha guheranwa n’agahinda uterwa n’ibyakubayeho.

6. Ihe umwanya uhagije wo gukira

Hari abantu bihutisha ibyababayeho bagashaka guhita basubira mu buzima bwabo busanzwe batihaye umwanya uhagije. Niba ukomeretse umutima, ni ngombwa ko wiha umwanya uhagije, wo kubitekerezaho, ugashaka uko ubisohokamo ariko atari ako kanya. Kugira ngo igikomere cyo ku mutima gikire vuba cyangwa gitinde bizaterwa n’uburemere bw’icyatumye ukomereka, bitewe n’uburyo ufata icyo kibazo wagize n’uko ucyitwaramo wowe ubwawe. Ku bantu bafite umutima woroshye bikunze kubatwara igihe kirekire kugira ngo babyikuremo (aba bishobora gufata kuva ku byumweru bitatu no kugera ku mezi) ariko ku bantu bafite umutima wihangana kandi bakabifatira umwanya bashobora kumara iminsi ibiri yonyine bakaba bakize.

Hariho abantu bumva nta kintu na kimwe kizongera kubashimisha mu buzima bwabo bwose, bagahitamo kwiyahuza ibiyobyabwenge n’inzoga nyinshi, abandi kubera agahinda baba biyumvamo bagahitamo kwibabaza ubwabo ntibiyiteho cyangwa se ugasanga bababaza abandi bahuye cyangwa bari kumwe.

Si byiza kurakarira n’abataragize uruhare mu kibazo cyawe, ahubwo jya ugerageza kumva ko ibyakubayeho ari ibintu bisanzwe kandi ko nta n’uwo bitabaho, wumve ko kuba byarakubayeho abo bandi nta ruhare babifitemo kandi ntubafate nk’abanzi bawe. Ntugahite urahira ko nta wundi muntu uzongera kwizera no guha umutima wawe kuko buri gihe ubuzima buba bwiteguye kuguha amahirwe ya kabiri.

Uburyo 10 bwo Kwereka Umukunzi wawe ko Umukunda kuri St Valentin Udakoresheje Amafaranga

2011-05-06T01:14:00.000-07:00

Dore uburyo 10 wabwira umukunzi ko umukunda kandi nta faranga na rimwe utanze cyangwa se utanze make. Igihe bibaye ngombwa ko umwereka ko umukunda ariko washiriwe!

1. Indirimbo

Shaka indirimbo uzi ko uwo ukunda akunda kumva maze uyimwoherereze, haba kuri CD, kaseti (tape) cyangwa kuri e-mail, niba mutari kumwe. Niba ahari uyishyiremo muyumvane cyangwa se munayiririmbane.

2. Indabyo zo mu busitani

Niba wari ufite impungenge z’ uko utazabona ubushobozi bwo kugurira umukunzi wawe amaroza kuko wenda ahenze cyane, burya nta muntu wavuze ko ugomba gutanga amaroza. Ushobora no gutanga izindi ndabyo wakura nko mu busitani bw’ aho uba cyangwa se ukanazigura kuko hari izihendutse cyane kuko burya indabyo zisanzwe nazo zishimisha nk’izo umuntu aba yaguze. Si ngombwa kandi ko uzohereza ku ya 14 Gashyantare kuko atari itegeko; uzibonye na mbere ho gato cyangwa nyuma nabyo ni byiza.

3. Ikorere ubwawe impano aho kuzigura

Ibintu nka Chocola, gateaux n’ ibindi bigurwa abantu bakunda gutanga nk’impano kuri Sait Valentin usanga bihenze, nyamara kubyikorera bishoboka. Ushobora rero gusoma uko ibi bintu bikorwa ubundi ukagura ibikoresho ukabyikorera utanze amafaranga make cyane. Ibi kandi ngo bishimisha uwo ukunda cyane kuko abona ko wafashe umwanya wawe ukamukorera impano uko ubishoboye. Ibi ariko si ibintu ukora imburagihe ahubwo ni byiza ko ubitangira hakiri kare kuko uba utabimenyereye kugira ngo hato utavaho ubyica.

4.Impano isanzwe nayo igaragaza urukundo

Uretse ibyo amatangazo avuga mu rwego rwo gukurura abaguzi, burya za diamand cyangwa se ibindi bintu bihenze nta bwo ari byo bituma uwo ukunda akwihebera. Fata amafaranga ufite ubundi umugurire nk’ udukomo, amaherena, cyangwa se impeta iri ku giciro ushoboye. Burya nabyo biramushimisha cyane.

4. Saint Valentin ushobora kuyizihiza umunsi uwo ariwo wose

Uretse ko hafi isi yose iwizihiza ku ya 14 Gashyantare, nta tegeko ririho ritegeka kwizihiza umunsi w’abakundana kuri uwo munsi. Bitewe n’ ubushobozi ndetse n’ umwanya, ushobora kwizihiza uyu munsi icyumweru mbere cyangwa se icyumweru nyuma y’iyi tariki.

Uwitwa Reader Witold yavuze ko we n’ umufasha we bizihiza uyu munsi ku ya 21 Gashyantare kuko aribwo babasha kubona ahantu heza ho gusohokera kandi n’ impano nk’ indabo zikaba zidahenze cyane nk’ uko biba bimeze ku munsi wa Saint Valentin nyirizina.

6. Gutanga amafaranga menshi ku tuntu duto bishobora gutuma wicuza

Impano y’ umunsi wa Saint Valentin igomba kuba koko ari impano ureba ukabona ko uyiguhaye akubwira ati: “Nkwitayeho kurusha bose”. Ushobora kumutunguza iyi mpano ari ku kazi, wambaye imyenda yawe myiza; ibi bizamushimisha cyane. Fata ifoto yanyu mwembi mukunda ubundi uyikoreshe ku buryo igaragara neza ubundi uyishyire nko muri cadre (frame) ubundi uyimuhe. Ibi bizamushimisha cyane. Hari abishima cyane ubahaye ikintu gito kandi gisanzwe nk’ umugati wa sandwich.

7. Urukundo rwanyu ntabwo ruzapfa, shaka rero akantu kazahoraho mu gihe mukiriho

Niba ufashe umwanya wawe ugashushanya ikarita uko ubishoboye n’ intoki zawe, bizashimisha cyane uwo ukunda kurusha uko wajya mu isoko ukagura carte postal maze ukandikaho interuro nke. Niba ufite amabara nayo uyakoreshe kugira ngo agashushanyo kawe karusheho kugaragara neza.

8. Mwigumire mu rugo mwirebere filime

Benshi barasohoka, namwe mushobora kuba mwarasohotse inshuro zitari nke. Niba uyu munsi mudafite ubushobozi bwo kuba mwasohoka ntabwo ijuru riguye. Kubera akazi ntabwo ukunda kumarana igihe n’ umukunzi wawe. Uyu munsi rero kora ikidasanzwe ubundi wirirwane n’ uwo ukunda wenda munirebere filime mwembi.

9. Ihitiremo akandi kantu mwakora

Burya nta gikorwa cy’ urukundo cyaruta gushaka ikintu gishya mwakora mwembi kandi nta mafaranga mutanze. Urugero, ushobora kureba ahantu habereye ibirori kwinjira ari ubuntu ubundi muhagere. Nabyo birashimisha.

10. Gusomana ku buryo budasanzwe no guhoberana nabyo biba bikenewe kuri uyu munsi

Ushobora gusoma umukunzi wawe mu buryo bwinshi butandukanye kandi uteri usanzwe ukoresha mu gihe wabaga uri kumusoma. Urugero: niba wamusomaga ku munwa gusa uhindure umusome no ku ntoki cyangwa ahandi hose ushaka ku mubiri we kandi n’umuhobera ubikore ku buryo abyumva ntibibe bya bindi byo kumuhobera usa n’umwikiza. Guhobera umuntu ntibigurwa mu iduka kandi ntibinasaba ingufu nyinshi, muhobere ku buryo azahora abikwishyuza ati “mpobera nkuko wampobeye kuri saint valentin”. Nuba uri kumuhobera uzanibuke kandi kumubwira amagambo meza y’urukundo, ya yandi amuryohera mu matwi akumva wakomeza ukayamubwira.

Uburyo 6 Wakwitwaramo Usohokanye n'Umukunzi Ubwa Mbere

2011-05-06T01:07:00.000-07:00

Abantu benshi, basohokana n’abantu, banabafiteho agatekerezo, ariko akenshi bikarangira nta n’umwe muri bo umenye uko bigenze, ndetse niba hari nk’akajambo (nka Ndagukunda) yateganyaga kukubwira bikaza kurangira yifashe.

Ese biterwa n’iki? Ese ni iki gituma umuntu ashobora guhindura igitekerezo yari agufiteho kandi mu bigaragara ubona nta kosa wamukoreye?

1. Ambara uko bikwiye

Ku mukobwa biba byiza kwambara imyenda y’ibara ryoroshye, ridahita ryigaragaza cyane , ukaba utisize cyane ku munwa no ku ngohe bijya biranga abakobwa benshi.

Ku muhungu na we biba byiza kwambara nk’ ishati y’ibara ry’umweru, ukaba uhumura neza, ariko nta bikabyo byinshi. Ni byiza ko uba wiyogoshesheje umusatsi n’ubwanwa, mbese ukeye kandi ugaragara neza.

2. Gerageza kwirinda kuvuga ku bintu bikomeye kandi bitumvikanwaho kimwe n’abantu benshi ahubwo mwiganirire ibindi bisanzwe hato bitaza gukurura impaka hagati yanyu mwembi.

3. Irinde kuvuga kuri Politiki

Igihe wasohokanye n’umuntu bwa mbere, utaramenya ibyo akunda n’ibyo yanga, wirinde kuvuga ku ishyaka runaka ufana cyangwa iryo wanga, wirinde kuvuga ku bintu bijyanye n’imyemerere, n’umuco, … kuko hari igihe umuntu ahita yumva atakikwisanzuyeho bitewe n’ibyo urimo kuvugaho.

4. Mu kuganira si byiza kuvuga ku biryo kuko hari igihe ushobora gusanga nk’ikintu wowe wanga wumva nta n’undi wakirya, we aricyo yikundira, bityo ukaba usa n’umuhutaje.

Urugero: ushobora nko kwibaza ku bantu barya inzoka, ukaba wanabavugaho nabi, kandi wenda nawe azirya, bityo ntabe akikwisanzuyeho cyangwa ngo yumve ko hari aho ibyanyu bishobora kugera, akihitiramo kwicecekera ngo hato utamusubiza inyuma kubera ko mudahuje.

5. Mwumve kandi umuhe igihe cyo kuvuga

Hari abantu bafite ingeso yo kuvuga cyane ku buryo abandi baba bari kumwe bananirwa kuvuga cyangwa se bakumva ibintu byose byavuzwe nta kindi barenzaho, ibi jya ubyirinda cyane cyane iyo utaramenyana n’umuntu neza, ngo umenye uko ateye, umenye ibyo yanga n’ibimushimisha.

6. Mwereke ko wishimiye ko muba muri kumwe gusa ariko wirinde kurengera

Ni byiza ko wereka uwo mwasohokanye ko wishimiye ubutumire bwe, aho yakujyanye n’ibyo mwaganiriye, ariko utabikabije cyane ku buryo abona ko icyo gihe iyo kitabaho, wari guhomba byinshi.

Niba kandi uwo muntu nawe wari usanzwe umwiyumvamo, ariko wenda warabuze aho umuhera, uyu ni umwanya mwiza wo kumwemerera urukundo arimo kugusaba.

Niba kandi wowe utarigeze ubitekerezaho, si byiza ko uhita umwemerera nyuma ukazicuza utakibishoboye, cyangwa se ngo uhite umuhakanira kandi nyuma nubona abandi bamwitwariye usigare uririra mu myotsi.

Ahubwo ibyiza ni ukumubwira ko ugiye gufata umwanya nk’uwo nawe yafashe abitekerezaho, hanyuma numara kubitekerezaho bihagije umuhamagare, umubwire igisubizo cyawe nta soni ufite kuko gukunda umuntu nta soni na nke biteye.

Intambwe 10 wakoresha kugira ngo ubone Umusore wakubera inshuti

2011-05-06T00:56:00.000-07:00

Ushobora kuba wicaye ugatekereza ugasanga ukeneye umuhungu ukubera inshuti cyangwa se ukeneye undi umuhungu w’inzozi zawe.
Dore ibintu by’ingenzi ugomba kugenderaho bikagufasha kubonma inshuti y’umuhungu :

1. Niba ubonye umusore wishimiye gerageza kumwenyura umwereka ko urangwa n’inseko nziza

Abagabo benshi bakururwa n’inseko z’abakobwa. Niba ubonye umusore ukumva umwibonyemo kandi yakubera umukunzi, ntuzigere uzuyaza kumusekera kuko burya n’ubwo uba ntacyo umubwiye n’umunwa uba utanze ubutumwa bukomeye cyane butagira ijambo (non-verbal message). Iyo ubikoze gutyo bituma yumva yatera intambwe ya mbere akubaza amakuru yawe.

2. Gerageza kwiyoroshya (be approachable)

Aha ngaha niba uri inkumi ugakubitana n’umusore w’inzozi zawe, ukabona ari umuhungu ukunda kuganiriza abakobwa, wowe uza mureke ntugire icyo ukora gusa ujye ugerageza kumusekera, kumureba indoro nziza ndetse nibiba ngombwa unacishemo umwicire akajisho hanyuma ukomeze ukore ibyo wakoraga; yewe niba wanagendaga wikomereze urugendo. Gusa ariko ibi byose ugomba kubikora mu kinyabupfura kandi ugashyiramo n’ubwenge, ukamenya niba uko uteye byamaze gukurura uwo musore. Ibi numara kubigeraho; umusore wamaze kumwemeza, ibindi bisigaye we azabyikorera. Gusa uzakomeze wiyoroshye kugira ngo ejo utamuca intege akisubirirayo.

3. Gerageza gutuma umusore avuga (Mwinjize mu kiganiro)

Umuhungu ntiyapfa kumenya niba wishimye cyangwa ubabaye, nyamara wowe ukeneye ko abimenya. Niba muvuganye, gerageza umuganirize ku buryo mutandukana agishaka kukuganiriza ndetse afite n’amatsiko yo ku kumenya kurushaho. Jya ushaka uko waryoshya nicyo kiganiro, umubwire ariko ukore ku buryo umusiga agikeneye kukumenya kurushaho.

- Nk’igitsina-gore, gerageza kwiyoroshya umere nk’uko bisanzwe, n’ubwo bitoroshye kwitwara uko usanzwe mu gihe uhuye n’umuhungu wakunze. Muri iki gihe, ujye ugerageza kuvuga ururimi usanzwe ukoresha kandi unavuge amagambo yoroshye, yumvikana. Ikindi ugomba kwitaho ni ukagerageza gukurikiranya ibitekerezo neza kandi ubiha ubusobanuro bwiza. Ibi byose ubikora kugirango uwo muganira aryoherwe koko.

- Gusa ariko, ibi ntibivuze kuvuga amagambo menshi icyarimwe ngo undi abure akanya ko kuvuga anarambirwe. Si icyo bivuze, habe na mba. Vuga amagambo make ariko arimo ubwenge ashobora gutuma uwo muganira agira amatsiko bikamutera kukubaza ibibazo byinshi; noneho wowe ukagenda umusubiza ikibazo ku kindi. Mu kumusubiza, gerageza kujya umushyira mu gihirahiro ari nabyo bizatuma ashaka umwanya munini wo kukuganiriza.

4. Shaka ikintu wivugaho, cyangwa se umubwire amateka y’ubuzima bwawe

Niba uhuye n’umuhungu ubona wazakubera inshuti ku buryo bwimbitse, gerageza kumwibwira nibura ho gato ku buzima bwawe. Ushobora kumubwira ibyo ukunda cyangwa ibyo wanga cyangwa se ukamubwira inkuru y’ibintu wabonye n’ibyo waciyemo.

5. Reka yiyumve nk’uw’agaciro

Aho kugira ngo ukomeze kwivuga ibigwi wowe wenyine, gerageza no kwereka uwo muri kuganira ko afite agaciro imbere yawe kandi nawe umuhe umwanya akwibwire anakuganirize. Ikindi kandi niba hari ikintu afite utakunze reka guhita ubimwereka ako kanya bitamuca intege.

6. Reka kumujora umusesereza

Hari uburyo bwiza ushobora kunenga umuntu ariko utamukomerekeje; uburyo ukoresha rero nta bundi ni ukumuganiriza mugaseka kuko ushobora gukosora umuntu ubicishize mu rwenya. Ikindi ni uko ushobora nawe gushaka uburyo bundi wabikoramo ariko butamutera kumva ko wafashe umwanya umugenzura..

7. Irinde uburakari bwa hato na hato

Niba avuze ibintu ntibigushimishe, reka kwitwara nk’umwana muto ngo uhite wirakaza. Gerageza ahubwo guhita ushaka uburyo bwiza bwo kumugarura mu biganiro bikuryohera maze nawe ahite abona ko ibyo yari akoze atari byiza.

Muri iki gihe ntuzagire ubwoba bwo kuba wamukura muri icyo kiganiro utakunze cyangwa ibyo yita urwenya kandi bitari kukunyura kuko numwihorera azumva ko ari byiza ubutaha azabisubire. Gusa uzibuke kumukebura mu kinyabupfura kugira ngo utamukomeretsa.

8. Mugenere umwanya muri gahunda zawe

Kimwe mu bintu bikomeza ubucuti ni uguha umusore ukunda umwanya mu byo ukora kuko urukundo rusaba igihe. Numwihorera ntumuhe umwanya bizatuma nawe yigira muri gahunda ze zitandukanye no mu zindi nshuti ze bityo n’ urukundo rwanyu ntirukure ngo rutere imbere. Ushobora kuba udakunda kuboneka ariko gerageza umuhe akanya gato bizatuma abona ko afite akamaro mu buzima bwawe. Ujye umushakira n’ahantu heza ho kuganirira kugira ngo abone umwanya wo kugutekerezaho kuko ushobora gusanga nawe yari yarasanze uri umukobwa w’inzozi ze. ni byiza kandi ni na ngombwa ko umuha umwanya wo kumva ko akwegereye kandi ko umuri hafi.

9. Ba uwo uriwe

Niba uri kuganira n’umuntu cyangwa se niba ushaka ko umuntu agukunda geragaza kuba uwo uriwe (be yourself), ntushake kwifata/kwitwara nka runaka wundi. Mu gihe uzaba ushaka kwigira uwo uteri we bizatuma wumva udatekanye muri wowe kuko hari undi umuntu uzaba ushaka kwigira we bitandukanye n’uko uri. Gushaka kwigira uwo uteri we bizatuma unanirwa kumuganiriza, bitumen n’ubushuti bwanyu butaramba.

10. Mwereke ko umwitayeho

Gerageza kumwereka ko ibyo arimo kuvuga bigushimisha niba kandi bitarimo kugushimisha ba imfura umubwire ko ibintu arimo kuvuga bitari kukubaka; ubimubwire umwenyura aho kuvuga wazinze umunya.

Icyo usabwa kwibuka ni ukuba uwo uriwe buri gihe ubonanye n’umusore ukunda cyangwa ubona uzagukunda. Irinde gukoresha amagambo arimo imibonano mpuzabitsina cyane mu magambo uvuga kuko ashobora guhita abona ko ari cyo wishakira.

Uzibuke ko uburanga bw’inyuma atari byose ku musore kandi wirinde guhangayikishwa n’umubano wanyu mu gihe utarakomera; hejuru y’ibyou urenze ho kwiyoroshya no kwiha umutuzo (relax).

Ikitonderwa

- Ntuzakore ibintu uzicuza mu buzima bwawe bwose,

- Shaka umuhungu kuko wumva umukeneye kandi ukareba uzakuba iruhande rwawe buri gihe,

- Ntuzicuze igihe uzabona ubushuti bwanyu bugupfanye kuko igihe kiba kizagera ukabona undi kandi w’inzozi zawe,

- Ntuzatume aguhindura mu buryo bwo kugusubiza inyuma, ntuzabyemere kuko azaba atagukunda,

- Uzirinde gukora ibintu bidahwitse mu maso y’umusore ukunda kuko bishobora kukuviramo kubengwa ako kanya.

Imibonano Mpuzabitsina mu Kazi

2011-05-06T00:49:00.000-07:00

Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe n’impuguke mu by’imibonano mpuzabitsina Alain Héril bwagaragaje ko abantu bose batanganya amahirwe yo guhuza ibitsina aho bakora, kuko abakoresha ari bo bagira amahirwe menshi yo kwigondera umukozi akamusaba ko bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina kandi bigakorwa nk’uko abyifuza.

Ubu bushakashatsi uyu muhanga yashyize mu gitabo cye yise Aimer bugaragaragaza ko mu mirimo ikunze kugaragaramo ubushotoranyi bushobora gutuma habaho imibonano mpuzabitsina ku bantu bakorana, harimo itangazamakuru, aho batunganyiriza uburanga, hakiyongeraho na zimwe muri entreprise zikoresha abantu akazi k’imvune n’agasaba amasaha menshi umuntu ari mu biro.

Ba nyakabyizi ngo ni bo nibura bashobora guca ukubiri no gusambana na ba shebuja kuko akenshi bakora bacyura ayabo, byarimba bakanirukanwa.

Ubu bushakashatsi bugaragaza ko abakoresha barangwa n’uyu mukino mpuzabitsina baba bafite umutimanama utagira igihunga (les anti-stress).

Gusa ariko ubu bushakashatsi bugaragaza ko hari ibigo bimwe byashyizeho amategeko ahana abayobozi bashaka gukoresha abakozi babo imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi bigo birimo ahanini amakompanyi y’indege aho ngo usanga gutereta umukozi ari sakirirego kuko ngo bishobora kwica akazi.

Mu gitabo Cupidon au Travail, umwanditsi agaragaza ko nibura mu mezi ane iyo ukorana n’umuntu uba ufite amahirwe menshi yo kuba mwamenyana mukagera no ku ngingo, mu gihe byagufata hagati y’amezi ane n’umwaka kubona inshuti igihe ushakishiriza inyuma y’ibiro cyangwa uri nyakabyizi.

Iby’iki gitabo ariko binagaragaza ko nibura 20% by’abashakana, baba barahuriye mu kazi bakitanaho muri byose, bikarangira biyemeje gukomereza urukundo mu rugo .

Intambwe 8 wakoresha kugira ngo ubone umukobwa wakubera inshuti

2011-05-06T00:40:00.000-07:00

Niba rero uri umusore ukaba wumva ugeze igihe cyo kugira umukobwa w’inshuti, ni ukuvuga umukobwa mwagirana ubucuti budasanzwe (Girlfriend), hari ibintu bishobora kugufasha kubona umukobwa muhuza. Ushobora kandi kuba utaranigeze ujarajara mu bakobwa benshi ariko noneho ukaba wumva igihe kigeze nyamara ukumva utazi aho wahera wegera umukobwa kandi nyamara umwibonamo.

1. Tangira uterete kandi ushyiremo imbaraga umunsi ku munsi

Ibi bivuze ko niba utangiye gutereta, waganiriza umukobwa umunsi wa mbere bikakugendekera neza naho umunsi wa kabiri bikanga ntabwo ugomba guhita ucika intege ahubwo icyo ugomba kureba ni uburyo wakoresheje umwegera (approaches) byaba na ngombwa ukaba wahindura. Gerageza uhindure uburyo; wenda niba waramusanze iwabo, ku ncuro ya kabiri reba uko mwaganira mwasohokeye ahantu hakeye hatari ahabonetse bose.

2. Hitamo ijwi uzajya umuganirizamo

Kugira ngo urukundo rwanyu rukure ugomba kumenya uburyo uzajya uganiriza umukunzi wawe ndetse n’ijwi uzajya ukoresha kugira ngo umwereke ko uri inshuti idasanzwe cyangwa se y’umwihariko. Muri iryo jwi ryiza riyunguruye niho uzerekanira agaciro kawe ndetse n’iyo mwaba mwari musanzwe muziranye bizatuma ahindura uburyo yagufataga ahite yumva ko hari icyahindutse.

3. Ugomba kubaka ubucuti bwanyu ku buryo budasanzwe

Mu gihe urebye inkumi ukabona yakubera inshuti ugomba kuyereka ko umukeneyeho ubucuti mu buryo butandukanye n’ubusanzwe; ni ukuvuga ko ugomba kumuha umwanya ukamwereka ko umwitayeho, ukamuganiriza ibintu bituma atakurambirwa. Gerageza kugenda umwereka udushya, umukorere ibintu atakekagag ako wamukorera umunsi ku munsi kuva utangiye gahunda yawe yo kumutereta.

4. Banza umwereke ko wamubera inshuti bisanzwe mbere yo kumwereka ko wamubera boyfriend

Ikintu kijya kigora abahungu ni uburyo bwo gukurura abakobwa mu gihe barimo gutereta. Mbere yo gutangira umubwira ko yakubera inshuti idasanzwe banza byibura unamwereke ko wamubera inshuti no mu buzima busanzwe (ubuzima bwa buri munsi) kuko aba asanzwe abana n’abahungu benshi. Gerageza umwereke ko hari ikintu utandukaniyeho n’abandi ahora abona cyangwa abana nabo, mbese umwereke ubucuti nyabwo.

5. Ugomba kwikuramo ubwoba

Impamvu ugomba kwikuramo ubwoba ni uko ushobora kuba ufite amafaranga, uri mwiza, ureba neza, uri umuntu w’icyamamare ahantu utuye, ariko ukaba wabura umukobwa wagira incuti kubera gutinya kumubwira akakuri ku mutima. Ikindi kandi ubwoba butuma umuntu atigirira icyizere no mu buzima busanzwe, bikaba bishobora kugusubiza inyuma mu byo ukora.

6. Menya uburyo wegera umukobwa n’uburyo umubwira ko umukunda

Ikigaragara ni uko hari bamwe mu basore bagenda bagahita babwira abakobwa ko babakunda gutyo gusa (bagasa n’ababibatura hejuru batabanje kubateguza), ugomba gushaka umwanya uhagije n’uburyo bwo kubivugamo niba ushaka ko icyifuzo cyawe cyakirwa neza. Nta bwo ari byiza kugenda ugahita ubwira umukobwa ngo “ndagukunda”,geregeza ushake uburyo bwiza wamubwiramo ko umukunda aho kuza ubimutura hejuru kuko ashobora gukeka ko utabikomeje.

Ugomba kandi kumenya ibihe umukobwa arimo kuko ushobora kumusaba urukundo ari mu bihe bibi bigatuma atabyitaho; urumva rero ko ugomba kubanza guperereza ukamenya niba ari mu bihe bye byiza byamufasha kwakira icyifuzo cyawe kandi akacyitaho.

7. Umukobwa naguhakanira bwa mbere ntuzacike intege

Umukobwa naguhakanira ku munsi wa mbere ntuzahite ucika intege ku ikubitiro, ngo wumve ko byarangiye. Iki ni ikintu cy’ingenzi niba ushaka kubona umukunzi. Ugomba gukomeza kugerageza amahirwe yawe kuko abakobwa benshi ntibajya bemerera umuntu ubucuti (urukundo) ku nshuro ya mbere. Ugomba gukomeza kumwereka ko uri umugabo, ugakomeza ugahatiriza, amaherezo azagera aho abone ko umukunda utapfuye kubivuga gusa wikinira maze bimwereke ko umukunda by’ukuri nawe abonereho.

Ariko naguhakanira bwa mbere ugahita ucika intege akabona ntugarutse, azabona ko utamukundaga, mbese ko wamukinishaga.

8. Mwereke ibyiza afite ku mubiri we ariko wirinde gukabya ngo uvuge ibyo adafite

Niba umukobwa afite amaso meza cyangwa urundi rugingo rwiza ku mubiri we bimubwire kandi umubwire ko ubikunda. Urugero: Mubwire ko ukunda inseko ye niba aseka neza bikagushimisha; ibi bizatuma abona umwitaho, ko ubona igihe cyo kwicara ukamureba ukamwitegereza ndetse ukanamutekereza.

Uburyo 5 bwo Kwerekana Urukundo

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1. Amagambo meza

Amagambo meza kandi aha agaciro umukunzi wawe ni kimwe mu bintu ushobora gukora kugira ngo umugaragarize urukundo.

Ururimi burya ni ikintu gikomeye cyane, rufite ubushobozi bwo kurema ariko kandi rukanagira ubwo gusenya, niyo mpamvu mu byo uvuga niba uri kumwe n’umukunzi wawe ugomba kujya witonda. Amwe mu magambo meza twavuga ni nk’amagambo atuma umuntu amererwa neza, akaba ari amuha compliments kandi amutaka. Ari amagambo amubwira ko ari uw’agaciro, ariwe wifuza mu buzima bwawe bwose, ko nta wundi umukurutira, n’andi menshi atuma yishima.

2. Ibihe byo kuba muri kumwe, mugahana umwanya uhagije

Mujye mufata umwanya wo kurebana, kuganira, guseka... ubu ni uburyo umwe mu bakundana ashobora kuba yifuza kandi kuri we akabufata nk’aho ari bwo umugaragariza urukundo. Kuba wamuha umwanya wawe, ukamureka akakureba, akakuganiriza,.. yisanzuye, yumva ntaho ugiye kujya ngo umucike bimugaragarize ko umwitayeho kandi ko umukunda cyane. Ku bakoresha uru rurimi baba ahubwo banifuza ko ari bo ari n’abakunzi babo yewe banafunga na telefoni ku buryo nta muntu ubasagarira, bagakoresha umwanya wabo ari bombi gusa.

3. Impano

Si ngombwa ko ugira byinshi usobanurira umukunzi wawe mu gihe umuhaye impano runaka, kuko impano ubwayo iba ifite ubushobozi bwo gusobanurira umukunzi wawe icyo utekereza.

Ibyiza by’impano kandi ni uko igisobanuro cyayo kigumaho igihe cyose abona iyo mpano wamuhaye, bityo ugasanga biba byiza kurushaho gutanga impano idapfa cyangwa ngo yibagirane.

Impano kandi ntizigomba kuba zihenze cyane, kuko igishimisha umukunzi ahanini ari uburyo uyimuhaye n’igisobanuro cyayo kurusha yo ubwayo. Gusa burya ni byiza ko utanga impano utarindiriye ko haba ikintu kidasanzwe kugira ngo uyimuhe.

4. Kumuha ubufasha no kumwereka ko witeguye kumufasha igihe cyose

Ingero z’ibyo wafasha umukunzi wawe ni nyinshi. Ushobora kumuzingira imyenda wamusuye cyangwa ukanajya iwe mutabivuganye, ukamutunganyiriza icyumba cyangwa ukamutegurira ifunguro ryiza mu gihe atabyiteguye. Ibi birashoboka ku bamaze kubana ndetse yemwe no ku batararushinga bakundana. Ibi ni ibintu ushobora gukorera umukunzi yaba yabigusabye cyangwa atabigusabye.

Ushobora kandi kumva nk’ikintu avuga ko akeneye, wenda adahita apfa kubona ako kanya kubera ko gihenze cyangwa kidapfa kuboneka, ugahita ucyimushakira. Ibi bikorwa byose bituma umukunzi wawe yumva akwisanzuyeho kurushaho kandi bikamushimisha rwose.

5. Kumugaragariza urukundo umukoraho

Ku bantu bashobora kuba batumva neza ikiza cy’ubu buryo mushobora kurebera ku rugero rw’umwana w’uruhinja.

Ese ntimujya mubona umwana muto arira, hanyuma mama we cyangwa se n’undi muntu wese yamufata mu ntoki ze agahita ako kanya aceceka? Ese aho nturabona ibyishimo umwana muto agira iyo mama we amuhaye akabizu (bisou) ku itama cyangwa mu gahanga?

Natwe rero abantu bakuru bitubaho, iyo umuntu agukozeho cyangwa akaguha bizu ari inshuti yawe ni bumwe mu buryo bwiza bwo kukwereka icyo atekereza kandi nawe ubwawe bukagushimisha.

Si ibi kandi gusa, ikindi gishobora kuboneka hagati y’abakunzi muri ubu buryo ni ugukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina n’uwo mukundana.

Mbere ya byose ariko, jya ubanza wimenye ubwawe, nka bya bindi ngo mbere yo gukura agatotsi mu jisho rya mugenzi wawe, ni byiza ko ubanza ugakura umugogo uri mu jisho ryawe. Burya kumenya uburyo bushimisha umukunzi wawe ni byiza, ariko kandi burushaho kuba byiza iyo ubanje ukimenya nawe ubwawe, ukamenya ikigushimisha, ukamenya uburyo wishimira kurusha ubundi muri ubu bwose tumaze kubona haruguru ariko kandi ukiga no kumenya ururimi umukunzi wawe avuga mu rukundo.

Birashoboka ko mu rukundo waba uvuga indimi zirenze ebyiri cyangwa eshatu, ariko burya haba harimo rumwe rurusha izindi imbaraga bityo rukaba arirwo ukoresha mu rukundo cyane.

Ushobora kuba ukunda impano, ukaba ukunda ko bagusohokana ariko wenda ahanini ukaba ukunda kurushaho gutegwa amatwi n’umukunzi wawe, mukaganira, mukamarana umwanya munini kurusha ibindi byose.

Uburyo 5 bwo Kwerekana Urukundo

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Ibintu Bituma Umukobwa Yishima

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- Mubwire ko ari mwiza: Numubwira ko ari mwiza bizatuma abona ko ugira igihe cyo kumwitegereza, n’uko bimutere akanyamuneza amwenyure

- Mufate ukuboko: Niba uri kugendana n’umukobwa cyangwa se mwicaranye, ujye ugerageza umufate akaboko kuko bizatuma yumva ko muri kumwe yemwe azumva ko ntacyabatanya bityo bimugarurire ibyishimo.

- Musome mu ruhanga

- Jya umubwira ko umukunda buri munsi

- Niba afite agahinda, gerageza umubwire ko afite agaciro mu buzima bwawe kandi ko ibya mubabaje bitagomba kumuheza mu bwigunge.

- Jya umushimira niba agukoreye agakorwa gato, kuko icyo kintu gito kiba gisobanura ibintu byinshi.

- Muririmbire akaririmbo n’iyo waba nta jwi ryiza ufite

- Mwandikire utubaruwa
- Mukore mu musatsi

- Muterure mukine ibyo gukirana

- Musohokane mwicare ahantu mu busitani muganire

- Muganirize umubwire inkuru n’inzenya zisekeje

- Rimwe na rimwe ujye umureka asinziririre mu gituza cyawe.

Intambwe 4 zo Gusubirana n'Umukunzi Nyuma yo Gutandukana

2011-05-05T23:58:00.000-07:00

Ese wari wakunda umuntu mugatandukana, ukimwifuza, wumva ari bwo byari bigeze aharyoshye?

Gutandukana kwa benshi mu bakundanaga biterwa ahanini n’ibintu bitari binini cyane, ariko icyo bihuriyeho ni uko n’ubundi icyo bigeraho ari kimwe: gutandukanya abakundanaga!

Ese birashoboka ko wagarura uwari umukunzi wawe nyuma y’igihe kinini atakuvugisha, atakwereka ko akigukeneye?

Byashoboka se ko bya bihe byiza mwagiranaga bibagarukira nyuma y’uburyo mwatandukanye nabi?

Aha ushobora no kwibaza ibibazo byinshi biguca intege, wibaza ko niba ubwo yagusize akagenda, icyo wakoresha cyose ngo akugarukire, niba bwo wakwizera ko azahaguma nabwo atazongera ngo agucike.

Ibi byose ni ibigenda biguca intege, iyo ubitekerejeho. Ariko se niba umukunda wabuzwa n’iki gufata ‘risk’ nk’uko benshi bajya babivuga?

Nk’uko twabibonye tugitangira, impamvu nyinshi z’abagabo/Abagore baca inyuma cyangwa se banatandukana n’abakunzi babo, ahanini biterwa n’uburyo baba babitwayeho. N’ubona rero uwo wakundaga yigendeye cyangwa ukabona atakikwishimiye, jya utangira wibaze ibi bibazo:

- Ese kuba mwaratandukanye byaba ari ikose ryawe?

- Ese haba ari andi makosa wakoze, n’iyo waba utayazi cyangwa utaranayahaga uburemere?

Ahanini ni nk’igihe wakundaga kumuburanya cyane, kutamusaba imbabazi wamukoshereje n’utundi tuntu duto ariko nyamara tumuremerera we.

Niba kuba mwaratandukanye usanze byaratewe n’ikosa ryawe, aho rwose birashoboka ko wagarura umukunzi wawe mukongera mukabana urukundo rukaganza.

Usibye n’ibyo kandi aha uraza kureba uburyo wamugaragariza uburyo yahombye kuba utakiri uwe, n’uburyo wakoresha kugira ngo agaruke agukomangire ku rugi agutakambire agusaba ko mwasubirana. Ntugire ubwoba humura biroshye!

Biragusaba gukurikiza izi ntambwe gusa:

1.Reka kumwereka ko umukeneye cyane cyangwa ko ubayeho nabi adahari

Ikintu cya mbere ugomba gukora ni ukugaragaza ibitandukanye n’ibyo urimo gutekereza, cyangwa wifuza ko biba: Reka kumwereka ko wifuza ko agaruka!

Yego birasa naho bitumvikana cyangwa ko ari nko kwivuguruza, ariko ndakubwiza ukuri , uko urushaho kumugarura, ni ko nawe arushaho kuguhunga.

Muri icyo gihe rero jya ukora nk’aho ntacyo wahombye kuba yaragusize, ujye umureka ajye muri gahunda ze, akore ibyo yifuza byose, nyuma azatangira kubona impamvu agukeneye, anakwifuza mu buzima bwe, azatangira noneho kujya abona ukuntu ubuzima bubishye udahari.

Mureke akore ibyo ashaka, ajye mu bandi bagabo/bagore, batembere, basangire…, amaherezo koko niba ari uwawe azabona ko icyo yaje akurikiye iwawe nta handi akibona akugarukire.

Icyo gihe kandi numureka akaba akora ibyo yishakira byose, nawe jya wigira muri gahunda zawe, we guhora umutegereje nta gahunda mufitanye y’igihe azagarukira.

2.Iyibutse ubuzima bwawe bwiza bwa mbere y’uko ukundana n’umukunzi wawe

Muri icyo gihe wari uri kumwe n’umukunzi wawe, hari byinshi wasize inyuma. Abantu benshi iyo bafite abo bakunda, ntibaba bifuza ko bagira ahandi bajya; nta zindi nshuti baba bumva bagendana, basangira.

Iki ni igihe cyo kubisubiramo, ntukomeze kwibabaza, ahubwo ukishyiramo ko uko bimeze kose ubuzima bugomba gukomeza kandi neza, ugasubira muri bwa buzima bwagushimishaga na mbere y’uko muhura.

Iyo watandukanye n’umukunzi wawe, utangira kwibaza no gutekereza abandi bari kumwe, uti ese ubu abo yahisemo bandusha iki, yabakurikiyeho iki se? n’ibindi nk’ibyo… Yego biragoye kwibuza gutekereza kuri ibi byose iyo ukimukunda, ariko niwumva ushaka kubyirinda jya wibuka ko uwo mwanya wawe upfusha ubusa umutekerezaho, utekereza ibyo arimo, we nta n’isegonda afite ryo kugutekerezaho cyane cyane ko aba yibereye mu bindi.

3.Gerageza kwiyitaho no kwiha umwanya uhagije

Niba uri umugore warakundaga kwisiga, kujya muri salon ukiyitaho, kwambara imyenda myiza, cyangwa igezweho, uri umugabo se warakundaga gukora sport, kwisiga parfum nziza… bikomeze. Wikwisuzugura kuko niba we atakikubona hari n’abandi bakureba, wigarurire icyizere, wumve wongeye kwikunda nyuma yo kubura uwo wakundaga. Subira mu isoko ugure imyenda mishya kandi myiza, ukomeze wiyiteho, uhure n’abandi bantu bashya, umenyane n’inshuti nshya kandi unatemberere ahantu hashya. Niba uri mu kazi ugakore neza kandi nibiba byiza uzanazamuke no mu ntera. Ibyo byose kandi ujye ukora uko ushoboye bimugereho.

Ushobora gukora uko ushoboye ukabonana n’inshuti ze, n’abavandimwe be, n’abo bakorana cyangwa se bigana bitewe n’icyo akora, bityo ntazabasha kwihanganira kutaguhamagara ngo akubaze amakuru. N’ubwo ibyo byose azabikora asa n’utakwitayeho, wowe ntihazagire icyo bigutwara, uzamureke atangazwe no kubona ukuntu ubayeho neza adahari.

Ariko se nyuma y’ibi hakurikiraho iki?

Ese witabye telefone aguhamaye agusaba ko wamugarukira wabyitwaramo ute? Ni gute wabigenza kugira ngo yongere akwiyumvemo nk’uko byahoze?

4.Ntuzigere na rimwe umwemerera ko bikomeza, akibikubwira ku nshuro ya mbere kuko bimwereka ko wari warihagazeho kandi nawe warashize! Ntuzigere na rimwe uhita uvuga “Yego” n’iyo yaba agusabye amahirwe ya nyuma!

Ahubwo musubize ko ukeneye umwanya wo kubitekerezaho.

Ibi ni ukubera iki?

Impamvu ni uko ashaka ko mwongera mugakundana kandi guhita umwemerera si byiza kuko bimwereka ko wari warabuze aho ujya. Humura azakomeza aguhamagare kugeza ubwo azumva bimugeze kure! Ubu noneho, ushobora gukomeza kubikora kugeza ubwo uzaba wizeye neza koko ko yifuza ko mwongera gukundana, ko afite impamvu ikomeye imuteye kugaruka kandi ko usobanuye byinshi kuri we; ubundi urukundo rugasagamba, amahoro, ituze n’umunezero bigataha mu buzima bwanyu mwembi.

Amakosa 7 Abakobwa Bakora mu Irambagizwa

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1. Gushamadukira imibonano mpuzabitsina : n’ubwo ntagihe cyemeranywaho na bose cyo kuba abakundana bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina, wikwemera kuryamana n’ umuhungu utarakumenya neza ngo anakwiyumvemo kuko iyo ubikoze akubona nk’ akajiji akajya yumva agukeneye kubera izo gahunda gusa. Kumenya imiterere yawe y’ inyuma (physique) ntibihagije; umusore aba akeneye no kumenya indi myifatire yawe ngo akugire umukundwa (sweetheart). Kumwitondesha, ntushamadukire imibonano mpuzabitsina, ugategereza ko igihe kigera ni byo byiza.

2. Kumwibwira wese mukimenyana : Si byiza habe na mba kubwira umusore ku ikubitiro inkuru zibabaje z’ ubuto bwawe) cyangwa ibibazo byawe bwite cyangwa iby’ umuryango ukomokamo, kuko bituma akubona nk’ umuntu uje ahetse ibibazo. Yego abakundana baba bagomba kumenyana ndetse ntibanagire ibyo bakingana, ariko byose ntibikorwa umunsi umwe, bisaba igihe, uko abantu bagenda bamenyerana. Mutware buhoro buhoro, ugende umuhishurira amabanga yawe uko iminsi igenda ishira, wirinde guhita umubwira byose mugitangira iby’urukundo kuko ibyo biri muri bimwe bituma atakugirira amatsiko ndetse akanaguhararukwa vuba.

3. Kumuhamagara no kumwoherereza ubutumwa (SMS) kenshi cyane (bikabije): Ikindi ugomba kumenya ni uko abagabo bishimira abakobwa b’ inshuti bishakiye bo ubwabo kurusha ababishakiye. Bityo rero, guhoza telefone ku gutwi umuhamagara, kumwoherereza SMS na e-mails z’ urudaca ntibituma umwigarurira nk’ uko uba ubyifuza. Ni nayo mpamvu nukora aya makosa rimwe na rimwe uzajya umuhamagara akanga kuyifata, wakohereza SMS ntagusubize ngo umenye uko yayakiriye.

4. Kumwigiraho maneko: Yewe guhora umucunga iyo agiye, abo ari kumwe nabo ku buryo iyo umubonanye n’ undi mukobwa wihutira kumubaza ibyo baba bapanga, bishobora guhungabanya umubano wanyu. Ahubwo wowe mwereke ko umukunda, numunyura bizaba bihagije ngo areke abo bakobwa bandi keretse aramutse afite ingeso y’ ubushurashuzi.

5. Kumuhisha utugeso twe wanga: Kubera uburyo uba umukeneye hari ibyo akora bikagushegesha ariko ukanga kubimwereka ngo atakwanga. Uba wiyaruriraho amakara kuko izo ngeso azazikomeza, mu gihe nyamara iyo uza kumusaba wenda aba yarakumviye.Tekereza rero aramutse agushyize mu rugo uko byazagenda hagati yanyu nk’ abantu biyemeje kubana akaramata! Hari igihe cyagera ntubyihanganire kandi nawe atagishoboye guhinduka, bikaba ibibazo gusa.

6. Kumva ko azahinduka : Abantu ,cyane cyane abagabo, ntibapfa guhinduka uko bagenda baba bakuru. Rero niba hari ingeso nyinshi afite ubona utakwihanganira, byaba byiza umwihoreye ugashaka undi muhuje.

7. Kwisuzugura: Yego urukundo ruba rukeneye kuvomererwa no kuhirwa ku buryo buhoraho, ariko kuruha umwanya mwinshi cyane kugera aho wowe ubura uko kwiyitaho byaba ari ubugoryi! Gerageza byose ubijyanire hamwe, kuko umuntu umuha agaciro ari uko nawe ubwe abanje kukiha. Ushobora gushaka kumuharira umwanya wose, yabona utiyitaho akisangira abiyitaho wowe ukaburiramo.

Amabanga 10 yo Kugarura Umunezero mu Rukundo

2011-05-05T23:48:00.000-07:00

Ese urukundo rwanyu ruracumbagira? Urabona se mwembi musa n’abarambiwe? Ese aho ntiwifuza kubivamo ukabura uko ubigenza?

Nyuma y’ibyo bibazo byose, umuti si uguhita ubivamo, banza ahubwo wisuzumme, usuzume n’umukunzi wawe, mwembi musuzumane, mumenye neza ikibazo gihari kuko birashoboka ko gikemuka maze mukongera mugakomeza urukundo rwanyu mutishishanya.

Dore ibintu icumi bishobora gutuma umunezero ugaruka mu rukundo rwanyu

1. Ntimukiganira bihagije, none gerageza ugarure uwo muco hagati yanyu

Icyica umubano mwiza utagira amakaraza mu rukundo rwanyu ni uko akenshi usanga umwe muri mwe ashobora guhora yumva undi ariko agasa n’aho we adafite uburenganzira bwo kuvuga icyo yifuza mu rukundo rwanyu. Ugahora wumva ugomba gushimisha uwo mukundana kabone n’aho wowe waba utabyishimiye.

Niba hari aho wifuza kujya kandi ukaba wumva byagushimisha ujyanye n’uwo wihebeye, mubaze niba nawe abishaka kandi ubimusabe hakiri kare kugira ngo nawe umuhe umwanya wo kubitekerezaho.

Niba hari cyo akubwiye ko kitamushimishije, mwumve umusobanuze neza maze ugerageze kukireka kabone n’aho cyaba kigoye, ugikorere ko umukunda kandi wamurutushije abandi.

2. Wasanga nyamara n’ubwo mubana cyangwa mumaze igihe mukundana mutaziranye. Guhera uyu munsi gerageza ufate umwanya uhagije wo kumenyana

Nk’uko mu kinyarwanda bivugwa, burya ngo ntazibana zidakomanya amahembe, ni nayo mpamvu mu bantu bakundana bidashoboka ko usanga bahuza mu bintu byose. Hari ibyo mugeraho ntimwumvikane ndetse rimwe na rimwe mukananirana.

Ikindi kandi mu guhura kw’abakundana ntibaba baziranye bihagije, biba ari ngombwa rero ko bafata umwanya wo kumenyana umwe akamenya icyo umukunzi we akunda n’icyo yanga, akamenya ibimubabaza n’ibimushimisha ndetse n’ibindi byose.

Ni byiza ko bamenyana mu buryo buhagije. Usanga benshi mu bakundana biyoberanya cyangwa bakishushashanya ku bakunzi babo ntibababwize ukuri cyangwa ngo babihishurire neza abo baribo, nyamara burya biba byiza cyane iyo umukunzi wawe umwiyeretse wese kuko burya iyo agukunda aba agukundira ibyiza n’ibibi byawe n’ubwo aba ashobora kugufasha gukosora bimwe mu bitagenda neza cyangwa ‘ibibi’.

3. Ese aho ntiwikunda cyane, ukihugiraho wenyine, ukumva utuntu twose watwiharira? Gerageza Kugirira no kugaragariza ubuntu umukunzi wawe.

Ubuntu hano buvugwa ntabwo ari ubujyanye n’ibintu bifatika gusa.

Ni ukwita ku mukunzi wawe muri byose, ibyo yagusabye n’ibyo atagusabye, mu byo yibuka n’ibyo atibuka. Ni ukureba icyabera cyiza umukunzi wawe, ukamukunda n’umutima wawe wose kandi ugahora witeguye kumuha ubufasha akeneye mu gihe cyose.

4. Hari igihe wasanga gucira bugufi no kubaha umukunzi wawe bikugora, kandi nyamara ari ikintu gikomeye kandi cyari gikwiye mu rukundo rwanyu

Burya umuntu ukunda, uzi neza ko nawe agukunda, akurutisha abantu bose, ugera aho ukumva nta kumwishishaho na gato ufite. Iyo utabyitwayemo neza, cyangwa ngo ubicungire hafi, bigera aho ukamuca amazi (ukamusuzugura) nk’uko bajya babivuga ku buryo usigara ari we utubaha mu bantu bose.

Byakabaye byiza gukomeza kwitwararika kabone n’aho mwaba mumaranye igihe kinini gute.

Si byiza kumva ko mwamenyeranye cyane ngo utangire wumve ntacyo akikubwiye, ngo umubwire ibyo wiboneye byose. Burya ni byiza ko umwifungurira ukamubwira ibyo utekereza, ariko kandi burya ntukarengere , ni byiza kumenya aho ugomba kugarukira kugira ngo utava aho umukomeretsa.

5. Hari abantu benshi bahora bahora basa n’abihugiyeho, ariko biba byiza iyo uhaye umwanya uhagije umukunzi wawe.

Ni ngombwa gufata umwanya kandi uhagije w’umukunzi wawe. Si byiza kuri ba bantu bakunda kureba za filimi cyangwa kureba imipira y’amaguru cyane, batinda mu tubari se, ku buryo bibagirwa cyangwa se babura n’umwanya w’abakunzi babo. Niba kandi utashye uvuye ku kazi, ugeze mu rugo gerageza guha umwanya abo uhasanze, utandukanye akazi no mu rugo. Muri iki gihe kubera ikoranabuhanga, abantu benshi ntibakibona umwanya uhagije bagenera abo mu rugo; n’iyo batashye bavuye ku kazi bahitira kuri za mudasobwa, kuri za facebook n’ibindi bishobora kubatwara umwanya bakibagirwa abo batashye basanga. Nyamara ibi si byiza na buke kuko umukunzi (umugore/umugabo) wawe aba agukeneye kandi agutegereje.

6. Guhora mureshyanya

Iyo mukundana mugera aho mukagira ngo byararangiye mukumva bisa nk’aho inshingano mwari mufite zarangiye. Ni ngombwa rero ko muhora mureshyanya (seduire), ugahora wumva buri gihe ukwiye guhora usa neza imbere y’umukunzi wawe. Burya kandi biba byiza iyo mubanyeho nk’aho buri munsi ari bwo mukibonana; ugahora wumva ushaka gukora kuri mugenzi wawe, kumubwira ko ari mwiza, kumutera imitoma, n’ibindi biranga abantu ba(gi)kundana.

Burya si byiza ku bagore bamwe na bamwe, bagera mu rugo bagahita batangira kwicupiza, ntibiyiteho ku buryo usanga abagabo babo baba basigaye basa n’aho banafite isoni zo gusohokana nabo, rimwe na rimwe ugasanga bibaye n’intandaro yo kubaca inyuma.

Niba uri mu rugo n’umukunzi wawe, jya wiyitaho, ube usa neza, wereke umukunzi wawe ko umukunda kandi ko ukiri mwiza kugira ngo ajye ahora abona ko yatomboye kuko nta wundi musa.

Mu rukundo jya wibuka ko utari nk’umuntu ureba filimi gusa, ko ahubwo uri umukinnyi wayo kandi w’imena, bityo umenye ko ugomba gukora uko ushoboye kose ngo urusigasire.

7. Mu bibangamira urukundo kenshi harimo kutizerana, ese aho wari uziko iyo utizera umukunzi wawe uba usa n’urimo kumutiza umurindi wo kuguca inyuma?!

Birashoboka ko ibi waba wenda warabisubiriwemo kenshi ntubyumve, ariko menya ko nta rukundo rushobora gutera imbere mu gihe nta kwizerana hagati y’abakundana.

Ni ngombwa kumva ko umwizeye, ntugahore wumva wacunga abamuhamagara, ubutumwa bugufi yakiriye cyangwa ubutumwa bwoherezwa kuri interineti emailsbumugeraho.

Hari n’ababa bifuza kumenya mot de passe (amagambo tw’ibanga) abakunzi babo bakoresha kuri emails zabo, jya ugerageza wirinde kutamwizera, ugerageze kurwanya ibitekerezo bikumvisha ko akubeshya cyangwa ko aguca inyuma, kuko nta handi bikugeza usibye kugusenyera.

Hari abantu bamwe babona nta mwanya wo kuganiriza abakunzi babo bajya babona, bityo bagahitamo kubaganiriza bari ku meza, ari naho bababariza ibitabashimishije. Burya si byiza kuko icyo gihe n’iyo waba wamuteguriye ifunguro ryiza adashobora kuryoherwa, ugasanga ushobora kuba usa n’uwakoreye ubusa.

Ikindi kandi niba hari ikibazo muhuye na cyo mu rukundo rwanyu, ntukagifate nk’aho ari iherezo rya byose kuko ntibishoboka ko uba mu rukundo rutigera na rimwe rugira ibibazo, n’iyo byaba nta gushidikanya haba harimo ikindi kibazo utazi cyangwa utarabona.

8. Nimugerageze kugira umushinga mukorana

Ni byiza ko mu rukundo mugira umushinga waba ari muto cyangwa munini mugirana kuko bibafasha kwegerana no gushyira hamwe. Ntiwirirwe utekereza kure kuko ntabwo umushinga ari itegeko ko uba ikintu kinini gusa, ushobora kuba urugendo runaka mutegurana, guteganya kubyara no kurerera hamwe uwo mwana, kuvugurura inzu, gufatanya kuyitera irangi, kujya guhaha muri week-end, n’ibindi byoroshye ariko kandi biryoha iyo mubikoranye.

9. Kwiherera

Buri muntu aba akeneye igihe cyo kuba ari kumwe n’umukunzi we gusa, nta wundi muntu uza kubabangamira, ni byiza pe! Birashoboka kandi ko hari n’ikindi gihe aba yumva akeneye kuba ari wenyine, akitekerezaho, agatekereza ku mukunzi we, agasubira mu twandiko twa kera yandikiranaga n’inshuti ze, cyangwa mu tundi tuntu twose yaba yarakundaga kera ubu atakibonera umwanya.

Ibi bishobora kuba, umukunzi wawe agatekereza ko ahari yaba yagukoshereje atabizi cyangwa ko waba ufite ikindi atazi cyakubabaje, ni byiza rero kubanza ukamubwira ko ukeneye umwanya wo kwiherera n’uwo kuba wenyine kandi ukamubwira ko nta kindi kibazo ufite kugira ngo ataza guhangayika. Si ngombwa rwose ko abakundana bahorana, aho bagiye hose bakajyana, aho ubonye umwe ugahita uhabona n’undi, kuko ibyo bituma basa n’aho bamenyerana cyane, cya kintu cyagukuruye cyane ukabona uwo muntu adasanzwe kikazagera aho kigashira kubera guhorana; ni byiza ko musigirana umwanya wo gukumburana, ukamubona usa n’ubonekewe.

10. Kugira umukunzi ntibivuze kwambikwa amapingu, gerageza kwigenga

Kuba ufite umukunzi kandi ukunda cyane, ntibivuze kumwimariramo ngo wumve ko adahari nta cyo waba uri cyo, yewe ko nta n’icyo wakwishoboza cyagwa wakwigezaho.

Si byiza kumva ko ari we ukugize, kuko ibi bikugira ho ingaruka mbi mu gihe mutakiri kumwe cyangwa hari ikindi kitagenze neza, kuko burya ubuzima budateguza.

Ni byiza ko buri wese akomeza kuba uwo yari na mbere y’uko muhura, akaguma akaba we ubwe, kabone n’aho mubana kandi mukundana. Burya ni byiza ko hari gahunda ukomeza kugira ku giti cyawe, nko gusohokana n’inshuti zawe, gusangira nazo, kuzitumira mu rugo, kujya koga(piscine), kwiga umuziki, kubyina n’ibindi bidasaba uruhare rwe.

Uramukunda pe, ariko ntabwo ari byose kuri wowe, hari ubundi buzima ukeneye kubaho uko ubyumva bipfa kuba gusa bitamubangamiye. Gusa jya ureba neza kandi nturengere kuko n’iyo mugize ubuzima butandukanye cyane kandi mubana na byo bishobora kubagora ndetse bikaba byanabaviramo gutandukana cyangwa n’izindi ntonganya. Ibi bizabafasha kugira urukundo ruryoshye, ruri nta makemwa kandi ruzamara igihe kirekire ‘rutoshye’.

Inama 6 Zo Guhitamo Impano Izashimisha Umuhungu'Umugabo Ukunda

2011-05-05T23:42:00.000-07:00

Niba wifuza guha impano umugabo wawe cyangwa umuhungu w’inshuti yawe hari ibitekerezo by’ibyo wamugenera kandi bikamushimisha.

Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe bwagaragaje ko kugurira umwana impano cyangwa se umukobwa ngo byoroha ugereranyije no kugurira umugabo cyangwa se umuhungu mukundana.

Abagabo benshi batekereza ibintu bimwe; baba bumva akenshi impano zabo ari iz’amasogisi, utwambaro tw’imbere cyangwa karavate.

1. Niba hari imikino cyangwa igitaramo rimwe na rimwe ujye umugurira itike yo kwinjira

Iyi ni imwe mu mpano ishobora gushimisha abagabo, yaba abubatse, abatandukanye n’abagore babo, abakiri gutereta n’abatarushinga. Niba rero wasohokanye n’umukunzi wawe agiye kureba umukino w’ikipe akunda cyangwa se agiye mu gitaramo cy’ itsinda ry’abaririmbyi akunda cyangwa umuhanzi akunda kugira ngo umushimishe kurushaho ujye umugurira itike yo kwinjira atabizi maze nimugera aho mwinjirira uyimutunguze, azahita abona ko umwitaho, ko ibyo aha agaciro n’ibimushimisha ubibona.

2. Mukorere urutonde rw’amafilime cyangwa amakinamico akunda uyamushyirire kuri DVD player

Niba umugabo/umukunzi wawe akoresha amafaranga menshi akugurira indabo, imyambaro n’amaherena kubera iki wowe utareba akantu umuha koroheje nko kumukorera urutonde rwa filime cyangwa amakinamico akunda ukayamushyirira kuri DVD cyangwa CD hanyuma ukazayimuha igihe muri kumwe cyangwa se wamusuye.

3. Cagura indirimbo uzi akunda uzimushyirire kuri CD player

Nta mpamvu yo guhora uha umugabo wawe cyangwa se umusore mukundana impano zihenze, rimwe na rimwe ujye unyuzamo umucagurire uturirimbo uzi ko akunda nurangiza utumushyiririre kuri CD bizajya bituma igihe yicaye arimo kuzumva agutekerezaho. Niba rero harimo izo mwumva muri kumwe zijya zimwibitsa ibihe byiza mwagiranye bituma abona ko umuzirikana buri gihe kandi umuhoza ku mutima.

4. Muhe impano y’imyenda mu gihe ubona ayikeneye

Nubona umugabo wawe arimo ashaka kugura imyambaro mishya cyangwa se arimo guhamagara mu maduka bacuruza imyenda ababwira ko ayikeneye, kubera iki wowe utahera kuri icyo ngo noneho uzamuhe impano y’uwo mwenda yifuza? Ugomba ariko kwitwararika ukamenya imyenda ibera umukunzi wawe, atari ukugenda ngo ugure ibyo ubonye byose.

5. Mugurire akuma gateka cyangwa se agashyushya icyayi

Nugurira umukunzi wawe aka kuma gashyushya icyayi bizatuma adatakaza imbaraga nyinshi kugirango akore icyayi, niba kandi atanagikunda bizatuma azajya agira imbaraga zo kukinywa kubera impano wamuhaye. Ikindi kandi, bizatuma umugabo wawe yishimira kugukorera icyayi igihe icyo ari cyo cyose .

6. Mugurire ikofi cyangwa se isaha

Impano nk’izi ni impano abantu batangiye gukundana cyangwa se guteretana bakoresha. Ibi byereka umuhungu/umukunzi wawe ko umwitayeho. Guha rero umusore mukundana cyangwa umugabo wawe ikofi bizatuma agira isuku mu mifuka ye kandi uko azajya ayikura mu mufuka agiye kuremo cyangwa kwishyura azajya ahora akwibuka.

Ingingo 7 zo Kuganira ku Mafaranga nk'Abakundana

2011-05-05T23:37:00.000-07:00

Dore nk’abantu bakundana ibintu mugomba kwitwararika mukaganira ku bijyanye n’amafaranga.

1. Ujye ugira ubupfura mu gihe uvuga ku bijyanye n’amafaranga yawe

Uko utekereje kuri iyi ngingo ni ko urushaho kubona ukuntu abantu bakundana bibagora kuvugisha ukuri ku bijyanye n’amafaranga yabo.

Rimwe na rimwe, haba ukoresha amafaranga mu bintu atavuganyeho n’umukunzi we, ntatinyuke kuba yamubwiza ukuri aho yagiye, ubundi ugasanga hari ufite konti ye ku ruhande atajya abwira umukunzi we.

Ibi rero si byiza na gato mu rukundo kuko iyo umukunzi wawe abimenye bimubabaza cyane kandi akaba yanatangira kwibaza ko hari n’ibindi byinshi umukinga bitari ibyo. Ni koko, ntibyoroshye pe, ariko burya kubivugaho kandi ukavugisha ukuri, yaba ari imyenda ufitecyangwa amafaranga wakoresheje, bitanga amahoro cyane mu rukundo kandi bigatuma mugirana icyizere cyane.

2. Iregere amakosa wakoze cyangwa n’izindi ngeso zawe zitari nziza mu gukoresha amafaranga

Niba hari amakosa wakoze mu gukoresha amafaranga yawe cyangwa se yanyu nka couple, n’ubundi ibyo byarangije kuba wita umwanya mwishi ubitekerezaho cyangwa ubimuhisha.

Bimubwire kandi mushakire hamwe igisubizo kandi umusabe imbabazi ndetse wirengere ingaruka z’ibikorwa bibi byawe, ntiwemere ko bimugwaho kandi nta ruhare yabigizemo, umwemerere ko utazabisubira kandi koko guhera ubwo ntuzigere na rimwe ubisubira.

3. Si byiza kugarura ibibazo by’amafaranga bya kera

Ibyinshi mu biganiro hagati y’abashakanye bishobora kubafatira umwanya munini ni ibiba bijyanye n’amafaranga n’ikoreshwa ryayo. Imodoka cyangwa inzu nshya bagiye kugura, ingendo bashaka gukora kandi zibasaba amafaranga menshi, umunsi mukuru bateganyanya gukora ukomeye, n’ibindi. Muri ibi byose kenshi usanga atari ko babyumvikanaho kimwe, ugasanga akenshi habamo impaka nyinshi, usibye kandi n’izi ntonganya zishobora kubaho mbere, hari n’izindi ngo nyinshi ushobora kumva zihora zitongana, zivugana nabi kubera ibibazo zigeze kugira kera biturutse ku mafaranga.

Si byiza rero kugarura ibi bibazo kandi byararangiye kuko bizana intonganya z’ubusa mu rugo kuko niba ari uwumva aba yarumvise icyo gihe ubimubwira, niba kandi atumva n’ubundi icyo wakora cyose ntiyakumva; kubigarura byaba ari nko gukora ubusa.

4. Niba mu biganiro byanyu udashobora kumwubahira urukundo umufitiye, nibura ibuka ikinyabupfura n’icyubahiro umugomba

Uburakari ubwo ari bwo bwose waba ufite igihe urimo kuganira n’umukunzi wawe ku ngingo runaka mutarimo kumvikanaho neza, si byiza ko umwubahuka ngo umusuzugure cyangwa ngo umutuke.

Mu kuvuga ku byerekeranye n’amafaranga n’ikoreshwa ryayo mu bakundana nk’uko twabonye ko biri mu biganiro bishobora gutuma abashakanye barakaranya, jya ugerageza gukomeza kuba wowe Nyirizina, umenye aho kwihangana kwawe kurangirira n’aho uburakari bwawe butangirira, umenye kwifata no kwihangana mu gihe ubona ko bigeze kure.

5. Baza ibibazo byinshi umukunzi wawe, shakisha uko wumva uburyo afata cyangwa akoresha amafaranga ye

Aho kugira go umutegeke ko akoresha amafaranga cyangwa ayafata mu buryo wifuza, gerageza kumubaza ibibazo byinshi, umusobanuze mu buryo bwose ku buryo usobanukirwa uko we ayakoresha n’ibyo yifuza gukora.

Burya iyo wumva kandi usobanukiwe neza n’imiterere y’umukunzi wawe n’uburyo afata ibintu ntabwo bikugora kimwe no kuba utabyumva. Niba muri mo kuganira ku bijyanye n’amafaranga, ntugahite urakara cyangwa ngo ushake ko atekereza nkawe kuko buri wese agomba kugumana uburenganzira bwe, ahubwo wenda mukumvikana uburyo mwese mwahuriza hamwe.

6. Ntukabwire nabi umukunzi wawe cyangwa ngo umugaye imbere y’uwo ari we wese

Twese iyo twagize ikibazo runaka tuba twifuza ko cyashira, tukifuza uwo twakibwira kugira ngo kidusohokemo, ariko kandi kuvuga umukunzi wawe nabi cyangwa kumusebya imbere y’inshuti ze cyangwa se zawe cyangwa n’undi muntu wese, burya ntabwo biba byiza na gato. Ni yo mpamvuu banavuga ko imyenda isa nabi imeserwa mu mbere, ntabwo ari byiza ko mwishyira hanze. Niba udashoboye kugabanya ‘stress’ uterwa n’ibibazo by’amafaranga mugirana, jya ushaka umujyanama w’abakundana akuganirize, cyangwa se undi muntu usobanukiwe neza n’uburyo amafaranga akoreshwa akugire inama y’uburyo mwajya mubyitwaramo.

7. Jya wibuka kumenya aho kwihangana kwawe kurangirira bityo niwumva uburakari ari bwinshi, umusabe ko mwaba mucumbitse ikiganiro mu minota mike kugira ngo ubanze ufate imbaraga n’undi mwuka.

Hari igihe rwose bigera kure, impaka ari nyinshi, aho kugira ngo mube mwakubahukana, ni byiza ko mufata umwanya mukaba mubihagaritse mwakumva nta kibazo mushobora kongera mukavugana mukaba aribwo wongera.

Imico 3 Isenya Urukundo

2011-05-05T23:34:00.000-07:00

Kugira ngo urukundo rwanyu rugende neza, ndetse mwese musangire ibyishimo kandi mubane neza hari imico imwe n’imwe mugomba kureka kandi burundu.

1. Ntukaremereze utuntu duto

Niba umukunzi wawe akoze agakosa, ntugahite ubikuririza ngo bimere nk’aho yaciye inka amabere nk’uko bajya babivuga. Buri wese afite uburenganzira bwo gukosa, ikibi ni ukubigira akamenyero. Tuvuge, niba ajugunye imyenda hejuru y’uburiri akagenda atayizinze ngo ayisubize mu kabati, ntukamere nk’aho akoze ikindi kintu gikomeye ahubwo wowe jya umuruta uyifate uyizinge uyimusubirize mu kabati kandi ubikorane umutima mwiza utinuba, ni bwo nawe azakureberaho urugero kandi noneho ubutaha akabikora.

Niba akunda gukina imikino yo kuri teleiziyo nk’uko bigaragara ku ifoto, wowe ukaba utabikunda, ntukamurakarire; jya umureka yikinire, gusa umwereke ko wowe utabikunda. Uzaba ureba, ubutaha azajya aza abanze akubaze icyo ushaka kureba kuko ubushize yabonye ko umwihanganira kabone n’iyo wowe utabikunda, azabigirira ko ujya umuha amahoro maze nawe ayaguhe kandi yishimye.

2. Ntukamufatire ibihano kuri buri kantu kose akoze

Guhana umukunzi wawe kuri buri kantu kose akoze udakunda ntacyo bizafasha urukundo rwanyu, usibye guhora mwese murakaranya. Hari abantu bamwe babura icyo bakora iyo abakunzi babo bakoze ibintu batishimira bagahitamo kubashakira ibihano. Ibi bihano bishobora kuba kutavugana nabo mu gihe cy’iminsi ibiri cyangwa inarenze, gutaha bagahita biryamira yakuvugisha ukamusubiza nabi, kumuhisha ibintu bimwe uziko ajya akoresha bikakubangamira (nk’imikino ajya akina, ibitabo ajya asoma akakwima umwanya,) n’ibindi…

Burya akenshi birakubabaza, bikagushengura umutima, aho kugira ngo ubyitwaremo utyo, jya ugerageza kureba ibyiza akora, ugerageze kureba uruhande rwe rwiza kandi wumve ibyo biguhagije; ubundi uzaba ureba ukuntu bizamukora ku mutima agahinduka ubwe nta zindi mbaraga ushyizeho, kubera izo mbuto nziza wamwereye, witwara gutyo.

3. Ntugahatirize

Hari igihe umukunzi wawe ashobora kugukorera ikosa, ukamubabarira ari nko kumwikiza, kubera ko wabuze uko ugira; akenshi ugahora ubyibuka cyangwa ugahora wumva usa n’umurwariye inzika, usa n’uwifuza nawe umunsi umwe kuzamwishyura iryo kosa yagukoreye, ukabona kuruhuka! Kenshi ugerageza no kubyikuramo bikakunanira neza neza, ukagerageza kwishyiramo ko wamubabariye kandi ko wishimanye nawe ariko wakwisuzuma ukumva urasa n’urimo kwibeshya. Sigaho kwirwaza umutima, rekera aho niba wumva byanze, nta tegeko ufite ryo kugumana nawe niba wumva urukundo rwari rubahuje rutagihari kuko ni ryo shingiiro ry’umubano wanyu. Gusa umwegere ubimubwire udahubutse, kuko burya iyo we akigukunda cyangwa se akaba atari abyiteguye biramuremerera cyane kumva ko umusezeye, ko utagishaka kubana nawe.

Mu rukundo, jya wirinda guhubuka no guhatiriza ngo ukore ibitakurimo ushaka kumushimisha, wirinde kandi no kumukomeretsa mu gihe ubimubwira kuko burya umuntu mwigeze kubana n’iyo mwatandukana, ntibiba ari byiza ko mutandukana nabi.

Intambwe 7 Zo Guhitamo Impano Izashimisha Umukobwa/Umugore Ukunda

2011-05-05T23:29:00.000-07:00

1. Ugomba gutekereza ibintu akunda kurusha ibindi

Niba umugore/umukunzi wawe akunda amaherena, ibikomo, imyenda, filimi, cyangwa imikino yo kuri mudasobwa uzabimushakire bizamunezeza. Gusa ugomba kwitonda kugira ngo utagura ikintu umukunzi wawe afite kuko nuramuka umuguriye ikintu yari asanzwe atunze nta bwo bizamushimisha cyane nk’uko wamuha icyo akunda kandi adafite.

Ikindi kintu cyashimisha umukunzi/umugore wawe, ni ukumutungura ukamutekera ibiryo akunda. Banza umenye ubwoko bw’ibiryo akunda, ubimutekere atabizi ubundi nataha mubisangire. Ushobora kandi kugenda ukabimugurira ubundi ukabimushyira aho ari (mu rugo cyangwa iwabo niba ari umukobwa); ibi bizamushimisha kuko azabona ko umuhoza ku mutima.

Niba ugiye kumugurira impano y’imyambaro ugomba kubanza ukamenya ubwoko bw’amabara akunda ukabona kumugurira umwenda; nugura ibara adakunda uzaba ukoreye ubusa kuko atazawambara cyangwa akawambara rimwe (wenda muri busohokane cyangwa buhure) kugira ngo agushimishe ubundi akawubika kure.

Ku birebana n’injyana cyangwa se muzika ni byiza ko wamenya ubwoko mbw’indirimbo umukobwa mukundana akunda kumva, ibi bikazagufasha igihe uzaba ugiye guhitamo izo washyira kuri CD cyangwa DVD wamuha nk’impano.

Ibi ni bimwe mu bitekerezo byagufasha guhitamo impano waha umukunzi wawe, ariko ntawavuga ibyo ushobora guhitamo ngo abirangize ahubwo ni ahawe kumenya icyo akunda kuko burya abantu bakunda ibintu bitandukanye.

Mu gihe noneho utazi ikintu na kimwe akunda (cyane kuri ba bandi baba bagitangira kumenyana/guteretana), gerageza ushake umuntu ubaza ibyo umukunzi wawe akunda; ariko uzirinde kugenda ubaza buri wese kuko inkuru niba kimomo bikamugeraho ibyo uzamugurira nta gaciro na gato azabiha.

2. Gerageza kumenya neza umukobwa mukundana; usobanukirwe uwo ari we

Mbere yo kugira impano uhitiramo umukunzi wawe w’umukobwa ugomba kubanza ukamumenya neza, ukamenya niba ari umuntu ushishikazwa no guhabwa impano izo ari zo zose cyangwa niba ari umuntu ukunda ibintu bike, byoroheje, bihenze,... Niba ari umuntu ukunda ibintu bike, gerageza umenye ibyo bike akunda abe ari byo uzakoresha ugiye kumuha impano (cadeau). Nk’urugero, ashobora gusa kuba akunda chocolate nk’ikiribwa cyangwa se akunda n’ibintu birimo ibara rya chocola, nujya kugura rero uzayibandeho.

3. Reba ibintu akoresha iyo ari mu gihe cye cyo kuruhaka

Jya ugerageza gushakisha umenye ikintu akunda gukora mu gihe nta kazi afite. Urugero rwa hafi umuntu yatanga ni nk’igihe wenda ushobora gusanga iyo aruhuka akunda kuba ari kwandika cyangwa gushushanya. Niba rero mu gihe aruhuka aba arimo ashushanya, uzamugurire agakayi gato bashushanyamo (sketbook) ugaherekereshe ikaramu y’igiti (pencil) azajya akoresha ashushanya. Iyi mpano nta kabuza izamushimisha kurusha n’ibindi bindi watekereza. Zirikana ko mu gihe azaba arimo kwandika muri aka gakaye wamuguriye na buri nshuro akabumbuye azajya ahita akwibuka.

4. Ugomba kumenyana n’inshuti ze ndetse na mama we by’umwihariko

Impamvu nyamukuru ugomba gushaka ubu bucuti n’abantu bo hafi ye (barimo na Mama we) ni uko inshuti y’umuntu ndetse n’umubyeyi ari bo bantu bashobora kuba bamuzi neza, cyane ko ari bo bamarana igihe kinini. Iyi ni yo nzira nziza yo kumenya icyo umukunzi wawe akunda biciye muri aba bantu kandi bikazatuma umugurira impano adafite kuko uzaba wabibajije abantu bamuhora iruhande.

5. Ugomba kumenya ko n’igihe ufite amafaranga make ugomba guha impano umukunzi wawe

Utuntu duko duto tudasaba amafaranga menshi natwo turakora mu rukundo. Urugero, ushobora kumugurira akarabo gato gaherekejwe n’amagambo y’urukundo wenda ukaba wakwandikaho uti: “Mpora ngutekerezaho igihe cyose”. Ibi bizamushimisha kuko niyo uwo mukobwa yaba adakunda indabo amagambo uzandikaho niyo azahita aha agaciro kurusha ururabo uzaba wamuhaye.

6. Mu mpano uzatanga ntuzigere uha umukobwa impano y’amafaranga

Burya amafaranga nta bwo abarirwa mu mpano. Aho kugira ngo uhe umukobwa amafaranga ugomba kugeregeza ukamenya ikintu akeneye ubundi akaba ari cyo umugurira cyangwa se ukareba ikintu umukorera muri ayo mafaranga wateganyaga kumuha.

7. Nujya kugurira umukobwa mukundana imitako cyangwa imyenda ntukamugurire ibihendutse cyane.

Burya abakobwa benshi bakunda ibintu bisa naho bigezweho. Ibyo bintu kandi akenshi biba bihenze. Numugurira ikintu gihenze rero azishima cyane. Aha twavuga nk’ ubwoko bw’ imyambaro buzwi kandi bugezweho muri iyo minsi. Gusa ntibivuze ko ugomba kwishakamo ubushobozi udafite ugamije gushimisha umukunzi, ahubwo bivuze ko utagomba kureba nanone cya kindi kiri ku giciro cyo hasi kurusha ibindi. Aha kandi bivuze ko ushobora kumugurira ikintu gihendutse ariko kigezweho kandi uzi neza ko akunda.

Impano ni uburyo bwiza cyane bwo gushimisha umukunzi. Niba rero ugiye gushakira umukobwa ukunda impano, ni byiza ko ubitekerezaho witonze, ukabanza ukamenya ikintu ari bukunde ubundi nawe ugishakire kutakibura. Kandi uzagerageze kumuha ikintu kizajya kimutandukanya n’ abandi kikaba umwihariko kuri we.

Uburyo 4 bwo Gufasha Umukunzi Kumererwa Neza

2011-05-05T23:22:00.000-07:00

Jya wereka umukunzi wawe, uburyo ukimukunda kandi unamugaragarize ko wishimiye kuba uri kumwe nawe n’iyo mwaba mumaranye igihe kinini cyane.

1 Jya usohokana na we, ugende usa neza nka cya gihe uko wabaga witwararitse igihe agutumira bwa mbere. Igihe mwasohokanye jya umwereka ko ntacyo wishisha kandi ko nta we umubangikanya nawe: Ibi ushobora kubimwereka umusoma ku mugaragaro mu bandi bantu bari aho, umubwira kandi uvuga cyane ko umukunda kandi ko utazamureka n’ibindi byose bishobora kumwereka ko udafite isoni z’uko abantu bamenya ko umukunda.

2 Jya kandi umubwira ko asa neza, kandi ko ari umugabo/umugore w’igitego. Hari igihe abagabo batigirira icyizere bityo bakagira ngo abakobwa b’inshuti zabo ntibabishimiye cyangwa ntibabahagije, jya ugerageza kwereka umukunzi wawe ko aguhagije kandi ko umwishimiye rwose.

3 Rimwe na rimwe kandi jya umwereka ko umufuhira kabone n’aho byaba bitaguturutse ku mutima. Hari abantu bashobora kubona abakunzi babo batajya na rimwe babafuhira bagatangira kwibaza ko batakibakunda cyangwa ko babatendeka. Jya unyuzamo umwereke, yego utarengereye, ko umufuhiye kugira ngo abone ko ukimukeneye, ko ugishaka urukundo rwe kandi ko umushaka ari uwawe gusa.

4 Jya umusoma cyane kandi umwereka ko wari ubikumbuye. Uti ‘nabimwereka nte rero’? Niba aguhaye akabizu agiye nko ku kazi, rimwe na rimwe n’uba wumva umukumbuye, jya uhita umukurura umusome nibura nk’iminota ibiri cyangwa inarenga, umwereke ko n’ubwo yari agusezeye yihuta nyamara wari ukeneye ibirenze ako kabizu gusa, umwereke ko kuba uri kumwe nawe bikurutira ibindi byose kandi ko urukundo rwe ruguhagije.

Intambwe 21 Zo Kubaka Urukundo ku Rutare

2011-05-05T23:14:00.000-07:00

1. Ubahe umukunzi wawe: Akenshi kubera kumenyerana cyane usanga wibagirwa icyubahiro umugomba. Si byiza ko usigara umufata nk’umuntu usanzwe ngo umubwire ibyo wishakira byose. Umukunzi wawe aba akwiye guhora ashimishwa n’uko umwitwaraho, ukamwitwararikaho, ukamwereka ko umuha icyubahiro kandi kimukwiriye. Aba yifuza ko umwubaha kandi ukanamwubahisha mu bandi.

2. Nyurwa n’uko umukunzi wawe ameze: Abakundana benshi batandukanywa n’uko umwe mu bakundana atanyurwa n’uko uwo akunda ameze, yabona inshuti ye ifite umukunzi akifuza ko nawe uwe yaba ameze atyo kandi burya ikigushimisha si cyo cyashimisha undi, n’icyo wakundiye umukunzi wawe sicyo undi yakundiye uwe, bityo byakabaye byiza buri wese anyuzwe n’uko umukunzi we ameze.

3. Jya ubwira umukunzi wawe ko ari mwiza, yambaye neza, aberewe,… bitari ukumureshya no kumuryarya, ahubwo ari ukumwereka uburyo aguhagije kandi ko uticuza icyo wamukundiye.

4. Mubwire utujambo tw’urukundo, umubwire kandi nta soni ufite ko umukunda, nibura inshuro imwe ku munsi. Hari abantu bamwe batinya kuvuga ijambo”ndagukunda”, kandi mu by’ukuri nta muntu n’umwe udashimishwa no kubwirwa n’umukunzi ko amukunda, cyangwa ko nta soni biteye kuba umukunda. Ni byiza ko ubimubwira, akabimenya, akareka kubishidikanyaho; ariko ntibibe kubimubwira gusa ahubwo unabimwereke mu bikorwa.

5. Mujye mugira imishinga mufatanya: Burya iyo abantu bakundana usanga batavugana ku bintu byose, ariko bikaba byiza iyo bagize ibyo bafatanya gukorana nk’udushinga duto, gutegura urugendo bazakorana, kubaka inzu; ntibibe bya bindi umwe agenda akiherera agakora ibintu undi akazatungurwa!

6. Mujye mwicarana muganire cyane cyane ku kibazo runaka kibugarije, mugirane inama, kandi mugire n’umwanzuro mufatira hamwe.

7. Mujye mugerageza guhana impano bitari ngombwa wenda ko ziba zihenze cyane, ariko zifite icyo zisobanuye, zishobora kuvuga no gukora byinshi kurusha ibyo wavuga n’umunwa wawe.

8. Mujye mufatanya muri byose: Niba ari mu makosa umukosore kandi niba aguye mu byago ntumutererane.

9. Jya uhora umwishimiye kandi umwereke ko ari uwa mbere mu buzima bwawe: Abantu benshi birabagora kwerekana ibyo biyumvamo, ariko burya bishimisha umukunzi kumwereka ko ari uwa mbere, ko watomboye kumubona, ko wifuza ko muzibanira akaramata, kandi ko nta na rimwe uzigera umureka n’ibindi byose byiza wamwereka.

10. Birashoboka ko mushobora kuganira mukagera kure, mugakoranaho, mugasomana ndetse yewe mukaba mwanagera aho muryamana, ariko ntimukabigire nk’aho aricyo gisobanuro cy’urukundo kuko urukundo ni rugari rurenze ibi bifatika!

11. Mujye mugira umwanya wo guseka, mubwirane inkuru zisekeje, muruhurane mu mutwe, musekeee.. museke peee! Ntiwari uzi se ko guseka bavuga ko byongera iminsi yo kubaho? Usibye n’ibyo kandi ni byiza ko ukora utuntu cyangwa ukabwira utuntu umukunzi wawe dutuma agukumbura iyo udahari, yaba atwibutse yewe mutanari kumwe agaseka.

12. Mujye mugira ingingo runaka mutegura kuganiraho nibura rimwe mu byumweru bibiri, ingingo mubona ko yabubaka mwembi, wenda nibiba ngombwa mushake ubarusha kuyumva cyangwa kuyisobanukirwa ayibaganirizeho.

13. Mujye mugira igihe cyo kuganira ku ndoto zanyu kandi buri wese afashe undi kuzigeraho.

14. Ntimugapfukirane: Mbere y’uko akubona yari afite ibyo asanzwe akunda ndetse afite n’izindi nshuti. Ikindi kandi burya umuntu ni mugari ku buryo wowe wenyine udashobora kumuhaza; akeneye umubera umuvandimwe, uwo batera ibiparu mu gihe ashaka kwiruhurira mu mutwe (aba bajya bita Abajama), akeneye umunyenshuri bigana cyangwa umukozi bakorana kugira ngo amubere inshuti y’umwihariko, akeneye inshuti magara,…Jya umureka rero yisanzure kuba agufite ntibivuga ko yasubijwe ko nta n’undi muntu n’umwe akeneye.

15. Mwese muri kimwe, ntukumve ko hari ibyo wemerewe we atakora cyangwa ngo wumve ko hari amakosa ashobora gukorwa n’abagabo atakorwa n’abagore cyangwa se yakorwa n’abagore ntakorwe n’abagabo. Mwese muri kimwe, nta mwana, nta mukozi w’undi, nta mucakara w’undi ahubwo muri umwe; bityo rero ntihakagire uwumva ibi bireba uriya ngo we yumve ntacyo bimubwiye.

16. Mwemere uko ari, wishimire uko ari kuko ariwe Imana yakuremeye. Ntukumve ko wakwishima kurushaho ari uko uri kumwe na kanaka, jya ushimishwa n’umukunzi wawe kandi wige guhazwa n’ibyo ufite.

17. Ntimukabeshyane kandi ntimugacane inyuma: Ntacyo abandi bamurusha, bityo jya unyurwa n’uko ameze, ni wo muberanye pe.

18. Mujye mubabarirana, igihe umwe muri mwe, agize ikosa agwamo: Niba hari icyo yakoze kitagushimishije, ntukumve ko isi yakuguyeho, ntukumve kandi ko bikabije ku buryo adakwiye kubabarirwa. Twese turi abanyamakosa kandi buri wese yemerewe gukosa kuko tutari abamalayika, gusa ntuzabigendereho ngo nawe uhore ubabaza umukunzi, umunsi umwe ashobora kunanirwa kwihangana akagusiga kandi ntibyakugwa neza.

19. Jya usigarana amasomo y’ibyakubayeho, ntukibagirwe kugira ngo bijye bigufasha guhora wirinda kugwa mu makosa wigeze kugwamo kera.

20. Jya ugira ubushake ko urukundo rwanyu rwakomeza, niba usenga jya ubishyira mu isengesho ryawe rya buri munsi, ntukibagirwe ko byose bishoboka, urukundo rukwiye guhora ruvomerwa.

21. Ntimukararane umujinya-ikibazo cyababaje ntirikarenge mutagikemuye. Burya iyo umujinya urengeje umunsi umwe uhinduka inzigo kandi kuyibagirwa no kuyihagarika bikagorana

Amareshyamugeni! Utugambo tw'Urukundo

2011-05-05T23:10:00.000-07:00

Ikiganiro kigizwe n’amagambo yuzuye urukundo (imitoma) ni kimwe mu buryo bwifashishwa kugirango ushimishe uwo ukunda kuko burya umutima ukunda rimwe na rimwe uba ukeneye amagambo aryoshye yo kuwuhira. Aha rero hari amwe mu magambo wabwira umukunzi wawe akanezerwa ariko ukoresheje umunwa wawe udakoresheje telefone cyangwa se ibaruwa kuko burya iyo wivugiye ijambo n’akanwa kawe bituma uwo uribwiye arizirikana kurushaho.

Mugihe muganira, mubwire uti:

 Ibyo nkora byose ni ukugira ngo nzabane nawe ubuzima bwanjye bwose,

 Zahabu zose na diyama ziri ku isi ntabwo bihagije ngo umuntu abe yagura urukundo umutima wanjye ugufitiye

 Imana yarakundemeye kugira ngo guteteshe

 Urukundo rwawe rwarantwaye

 Nabaye nk’umusazi kubera wowe

 Sinshobora guhagarika ku gutekerezaho

 Sinshobora na rimwe gutera agahinda umutima wawe

 Sinshaka kubyuka kubera inzozi nziza nari ndimo hamwe nawe

 Iyo turi kumwe numva ntekanye

 Namaze kuvumbura urukundo ry’ukuri muri wowe

 Nkunda kuganira nawe

 Nkunda uburyo unkunda

 Nshimira Imana umunsi wa mbere yakunzaniye muzima bwanjye

 Ndifuza kumarana nawe ubuzima bwanjye bwose

 Icyo ari cyo cyose nzasabwa kugira ngo ngumane nawe nzagitanga

 Nzaguha umutima wanjye wose, umubiri wanjye, n’ibitekerezo byanjye byose

 Nzajyana nawe ku mpera z’isi mu gihe uzaba ukinkunda

 Sinhobora kukurutisha amafaranga n’izahabu

 Nzemera guca mu bikomeye n’ibihome byose kugira ngo nzabane nawe

 Ndasaba Imana kugira ngo ikunzanire vuba hashoboka

 Nzakwitangira muri byose nihangira igishaka kukubabaza

 Niba kugukunda ari icyaha nzemera mbe umunyabyaha

 Niba urukundo ari impumyi sinifuza kongera kubona umucyo w’umunsi ukundi

 Ubuzima butagufite ni nko kujya kuryama warangiza ukarota nabi cyangwa se ntugire inzozi nziza

 Kugukunda ni nko kwibera muri paradizo cyngwa mu ijuru

 Kugukunda bindyohereza ubuzima

 Gukundana nawe byatumye umutima wanjye wuzura ibyishimo n’umunezero

 Umutima wanjye urarira iyo utandi hafi

 Ni wowe rukundo rwanjye, uri umutima wanjye ni nawe buzima bwanjye

 Nta wundi muntu wankunda nk’uko unkunda

 Nta kintu na kimwe cyahagarika urukundo rwanjye

 Ooh rukundo rwanjye uri mwiza kuri njye

 Uburyo umpobera n’uburyo unsoma (kisses) ni iby’agaciro kurusha zahabu

 Kuvugana nawe ni nko kunywa ku muzabibu (Wine) uryohereye, ibi kandi nibyo nifuza iteka

 Igihe tumarana ni nk’umukino mwiza amafaranga adashobora kugura

 Iyo turi kumwe ibyago byanjye byose bihita bihunga

 Iyo kwitegereje nkubonamo umuntu w’igiciro

 Amagambo ntabwo ahangije ngo ngusobanurire uburyo gukunda

 Niwowe gikomangoma (prince) cyanjye

 Uri uw’agaciro kuri njye

 Uri indirimbo ituma umutima wanjye uririmba

 Ni wowe nari narifuje mu buzima bwanjye

 Uri igice cy’ubuzima bwanjye gituma numva mbaye umuntu wuzuye

 Ni wowe mugabo cyangwa mugore w’inzozi zanjye

 Ni wowe muntu uryoshye cyane namenye

 Nta kindi kwifuzaho uretse urukundo, amahoro n’ibyishimo

 Watumye ntuza muri njye

 Watumye niyumva nk’umuntu w’agaciro

 Ndumva nifuza kugusoma kuva ku mutwe kugeza kw’ino

 Utuma mpora ndushaho kugutekerezaho buri munsi

 Umfata nk’igikomangoma cyawe najye bigatuma ngukunda n’umutima wanjye wose

 Ni wowe muntu ugira imico n’imyifatire byiza nabonye kuva nabaho

 Amagambo yawe y’urukundo akora kundiba y’umutima wanjye

 Urukundo rwawe rumeze nk’ibuye rinini ridashobora kumeneka

 Urukundo rwawe ni rwiza sinshobora gutekereza kujya ahandi

 Iyo unsekeye utuma amarira yambugaga mu maso ahita asubirayo

 Iyo unkojejeho intoki zawe numva ninjiye mu yindi si

 Rimwe na rimwe ujye umubwira ko udashobora kubaho adahari , n’ibindi.

Ibintu 7 Byangiza Ubuzima bw'Abakundana

2011-05-05T23:00:00.000-07:00

Ibi bintu birindwi biri mu bituma urukundo rwanyu rucumbagira, bitangira ari bitoya ariko mutarebye neza bishobora gutuma ruhagarara! Nta kindi wakora rero usibye kubyirinda ukanabirinda umukunzi wawe, mwembi mukabigendera kure, bityo mukaba murinze urukundo rwanyu.

1. Televiziyo

Muzarebe namwe nk’iyo hari filimi za seri (series), ukava ku kazi mbere yo kubaza uko abo mu rugo biriwe ugahita uhitira kuri televiziyo, cyangwa ari mu gihe cy’imipira ya champion’s League cyangwa n'iyindi,… biri mu bintu bibangamira abakundana.

Kujya ku meza wicaye imbere ya Televiziyo kabone n’aho mwaba murimo kureba ibintu mwembi bibashimishije iyo bibaye buri gihe bituma nta mwihariko w’ibiganiro byanyu mugirana, ugatuma nta mwanya mufata ngo muganire, mwitekerezeho.

2. Guhora mu bintu bimwe

Ya restaurant mwakundaga gusohokeramo, rya funguro mwakundaga gusangira, ha hantu hose mwakundaga gutemberera,… muri make bya bindi byose mwajyaga mukunda, bya bindi byose byajyaga bibashishikaza, byose mwarabyibagiwe, mwarabitaye,… ubu musigaye mubana nk’abantu bamenyeranye bihorera mu bintu bimwe, nta mwihariko wanyu mufite, nta gashya mu rukundo rwanyu kandi urukundo ni nk’ururabyo rusaba guhora ruvomerwa, ibi nabyo biri mu bituma couple inanirwa, igacumbagira byarimba ndetse ikaba yanahagarara burundu.

3. Gukora amasaha arenga ayo mwagombaga

Rekera aho gutaha bwije, bitari uko gusa nawe ubwawe nta gihe wiha ahubwo kuko n’uwo ukunda nta mwanya na muke ukimuha. Gerageza kuva ku masaha wakoraga nibura ukureho nk’abiri ukomeze kugera ubwo uzumva nawe ubwawe usigaye ubona umwanya wo kuruhuka. Impamvu y’ibi rero si no kugira ngo uruhuke gusa, nta n’ubwo impamvu bibangamira umukunzi wawe ari uko atakikubona gusa, ahubwo ni uko iyo umaze igihe ukora cyane utaruhuka n’ibiganiro byawe ubwabyo biba ari ibyerekeranye n’akazi kawe gusa, bityo ugasanga ariko konyine uha umwanya mu buzima bwawe, umukunzi wawe ntiyongere kubona umwanya mu buzima bwawe.

4. Kutiyitaho

Kuba umaranye igihe kinini n’umukunzi wawe, ntibivuze ko bihagije; kuba kandi akuzi neza agukunda uko uri - ibyiza byawe n’ibibi byawe- ntibivuze ko bihagije nta kindi ushobora gukora. Si byiza ko ujya mu bwiherero ugasiga udasutsemo amazi ngo ni uko mujya no gukundana ariko wari umeze yabyihanganiye, nta n’ubwo ari byiza ko musohokana utikozeho, ngo wambare neza, usokoze imisatsi yawe neza, ku buryo buri munsi abona impamvu yo kugumana nawe, ku buryo n’abandi bakureba koko bakabona ko afite umukunzi mwiza. Ni ngombwa kumwereka ko ari umuntu w’agaciro imbere yawe ku buryo buri gihe uba ugomba kwishimira kuba ari uwawe ukabimwereka umuha agaciro akwiye koko.

5. Kumwima agaciro

Mu bintu bya mbere bibangamira couple, harimo kuba udaha agaciro umukunzi wawe.

Aha sinshatse kuvuga kumugurira impano gusa, kumuha indabyo nziza z’amaroze, ibi byose si byo byonyine byereka umukunzi wawe ko umuhaye agaciro. Ahubwo, wenda niba muri kumwe, jya umureba umwereke ko n’ubu utarumva uburyo yakwemereye ko utura mu mutima we; birahagije ko umenya kandi ukamubwira ikintu cyose gishya cyamubayeho, niba yambaye umwenda mushya, niba avuye muri salon de coiffure, ugahita ubibona kandi ukabimubwira; ntugatinye kumubwira igihe ubona asa neza cyangwa yambaye neza, ntugatinye na rimwe kumubwira icyo umutekerezaho cyane cyane iyo ari cyiza kandi ubona ko gishobora kumwubaka.

6. Gufuha birenze urugero

Burya iyo ukunda umuntu ni ngombwa ko umufuhira, ariko na bwo iyo urengereye ntibiba bikiri byiza.

Rekera aho kumucunga no kumucungisha abandi, si umujura. Rekera aho gucunga ubutumwa bugufi yakiriye kuri telefoni ye, rekera aho gucunga email zamwandikiwe n’izo yanditse. Jya umenya ko ikintu cy’ingenzi mu rukundo ari icyizere kandi mwese mukakigirirana. Iyo ukomeje kumwereka ko utamwizeye, agera aho akaruha na we akagera aho akumva ntaryohewe bityo rwose akaba yanisangira undi umuha amahoro.

7. Kwifata bikabije

Kumenya imibereho ya couple yanyu burya ni ingenzi kandi birabareba mwese. Rimwe na rimwe hari ibintu biba bidakwiye gukorwa nk’ umugenzo. Iyo abantu bakundana cyane cyane abamaze kubana dore ko ari nabo baba babyemerewe, ni byiza ko bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina. Burya si ngombwa ko buri joro uko mugiye kuryama mutangira kubonana, nta n’ubwo ari formule rwose kuko iki ni igikorwa gikorwa iyo buri wese abyiyumvamo, bitari uko ari formule. Niba utabyiyumvamo aho kugira ngo ubikore nabi, wabireka rwose ariko kandi mujye mugerageza mwembi, mumenye igihe mwumva mwese mubishaka. Gusa ntimugahore mu bintu bimwe hato mutazarambirwa ahubwo nimugerageze guhindura uburyo mubikoramo, mugerageze kubwizanya ukuri ibishimisha buri wese, mugerageze guhindura igihe, kuko burya iyo bihora ari bimwe nta gashya, mugera aho mukarambirwa. Nimugerageze mwumve ko ari igikorwa muha agaciro. Nko mu bihugu byateye imbere ho, hari igihe abakunzi bava mu gihugu bakajya mu kindi, mu mugabane bakajya mu wundi, ariko kugira ngo urukundo rwabo ruhore ari rushya nta bintu bihoraho kandi birambirana bakora.

Amakosa 4 y'Urukundo Abagore Bakora

2011-05-05T22:48:00.000-07:00

Abagore bakunda gukora uko bashoboye kose kugira ngo babane neza n’ abagabo babo bityo bakaba rimwe na rimwe bashobora kutabigeraho bitewe n’ amakosa bashobora gukora mu buryo batazi.

1. Kwizera ko ushobora guhindura umugabo

Kugumana icyizere ko ushobora guhindura ingeso mbi z’ inshuti yawe ni uburyo bubi bwo gushaka umukunzi. Umuntu nakubwira kugumana n’ umuhungu mukundana kuko ushobora kumuhindura ntukemere iyo nama.

2. Kwicecekera

Igitekerezo kivuga ko umugore agomba kwitonda kuruta uko asanzwe kugira ngo atege umugabo we amatwi gusa ni ikosa rikomeye. Niba umugabo wawe atagukundira uko umeze cyangwa akumva adatekanye kuko yifuza umuntu arusha ubwenge ntugomba kumushaka. Iyo ugerageza guhisha ubushobozi bwawe uba ukora ikosa rikomeye nubwo yaba ari mwiza bingana bite. Ntugire ikibazo igumire wenyine.

3. Gutegereza ko umugabo agenda

Urukundo rw’ ubu ndetse n’ibitabo bigezweho bivuga ko umugore agomba gutegereza ko umugabo agira aho ajya kugira ngo nawe agire aho ajya. Nubwo rimwe na rimwe ibyo ari byiza, no kugira icyo ukora kugira ngo ubone icyo wifuza kimwe no kugaragaza uko umeze ni byiza. Ibi kandi binagaragara ku bintu bimwe na bimwe byo mu rugo, aho abagore bamwe bategereza guhabwa ‘uburengenzira’ n’abagaabo mbere yo kugira icyo bakora. Niba barakubwiye gutegereza ko telefone isona baguhaye inama mbi. Niba ukeneye ikintu gifate, ubundi uze kumusobanurira. Gusa uzirinde gusesagura

4. Gukora icyo ashaka cyose

Iri ni irindi kosa mu rukundo. Ni byiza gufata icyemezo wagishije inama. Mu gihe gutegereza umugabo kugira ngo ahitemo igihe aribyo byiza, gupfukiranya ibitekerezo byawe kubera ubwoba si byiza. Gerageza kureka gukora ibyo yifuza byose mu ntangiriro z’ umubano wanyu kuko ushobora kuzamutungura utangiye kubinanirwa. Aho kugira ngo ushyire umubano wanyu mu kaga no mu ntambara, emerera kamere yawe n’ ibitekerezo byawe kwigaragaza igihe cyose.

Uburyo 5 Wakoresha Kugira ngo Umugabo Wawe Arusheho Kugukunda

2011-05-05T22:42:00.000-07:00

1. Ereka umugabo wawe ko umukunda aho kubimubwira

Burya mu rukundo ibikorwa nibyo by’igenzi kurusha amagambo. Ntuzakore ibyo ukeka ko abagore benshi bakorera abagabo babo cyangwa se ibyo bakubwira ngo ukorere uwawe ahubwo gerageza ukore utuntu tw’umwihariko, umwereke ko umukunda bidaciye mu bandi. Niba ushaka ko umugabo wawe azajya aguha impano gerageza nawe umuhe impano hanyuma nawe uzajya uzibona, nyinshi kandi buri munsi. ikindi kandi ugomba kujya wita ku mugabo wawe igihe cyose, ni ukuvuga mwaba mwirirwanye mu urugo cyangwa igihe avuye ku kazi; niba akora ugomba ku mwitaho. Menya ko ari ikosa kuguma kuri telefone uvugana n’incuti zawe kandi umugabo wawe ahari. Niba ushaka ko umugabo wawe agufata mu buryo budasanzwe tangira nawe umufate neza mu buryo bwose ushoboye.

2. Gerageza umwereke ibikorwa by’urukundo buri kanya

Niba muri umugabo n’umugore mwubatse, umugore akaba amaze kumenyera ko buri gihe umugabo ariwe uzana ingingo yo gutera urubariro bikwiye guhinduka. Mugore nawe rimwe na rimwe jya ugerageza ube ari wowe utuma mutera akabariro bizatuma umugabo wawe yumva ko nawe umukunda. Ibi kandi bizanatuma yikuramo ikintu cyo kumva ko igihe azanye igitekerezo kimeze gutya uzamuhakanira. kuko ngo usanga abagabo benshi bumva ko bari busubizwe inyuma igihe bazanye igitekerezo cyo gutera urubariro. bi ntibivuzeko iki ari cyo kintu cyonyine cyatuma umugabo wawe abona ko umukunda ariko nanone hari ikintu bizahindura ku kuntu yagufataga, bizatuma kandi agukunda mu buryo wifuzaga.

3. Hagarika intonganya hagati yawe n’umugabo wawe ahubwo utangire gukoresha amagambo meza y’urukundo igihe muganira

Ubundi ngo muri rusange abagabo benshi ntibakunda gusubiza neza abagore babo bigatuma n’abagore bavuga nabi. Nyamara icyiza si uko umuntu ukubwiye nabi nawe umwuka indi, ahubwo mugore jya ugerageza wicishe bugufi utege amatwi umugabo wawe ubundi umubwirane ikinyapfura ko uburyo agusubisazamo utabikunda kandi umubwire ko n’iyo aguciye intege bikubabaza cyane . Aha bizatuma umugabo atangira kugabanya gukoresha amagambo akarishye mu mvugo ye kuko azaba abonye ko utabimenyereye.

4. Mwereke ko umutima wawe n’ibyuyumvo byawe bimufitiye icyizere

Igihe muri kuganira ujye ukoresha amagambo amwereka ko umwizera kandi ko umutima wawe udashidikanya ko umugabo wawe ari umumwizerwa. Ntugakunde kumubaza ibijyanye n’umubano wanyu cyangwa se ngo wibaze icyo yakora mu mibanire yanyu, bityo bizatuma umugabo abona ko unyurwa n’ibyo agukorera noneho arusheho kugenda agukunda.

5. Gerageza kwiyoroshya ujye unanyuzamo museke bizatuma amenya ko burya nawe ukunda ibintu bikunezeza

Abagore benshi bakunda guhora bafunze amasura bashaka ko bahora baganira ibiganiro biremereye ndetse binasaba gutekerezaho cyane kandi burya abagabo bakunda kuruhuka mu mutwe biganirira ibintu bitabasaba gukoresha ingufu z’ubwonko. Nubigenza gutya bizatuma akanya yagaha abandi wenda ari nko mu kabari kugira ngo aruhuke mu mutwe aganira n’abandi bisekera. Ariko niba unyuzamo ukamusetsa, mukaganira ku bintu bisanzwe bituma munezerwa bizatuma aguha akanya kandi ajye ahora agukumbuye. Ugomba rero kwiga uburyo wajya ukina n’umugabo wawe mukishima kandi mugaseka.

Uburyo bwo Gutinyuka Kubwira Umusore/Umukobwa ko Umukunda

2011-05-05T22:32:00.000-07:00

Gutinyuka kwegera umuntu ukunda, ariko mutaziranye ukaba wanamubwira ko umukunda si ibintu byoroshye

1 Gerageza kumwegera

Ni henshi muhurira -mu ishuri, mu kazi, buri mugoroba hari alimentation muhuriramo, - none urambiwe rwose guhora umubona umutima ukadiha kandi we ntacyo bimubwiye!

Byakurambiye urifuza kumubwira icyo umutekerezaho, urifuza rwose kumenya ikibazo ufite nibura umutima wawe ukaruhuka, yashaka akakumva, yashaka akagusuzugura, ariko umutima wawe ukaruhuka.

Dore uko wabigenza kugira ngo akubone neza ubwa mbere

• Gerageza kwishyiramo ibitekerezo byiza kandi bitaguca intege. Ishyiremo ko uri mwiza, ko uri uwa mbere; ese ubundi umusore/inkumi nkawe yaturukahe? Ni nde se utifuza kugira umukunzi nka we? Ibi n’ubwo atari ko buri gihe bikora, ariko rwose birafasha kuko biguha ubushobozi bwo kuba wagerageza kwegera wa muntu ubusanzwe ubona ugatitira, kubera ubwoba bwo kubona ntaho wamuhera.

• Subiza ibirenge ku isi. Gerageza kubanza kwiyitaho bihagije, usokoze neza, wambare neza, ube uhumura neza, mbese fraicheur ari zose.Gusa ntugakabye kuko kugeza aha nturamenya ibyo yanga n’ibyo akunda. By’umwihariko, nujya guhitamo imyenda wambara, witondere kumenya itakubangamiye, wambara koko ukumva umerewe neza.

• Nubishaka wenda, ubanze ufate n’agapapuro ushyire ku murongo imyitwarire yawe mibi (defaults) zawe wumva wifuza kutaza kwerekana imbere ye, hanyuma urebe n’imyitwarire yawe myiza (Qualités) wumva wifuza ko abona, gusa nturengere ngo ushake ko abona ko wujuje byose(uri parfait) kuko uwo muntu umeze atya n’ubu ntarabaho.

Byitwaremo neza

Ni ngombwa cyane ko akubona neza ku munota wa mbere. Kubera iyo mpamvu ugerageze rero ntuvange ibintu.

• Utagombye kwandika byinshi, mbere y’uko muhura, fata agapapuro gato wandikeho utuntu duke wumva wifuza ko muza kuganira kuri uwo mugoroba/icyo gihe muhuye, muri hamwe cyangwa mubonanye. Niba wateganyije kuganira ku ngingo runaka, nyabuneka ntukayijye ku ruhande, ntukanavange ibintu igihe murimo kuganira, jya wirinda kandi no kuvuga cyane kugira ngo ataza kurambirwa.

• Rimwe na rimwe, ariko n’ubundi utarengereye cyane, jya ugerageza kuzanamo akantu gashya mu byo mwaganiraga igihe ubonye ko ibyo mwaganiraga bisa n’aho bishize cyangwa n’ibyamurambiye; umwereke ko wifuza kumumenya cyane ariko ko umwubaha ku buryo wanze kurengera, urebe niba nawe yifuza kukwifungurira utamushyizeho agahato.

• Ntimuzatandukane utamubwiye koko kandi mu buryo bw’ikinyabupfura icyo umutekerezaho. Rimwe na rimwe umuntu ashobora gutumira umuntu akunda bakarinda batandukanna atamubwiye icyo yamushakiraga kandi mu kutumira yaramubwiraga ko amushaka hari icyo yifuza kumubwira cyangwa ko baganiraho. Si byiza kuko ashobora guhita aguca amazi nk’uko abenshi bakunda kubivuga. Mubwire utamubeshya kandi udakabije uburyo umwiyumvamo gusa ntumuhatire guhita aguha igisubizo kuko uwo mwanya wafashe ubitekerezaho nawe afite uburenganzira bwo kuwubona.

• Ntukarebe hasi urimo kubimubwira cyangwa yewe n’igihe urangije kubimubwira kuko gukunda umuntu si icyaha, kandi si na ngombwa ko usanga nawe ari uko. Murebe mu maso utamutera ubwoba cyangwa ngo umuhangare, ahubwo murebane indoro yoroshye, umubwire ko uko ari ko kuri kuri mu mutima wawe kandi ko ntaho umukinze. Burya rimwe na rimwe indoro yonyine ishobora kuvuga byinshi kurusha amagambo.

Uburyo 5 bwo Kumenya Niba Umukobwa w'Inshuti Yawe Agukunda

2011-05-05T22:19:00.000-07:00

Kuba umukobwa yarakwemereye ko agukunda ntibihagije guhita ubyemera nk’ukuri kuko hari igihe ashobora kubyemera bitewe n’inyungu akubonamo . Ugomba rero kubanza ukitonda ugashishoza, ukareba ko agukunda koko . Dore bimwe mu byakugaragariza ko agukunda bya nyabyo:

1 Yifuza kukuba hafi iteka

Ahora iteka ashaka kuba hafi yawe, igihe mutari kumwe akakwandikira akubaza amakuru cyangwa se akaguhamagara ntarindire ko ari wowe umuhamagara gusa; ahanini uzumva akubaza niba wageze mu rugo mu gihe ukora cyangwa se uri umunyeshuri. Aba yumva kandi ashaka kumenya uko wiriwe, mbese uko umunsi wakugendekeye. Umukobwa ugukunda kandi uzumva yishimira kumenya gahunda zawe no kumenya ibyo utegenya gukora mu minsi y’ikiruhuko nka week-end .

Nawe kandi arakureka ukamenya amakuru ye ndetse nawe ubwe ukamumenya. Bene uyu mukobwa ntashobora kwibagirwa kuguhamagara cyangwa kukuvugisha ku itariki y’agaciro mu buzima bwanyu. Muri make, agerageza kumarana nawe igihe kirekire.

2 Akwereka umuryango we n’incuti ze

Uru aba ari urukundo rwuzuye kandi ni iby’agaciro mu gihe umukobwa afashe icyemezo cyo kukwereka ababyeyi be cyangwa abandi bantu bo mu muryango we ndetse n’inshuti ze za hafi adashatse kukugumisha mu kigare kimwe. Uyu mukobwa kandi ngo aba ashaka kugushyira hafi ye kugira ngo ukomeze umwiyumvemo ku bundi buryo. Ikindi umukobwa ugukunda yishimirako buri muntu amenya ko muri kumwe kandi akavuga ko mukundana uri inshutiye ya mbere.

3 Ni umukobwa wihagararaho kandi ugufitiye icyizere

Umukobwa nk’uyu aguha umwanya wawe wo gusohoka n’inshuti zawe kandi ntibimutere ikibazo. Ubundi azagera aho ategure kuza kukureba ari kumwe na bagenzi be. Ubushuti bufite icyizere bumara igihe kinini, buraramba kandi bukagenda bwaguka; ni ukuvuga ko umukobwa ukwizera akenshi aba anagukunda.

4 Umukobwa ugukunda rimwe na rimwe aragufuhira

Kuba umukunzi wawe agufuhira ntibizagutere ikibazo kuko burya iyo abagore bafushye bihita bigaragarira buri wese . Gufuha ntabwo ari ikimenyetso cy’urwango ahubwo ni urukundo rwinshi aba yifitemo; ni ukuvuga ko gufuha ari ikimenyetso cy’urukundo. Nubona ikintu cyose uzakora kitababaza umukobwa mukundana cyangwa se ukabona atajya agufuhira na gato, uzamenye ko uwo mukobwa atakwitayeho .

5 Azakwibwirira ko agukunda

Ubundi ngo mu mibereho y’abakobwa hari amagambo abagora gukoresha nko kubwira umuhungu ko amukunda. Niwumva rero abivuze uzamenye ko byamuvunnye cyane . Burya umukobwa utagukunda by’ukuri ntiyapfa kubumbura umunwa we ngo akubwire ko agukunda yumva mu byiyumviro bye atari ko bimeze. Umukobwa rero uzakubwira ko agakunda uzamenyeko nta n’ikibazo yagira isi yose imenye ko agukunda; mbega aba akwishimiye anishimiye kuba ari kumwe nawe.

Niba rero ufite umukobwa wita ko ari inshuti yawe (girlfriend) ,ugasanga mu bimenyetso tuvuze haruguru nta na kimwe afite cyangwase akugaragariza menya ko atagukunda na buhoro ahubwo urebe uburyo wabona undi ugukunda kandi ubikwereka mu bikorwa no mu magambo.

Impamvu 9 Zituma Abasore Batinya Guhita Bashaka

2011-05-05T22:07:00.000-07:00

1.Abasore basigaye bakundana, bakabona ibintu byose bisa niby’umugabo washatse umugore kandi bo batararushinga.

Niba rero uri umukobwa ugakorera umuhungu mukundana ibintu byose ,ukamwitangira nkaho ari umugabo wawe ngo ntuzategereze ko azagushyira mu rugo mu buryo bwihuse aha ngo aba abona gushaka ntacyo bimubwiye kuko aba abona ntaho atandukaniye n’abamaze kurushinga.

2.Hari igihe umubyeyi we aba atarahiriwe n’urushako, bigatuma umusore yumva atifuza kuba mu buzima nk’ubwo umubyeyi we yabayemo

Burya ngo abagabo benshi bakunda kubaho mu buzima bw’urukundo rutagira amakemwa. Iyo yumva rero gushaka atazabigiriramo ibyishimo usanga bihita bimuca intege cyane iyo azi ko n’umubyeyi we yahuye n’icyo kibazo. Aha umuntu yatanga urugero nk’iyo ababyeyi b’uyu muhungu batabanye neza bikagera naho batandukana(Divorce),cyangwa se bakabaho batumvikana na gato. Ibi bituma yanga ibyo gushaka ndetse akaba atanapfa guhita abikora kuko aba abona byamukururira ibibazo

3.Hari igihe aba yumva atarahaga irari rya gisore

Iyo umusore yumva atarahaga ubusore bwe , aba yumva kurongora bizamubangamira bikamubuza kwiryohereza ubuzima ijana ku ijana uko abyifuza, agahitamo kuba abiretse.

4.Hari igihe aba yumva atifuza ko umukobwa bari kumwe yazamubera mama w’abana be.

Kuri iyi ngingo umusore aba yishimira kugendana nawe (umukobwa), kuba basangira akumva nta kibazo ariko akumva atari (wo)we yifuza ko mwabana akaramata. Bitavuze ko utari mwiza -ushobora kuba uri mwiza n’abantu bose babibona- ariko we akumva utari ku rwego rw’umukobwa yifuza kuzabana nawe. Ibi rero nibyo bituma umusore amara igihe kinini adashaka kandi abantu bazi ko afite inshuti.

5.Ushobora kuba utaramugoye mu kumwemerera urukundo

Abagabo benshi bakunda abakobwa babarushya mbere y’uko bakundana. Niyo ngo waba uri mwiza gute ariko utaramugoye aba yumva bidahagije; maze akumva hari ikibura. Abagabo bakunda kubanza kuvunika mbere yo kugera ku kintu.

6. Ushobora kuba uri umukobwa uteye uko umuhungu mukundana adakunda

Abahungu bamwe na bamwe bakunda kureba imiterere y’bakobwa, akavuga ati: “njye umukobwa tuzabana azaba areshya atya, apima ibiro bingana gutya” n’ibindi. Iyo rero ibyo ashaka utabyujuje ngo ntuzategereze ko muzabana akaramata. Ashobora kuba yishimira uburyo mubanye n’ imyitwarire yawe ariko yakureba akabona atari wowe mukobwa w’inzozi ze.

7.Iyo umuhungu abona nta cyerekezo cyangwa se intumbero ufite mu byo ukora ntiyapfa kugushaka

Hari igihe umuhungu aba abona uri wa mukobwa utagira icyo yamufasha mu gihe muzaba mubana mu nzu-nko kubirebana no gushaka amafaranga azatunga urugo rwanyu akaba abona ntacyo byakubwira- aha ngo umuhungu ntiyagira imbaraga zo kugushyira mu rugo.

8.Iyo abona uri umukobwa ushobora ku mucunga; mbega ngo ukaba wamuhozaho ijisho

Igihe umusore yamaze kuvumbura ko uri wa mukobwa wamuhozaho ijisho, ugahora umucunga, ngo yibaza noneho igihe mwaba mubana ukuntu ibintu byaba bimeze, agafata umwanzuro wo kuba akwihoreye mu gihe arimo kwishakira umukobwa uzamuha amahoro ye uko ayifuza.

9.Ashobora kuba ashaka kwigeragereza amahirwe

Uyu musore aba atarafata umwanzuro mu rukundo . Iyo muri kumwe aba yumva yajya kugerageza n’ahandi, aba ngo yumva undi mukobwa utari wowe ari we wamukunda kurusha uko umukunda. Umuhungu nk’uyu ahora agerageza; aba afite abakobwa bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina ariko ntakuremo uzamubera umugore.

Ibintu Bitatu Byica Urukundo

2011-05-05T07:03:00.000-07:00

1.Kwigira bamenya (thinking you know everything) : Buri muntu ashimishwa no kumva ko ibyo abwiye inshuti ye ibihaye agaciro. Bityo rero si byiza habe na mba guhora uca mu ijambo inshuti yawe ngo urayereka aho yibeshye kuko biyirakaza. Mu by’ ukuri gukosora uwo ukunda ni byiza, ariko iyo ukabije kwigira bamenya bimutera kutifuza kubana nawe igihe kinini bikaba byamuviramo no kukuzinukwa.

Kutaganira ( not communicating): Ntibikunze kubaho ko abantu baba inshuti nyanshuti bataganira, ni nayo mpamvu kenshi na kenshi nk’ iyo ukunda umuntu akajya mu mahanga agatindayo utagira icyizere cyinshi ko akigutekereza. Ikindi, mubwire ikigushimishije cyangwa ikiguhangayikishije aho kwicecekera ugategereza ko abyivumburira. Nanone niba ubona ahangayitse mwegere umubaze icyabaye kuko bituma arushaho kukwiyumvamo.

Kumva ko ibyo muganira byose byaba bikwerekeyeho( making it all about you) : Kugwa muri uyu mutego biroroshye kuko benshi bawugwamo batanawubonye . Yego, kuganira ku buzima bwanyu bwite ni iby’ agaciro ariko nanone kumva ko ibiganiro byose byaba bivuga kuri wowe wenyine ku buryo umuca no mu ijambo ngo uzane insanganyamatsiko ikwerekeyeho si byiza. Irinde agakabyo.

Bimwe mu Bibazo by'Urukundo n'Ibisubizo byabyo

2011-05-05T06:57:00.000-07:00

Uko umubano waba umeze kose ntushobora kuburamo agatotsi, bisobanuye ko yaba wa mubano abantu baba bavuga ko ukomeye cyangwa se hahandi abantu baba bavuga ko ari umubano umaze igihe kandi umeze neza, ntibishoboka ko abantu babana nta kibazo bagirana hagati yabo. Umunyarwanda yaravuze ngo “ntazibana zidakomanya amahembe”, ashaka kumvikanisha ko umubano uwo ari wo wose uzamo amatati n’ibibazo, icya ngombwa kikaba uko abantu basohoka muri ibyo bibazo. Hari ibibazo bimwe na bimwe bikunze kugaragara hagati y’abakundana, tukaba tugiye kubagezaho uburyo bwiza bwo kubisohokamo.

1. Kutaganira hagati y’abakundana

Kuganira ni kimwe mu bibazo bikomeye bijya bikunda gusenya imibanire y’abantu. Abantu benshi ntibazi kuganira na bagenzi babo, ndetse usanga n’ababikora babikora mu buryo budasobanutse. Kugira ngo umuntu ashobore kubwira mugenzi we icyo amutekerezaho usanga ari ibintu bitoroshye cyangwa se niba hari ibintu abantu batumvikanyeho ugasanga ntibafashe umwanya ngo babiganireho, babishakire igisubizo. Iyo abantu baticaye ngo baganire, bagire imyumvire imwe ku kibazo nta kabuza bizakurura amakimbirane hagati yabo.

Ubu ndi rero mu rukundo, cyangwa se muri buri mubano, habamo utubazo kandi tworoshye gukemura iyo twamenyekanye. Niba wamaze kubona ko umubano wanyu ufite ikibazo cyo kutumvikana biturutse ku biganiro bike cyangwa kukutaganira neza, ugomba kureba uburyo bwiza waganirizamo mugenzi wawe. Igihe muganira, gerageza kuvuga igitekerezo cyawe mu buryo bworoshye kandi busobanutse maze nurangiza utege amatwi ibyo mugenzi wawe agusubiza , urebe ko yakumvise neza cyangwa se ko atakumvise. Muri uko kuganira, havuka mo ibisubizo kandi bibanyuze mwese.

2. Kwikubira bikabije n’ishyari

Hari igihe abantu babana umwe yikunda cyane akumva arashaka ko ibintu byose byaba ibye noneho igihe bibaye kuri mugenzi we akumva amufitiye ishyari ntiyongere kumwishimira. N’ubwo ibi bukunze kugaragara cyane ku bantu bahuje igitsina, biranashoboka ku bakundana n’ababana nk’abashakanye. Urugero: Niba muri inshuti mukaba mukora akazi kamwe, umwe akaba yumva ko ari we waba umuyobozi cyangwa akumva ari we bazamura mu ntera, hazamuka mugenzi we akamugirira ishyari ubwo ibyo kuzongera kumusekera cyangwa kumuvugisha neza bikaba birangiriye aho. Niba rero ikintu nk’iki cyo kwikubira cyangwa kugirana ishyari cyagaragaye mu mubano wanyu mugomba kugikemura mureba ikintu kibitera. Umuntu ashobora kuba ariko ateye, ni ukuvuga ko ari yo kamere yo kwikunda no kugira ishyari, cyangwa se ugasanga abikomora ku babyeyi cyangwa se ku bantu bigeze kubana. Iyo umaze kumenya igitera iyo myitwarire, ugomba rero kumenya uburyo witwara kuri mugenzi wawe noneho ukagenda umuhindura buhoro buhoro, umwereka ububi bw’ibintu akora, bityo nawe azagenda ahinduka gake gake. Iyi nzira ni nziza cyane aho kugira ngo umwivumbureho ngo uhite umwanga.

3. Hari igihe usanga ibyo wifuzaga ku muntu atabifite

Abantu benshi bakunda kubana buri wese hari icyo atezeho undi. Hari abo bihira ibyo bifuza bakabigeraho ariko hari n’abandi basanga baribeshye. Iyo rero basanze baribeshye usanga bibaviramo ubwumvikane buke bagatangira gusuzugurana no kubwirana nabi. Gusa ariko, iyi nzira ntabwo ifasha mu gukemura ikibazo ahubwo birushaho kugikomeza. Niba rero ikibazo nk’iki kivutse, banza ushyire ibyifuzo byawe n’ibyo wari witeze ku ruhande maze ubanze urebe uko wakuzuza ibyifuzo bya mugenzi wawe. Namara kubona ibyifuzo bye bikemutse azatangira gushaka uburyo nawe yakemura ibyawe, maze mwembi munyurwe.

Uburyo bwo Gutuma Umuhungu Mukundana Arushaho Kugukunda

2011-05-05T06:52:00.000-07:00

1. Mwandikire akabaruwa karimo amagambo y’urukundo nurangiza ugashyire mu ikofi ye atabizi

Muri aka kabaruwa uzagerageze gushyiramo amagambo yuzuye ubwuzu n’urukundo. Ushobora kutamubwira ko umukunda kuko n’ubundi aba asanzwe abizi, ahubwo ugakoresha ubundi buryo bworoshye bwo kumwereka ko umukunda kandi ko umwitaho. Urugero: Niba aheruka kuguha impano wamubwira ko ukunda cyane; uti kandi ‘buri gihe unkorera ibintu bituma numva ndi umuntu udasanzwe’. Ushobora gukomeza umwandikira amagambo nk’ayo kugira ngo umwereke ko afite agaciro mu buzima bwawe kandi agira uruhare mu munezero no mu kugubwa neza kwawe.

2. Gerageza kumuha impano no mu gihe cy’iminsi y’akazi

Abantu cyangwa se abakobwa benshi bazi ko impano zitangwa ku minsi mikuru cyangwa se muri weekend (mu minsi y’ikiruhuko) gusa, nyamara kandi burya ngo impano zitunguranye cyane cyane mu minsi y’ akazi ngo zirashimisha. Uushobora rero gufata nk’umunsi umwe ari nko kuwa gatatu ukajya mu isoko ukagurira umukunzi wawe umupira mwiza, karavate se, isaha cyangwa niba ari umuhungu usoma ku kayoga ushobora kumugurira n’icupa ry’inzoga warangiza ukabifunga neza ugashyiraho akabaruwa cyangwa se agakarita kabiherekeza kanditseho amagambo meza. Ubundi ukabimushyira ku kazi cyangwa se ukarindira agataha ukabimuhera mu rugo. Iyi mpano uzaba umuhaye izamunezeza kubera ko uzaba uyimuhaye mu gihe atakekaga.

3. Ereka umuhungu mukundana ko agukurura

Abakobwa benshi bakunda guhisha ibyiyumvo (sentiments) byabo ariko nyamara si byiza mu rukundo. Ugomba kugerageza ukamwereka ko nawe ajya agukurura, niba mujya musomana ariko ari we wabigizemo uruhare nawe ujye unyuzamo umusome ari wowe ubyibwirije.

Ku bandi noneho bajya bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina ugomba kugerageza nawe ukazana icyo gitekerezo. Nk’urugero, mushobora kuba muri kurebana filimi y’urukundo, jya unyuzamo umusome rimwe na rimwe ube wanamusaba ko mwakora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi rero ngo bizatuma yumva ko uburyo ateye bigukurura ndetse bitume ahora agufitiye ubwuzu.

4. Mu gihe ari mu kazi jya unyuzamo umuhamagare

Aha ntabwo bivuze ko niba umuntu ari ku kazi ugomba kumuhamagara buri kanya cyangwa se ngo umuhamagare umwanya muremure ngo ube wamutesha akazi ahubwo ni ukumuhagara akanya gato kandi ukabikora igihe ushobora kuba uzi ko atari mu kazi kenshi, ubundi ukamubaza uko amerewe. Uko kumuhagara rero ngo bishobora gutuma yumva aguwe neza mu gihe wenda yumvaga umunsi utangiye kumubihira . Ibi rero bizatuma anabona ko uba umutekerezaho n’igihe mutari kumwe.

5. Fata umwanya utekere umukunzi wawe ibiryo akunda kurusha ibindi

Kugira ngo umukunzi wawe arusheho kugukunda no kunezerwa ngo ujye unyuzamo ufate umwanya umutekere ibiryo akunda cyane. Ushobora kuba warabyumvise abivuga cyangwa niba mukunda kujyana gusangira muri resitora ugomba kuba umaze kumenya ibiryo umukunzi wawe akunda . maze nawe ukazafata umwanya ukabimutegurira. ibi biba na byiza iyo mwirirwanye mu rugo ugategura ifunguro murimo kuganira. Numugaburira rero akanezerwa nta kizatuma nawe atakwishimira kandi azanashimishwa n’umwanya uzaba wafashe kugira ngo umwiteho.

Ikibazo rero gikunda kugaragara mu rukundo ni uko abakobwa benshi baba bashaka kwakira urukundo rwinshi kandi bo ntibarutange uko bikwiye. Bakumva abahungu babakunda byimazeyo ubundi bo bagaterera agati mu ryinyo. Niba uri umukobwa ukaba ushaka ko urukundo rwanyu rwongera gushyuha nka mbere gerageza gukora bimwe muri ibi bintu tumaze kuvuga, kandi nawe ujye utanga urukundo ntugategereze kurwakira gusa.

Impamvu Atari Byiza Guhuza Ibitsina mu Irambagiza

2011-05-05T06:44:00.000-07:00

1. Kuba umuhungu wamukurura ntibishatse kuvuga ko agukunda

Umuhungu ashobora kuba akunda uburyo usa n’uko uteye, akumva mwakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina. Numara rero kumwemerera ko ibyo yifuza abigeraho azahita yumva ko yagufashe kandi nta kindi kigomba kwiyongeraho uretse kuryamana nawe gusa. Nuramuka rero utangiye kugenda ugabanya uburyo wamwitwaragaho uzabona umubano wanyu ugenda uyoyoka gahoro gahoro. Urumva rero ko nta mpamvu yo guhubukira kuba wahita uryamana n’umusore urimo kugutereta.

2. Iyo wihutiye gukorana imibonan ompuzabitsina n’umuhungu arimo kugutereta ahita abonako uri umuntu woroheje

Iyo ubimwemereye hakiri kare ngo agaciro yaguhaga kagenda gashira ndetse n’uburyo yakubahaga bikagenda bigabanuka mu gihe nyamara iyo mugitangira guteretana aba yarakubwiye ko azakubaha igihe cyose. Ariko mu gihe kiriya gikorwa gihise kiba mu buryo bwihuse uburyo yakubahagamo butangira kugenda bugabanuka umunota ku munota.

3. Niba ushaka kubaka umubano ukomeye ntuzite cyane ku byo umuhungu muri gukundana agushakaho

Ikintu ugomba gukora igihe umuhungu agutereta ni ukubanza ukamumenya neza, ukamenya imyitwarire ye ndetse ukanamenya niba agukunda by’ukuri , ubundi ibindi bikaza nyuma.

Ugomba nawe kwisuzuma ukabanza ukareba niba ntacyo byakubangamiraho igihe waramuka uryamanye n’umuhungu urimo kugutereta hakiri kare. Ugomba kubanza ukabitekerezaho hanyuma ibyo uzatekereza nibyo bizakubwira niba koko mugomba gukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina mu gihe cya vuba cyangwa niba uzabanza ugategereza. Ahangaha ushobora gufata umwanzuro ukavuga uti: “Nzaryamana nawe maze kumumenya, hashize amezi make cyangwa se twaramaze kurushinga”.

4. Iyo bibaye hakiri kare hari gihe utabona ibintu agukorera ahubwo ukibonera uburyo ameze mu buriri

Iyo wihutiye gukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina n’umuhungu mugiteretana, hari igihe uhita utangira guhindura uko wamubonaga: aho kumubona nk’umuntu mukundana ugomba kukwitaho mu buzima bwa buri munsi ahubwo ukamubonamo undi mu muntu. Igihe uzaba umeze gutyo umubano wanyu ntaho uzagera.

Ibintu byo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina si ibyo guhubukirwa ahubwo bisaba kubanza kwitonda, ugashyiramo ubushishozi. Umusore nakubwira yumva igihe cyageze ngo muryamane wowe uzajye umwihorera, ntiwite ku byo akubwira ahubwo nawe utekereze ufate icyemezo kikunyuze kuko kugendera ku byifuzo n’ibyiyumvo bye gusa bishobora kugukoresha ibintu udashaka. Niba ari umuhungu ugukunda by’ukuri azakomeza agutegereze

Ibimenyetso Byerekana ko Umusore Mwakundanaga Atakigukunda

2011-05-05T06:38:00.000-07:00

Ushobora kuba uri mu rukundo ukabona hari bintu bigenda bihinduka gahoro gahoro ariko ntumenye ubusobanuro bwabyo. Bimwe muri byo hari igihe biba bishaka kukwereka ko utakiri kumwe n’uwo wibwiraga ko muri kumwe.

Dore rero bimwe mu bimenyetso bizakwereka ko umusore mwakundanaga atakikwiyumvamo:

1. Azatangira ahagarike kukwita amazina yari asanzwe akwita

Niba yari asanzwe akwita sweetie, honey, Darling, baby, n’utundi azatangira aguhamagare mu mazina yawe, wowe numuhamagara kwa kundi mubiziranyeho ase nk’utabyumvise cyangwa se akwihorere.

2. Uzabona atangiye kwinuba ibyo umukorera

Ibi bivuze ko numukorera utuntu tw’urukundo nk’utwo wari usanzwe umukorera azjya agufata nk’umusazi . Niba mwicaranye ugatangira kumukoraho nk’uko wari usanzwe ubikora azakwiyama kuko azajya yumva urimo kumubangamira. Nubona rero icyo ukoze cyose kirimo guhinduka ikosa mu ijisho rye uzatangire kugira amakenga.

3. Azatangira kukubwira ibintu biguca intege

4. Uzatangira kumubonana n’abandi bakobwa kandi nawe uhari

5. Uzashiduka atakikubwira amakuru ye

6. Azatangira kujya yibeshya ku izina ryawe.

Hari igihe uzumva aguhamagaye izina ry’undi mukobwa!

7. Azatangira kwica gahunda

Muzaba mwahanye gahunda ubone arecyererewe bikabije nanakugeraho abe adashaka kugusobanurira icyamutindije.

8. Kwirakaza biriyongera

Mukobwa rero nubona umusore muri kumwe atangiye kugaragaza bimwe mu bimenyetso byavunzwe haruguru uzatangire urebe neza, ushishoze urebe birashoboka ko uwo musore atakigukunda cyangwa se urukundo rwatangiye kugabanuka

Uburyo 43 wakwerekamo umukobwa ko umukunda

2011-05-05T06:23:00.000-07:00

1. Mufate neza mu buryo bwose bugushobokeye

2. Fata umwanya uhagije wo kumuvugisha

3. Musangize amwe mu mabanga y’ubuzima bwawe

4. Niba muri kumwe ukabona asa n’ufite imbeho, igomwe umuhe umupira cyangwa furari wambaye, umwereke ko adashobora kubaho nabi igihe cyose akigufite.

5. Musome kenshi igihe muri kumwe neza kandi gahoro.

6. Muhobere igihe umukumbuye cyangwa ushaka kumwereka ko ari uw’agaciro, burya hari udukorwa duto tuvuga kurusha amagambo.

7. Mufate mu ntoki umureba mu maso.

8. Sekana nawe kandi umufashe kugira ibihe byiza bitewe n’ibyo akunda

9. Rimwe na rimwe, nta yindi mpamvu ibiteye, jya umutumira ahantu atari asanzwe azi, umwereke ibintu bishya atari asanzwe abona kenshi kuko iyo umuhoza mu bintu bimwe bigera aho bikamurambira

10. Jya umutumira igihe uri kumwe n’inshuti zawe. Erega arifuza kukugirira icyizere no kwisanzura mu nshuti zawe ndetse no kubona ko nazo zimwishimiye.

11. Kenshi jya ukunda kumufotora no kwifotozanya nawe kuko abakobwa burya bakunda amafoto cyane, cyangwa umukorere CD iriho amafoto yanyu, aho ushobora no kuyaherekezanya uturirimbo tw’urukundo uziko akunda, cyangwa dufite icyo tubibutsa mwembi.

12. Rimwe na rimwe, jya ugirana nawe gahunda zindi zitari iz’ urukundo, mushobora nko gukorana imishinga ibyara inyungu, gukora nk’igikorwa cyo kujya gusura abarwayi kwa muganga nko ku cyumweru, kujya gutemberera ahantu nko mu giturage mwabaga kera, n’ibindi

13. Nakubwira ko agukunda, jya ubimusubirishamo kenshi, umwereke ko kuba yaraguhaye urukundo ari ikintu uha agaciro gakomeye mu buzima bwawe!

14. Niba muri kumwe n’inshuti ze zikamwereka cyangwa zikamubwira ko zimukunda cyangwa ko zimwitayeho kukurusha, jya ubihakana umuhobera cyane umwiyegereza, umubwire ko urukundo umufitiye nta n’uwabasha kurupima, ibi bituma yumva akunzwe cyane kandi bimurinda kumva ko hari undi muntu n’umwe yakurutisha mu buzima bwe.

15. Buri gihe niyo byanaba buri kanya yewe, jya umuhobera cyane umwiyegereze, ubundi umwongorere ko umukunda.

16. Jya umusoma mu gihe we atari abyiteguye

17. Atari abyiteguye nabwo jya umuhobera umuturutse mu mugongo, urebe uburyo abyakira.

18. Jya umubwira ko ari mwiza ahebuje, gusa ntukamubwire ko ari segisi (sexy). Abasore benshi bajya bakora aya makosa, gusa hano nakubwira ko umukobwa aba yifuza kumva ko ari mwiza imbere y’umukunzi we kurusha kumubwira ko ari segisi.

19. Jya umubwira uburyo umwiyumvamo kandi utamubeshye.

20. Nimuba murimo kugendana jya umutanga imbere umufungurire imiryango, umuherekeze ku modoka ye niba ayifite, ubanze umufungurire umuryango, nimuba mugiye kumeza ubanze umuhereze isahani ye, nibinashoboka unamushyirireho ibiryo, erega bishimisha cyane abakobwa kandi nawe ndatekereza ko nta gihombo kirimo kugaragaza iyo mico myiza (kuba gentleman)

21. Mubwire ko asobanuye byose kuri wowe kandi mu kubivuga jya ubivuga koko ubikuye ku mutima, unamureba mu maso.

22. Niba ubona ko atameze neza, hari ikitagenda, ukabona adashaka kubivugaho, jya umubwira ko uhari, umuhobere cyane, umwiyegereze kandi umubwire ko igihe cyose akeneye urutugu rwo kwegamaho no kuririraho uhari, unamubwire ko nta kibazo kuba atabikubwiye, ko ariko igihe cyose yumva abohotse kubikubwiraho, uzaba uhari kandi witeguye kumwumva no kumufasha! Si byiza guhita uhutiraho no kumubaza cyane kuko hari igihe biba bigoye guhita agira icyo akubwira muri ako kanya nawe atarabyakira neza

23. Jya utuma yumva akunzwe, icyo byagusaba cyose

24. Jya umusoma imbere y’abandi bakobwa, baba ari inshuti ze cyangwa izawe, bituma agira icyizere ko umukunda kandi bigutera ishema, ukaba udashobora no kumuca inyuma.

25. Ntukigere na rimwe umubeshya kabone n’iyo waba ubona bigoye kumubwiza ukuri ku kintu runaka, kuko iyo amenye ko umubeshye n’iyo kaba ari akantu gato, arababara kandi akagutakariza icyizere.

26. Ntukamuce inyuma kuko bariya bandi nta kintu na kimwe bamurusha, iyaba byari ibyo ntiyari kuba ari we wahisemo

27. Jya umujyana ahantu hose yifuza kujya, nawe arakuzi azi n’ubushobozi bwawe humura ntazakugora, ariko rero nawe jya ugerageza kumushimisha.

28. Jya umwandikira ubutumwa bugufi, unamuhamagare buri gitondo umubaza uko yaramutse n’uko ijoro rye ryari rimeze, kandi buri gihe jya umubwira utujambo twiza. Mwaba muri kumwe cyangwa mutari kumwe, ugerageze kumenya gahunda ze zose; niba yariye, niba yabashije kuruhuka, ese amasomo/ akazi biragenda, n’ibindi…

29. Jya uhamubera igihe cyose agukeneye, ndetse n’igihe atagukeneye, ibyo bizatuma abona ko igihe icyo ari cyo cyose ashobora kukwizera no kukugirira icyizere.

30. Jya umufata mu maboko yawe cyane igihe afite ubwoba cyangwa akonje, bimuha umutuzo cyane.

31. Nimuba muri mwenyine jya umwereka ko ushaka kumufata mu maboko yawe, umusome, umurebe mu maso nibura nk’umunota umwe cyangwa myinshi, umwereke ko nta wundi usa nawe

32. Niba muri kumwe, musome mu gahanga (ibi bizamwereka ko wifuza kumusoma urebe niba nawe ari uko.)

33. Niba mwicaye murimo kurebana agafilimi keza k’urukundo cyangwa akandi kose akunda, mushyire ukuboko ku rutugu, nawe azahita akwegamishaho umutwe bityo murebane filimi mu buryo buri romantiki.(romantique)

34. Niyo waba urakaye ute, ntugakinishe na rimwe kumubwira ngo nahite agenda, kabone n’iyo waba wikiniraga, kuko ushobora kujya kubona ukabona agiye agiye da! Niba arakaye jya umuba hafi, umufashe; niba akubabaje ntumwereke ko urakaye cyane ariko umubwire ko bitagushimishije, n’agusaba imbabazi umwumve kandi ntugakunde impaka no kubigira birebire.

Ibi byose, ubutaha nimuba muri kumwe ntuzabyibagirwe, kuko bibazanira umunezero mwembi kandi mu byukuri nta kigoye kirimo

35. Niba abantu barimo kumuvuga nabi no kumunegura, ujye uhamubera, ubabwire ko urukundo umufitiye ruruta byose kandi ko uko byaba bimeze kose ntacyakubuza kumukunda no kuhamubera

36. Nujya kumubwira ko umukunda, jya ubimubwira umureba mu maso kandi umubwira ibyo wiyumvamo!

37. Rimwe na rimwe jya umujyana hanze, nko muri jardin, ari nijoro hari ukwezi hasa neza, umuryamishe mu gituza cyawe yiyumvire uko umutima wawe utera uterera mu we, ushyire intoki zawe mu ze, ariko urimo kumwongorera utujambo tw’urukundo mu matwi nawe ahumirije amaso ye arimo kwiyumvira rya jwi akunda kandi yishimira kuruta ayandi yose!

38. Niba murimo kugendana, mufate mu ntoki kandi bigutere ishema ryo kuba yitwa uwawe

39. Niba muhuye mutari muherukanye, mwereke urukumbuzi wari umufiitiye, umuhobere mu gihe kirekire gishoboka

40. Buri joro jya umuhamagara umwifurize ijoro ryiza, n’indoto nziza

41. Jya umuhumuriza niba akuririye, kandi jya ujyana umubabaro yari afite kure ye

42. Jya umusaba ko mwatemberana mu ijoro, mufate igihe kinini mwigendagendera, mwiganirira, mwisekera, musa n’abakina,…

43. Buri gihe jya umwibutsa uburyo umukunda

Uburyo bwo Gutuma Umukobwa w'Inshuti Yawe Agukunda Cyane

2011-05-05T06:18:00.000-07:00

Ikintu cya mbere ku mugabo ufite umugore, ku musore ufite umukunzi cyangwa se wifuza kumugira ni ukumenya neza uko abagore muri rusange bateye.

Nk’uko umuhanga mu by’urukundo Yahya Messi mu gitabo cye, ‘Leurs Top Secrets’ abisobanura, ngo ikintu cya mbere ku bagabo ni ukumenya kwigira ku bagore.

Erega nibyo, nonese niba muri rusange, utajya wumva imiterere y’abagore, ni gute uzumva umukobwa wawe? Uzumva ute se umugore washatse, umukunzi wawe cyangwa mushiki wawe, n’inshuti yawe isanzwe y’umukobwa?

Abagore muri rusange, ni abantu bakunda umuntu ubitaho, bakunda gufata neza ibintu no kubiha agaciro mu buryo butandukanye n’ubw’abagabo. Ibi niba ushaka kubyumva neza uzabisuzume, cyangwa se wifashishe igitabo: Les hommes viennent de Mars et les femmes viennent de Venus, igitabo ushobora no kubona films documentaires zikivugaho. Iki gitabo kigaragaza neza kinifashishije ingero zifatika uburyo abagore batandukanye kure n’abagabo, uburyo hari ibintu byinshi abagabo badasobanukiwe ku bagore.

Hari aho abanditse iki gitabo batanga urugero rw’ukuntu umugabo iyo umuhamagaye umubwira ko urwaye umutwe cyane, ahita akubaza aho uri kugira ngo agushakirre ibinini abikuzanire, mu gihe umugore we abanza kukubaza ibibazo byinshi birimo aho uri, icyaba cyaguteye kunanirwa no kugira stress, agaytangira no kukubwira ibindi birimo no kuba yakwibutsa ko yari yarakubujije kunywa inzoga, … Muri rusange, ngo abagore iyo ubabwiye ko urwaye umutwe batangira kureba impamvu zaguteye kurwara umutwe, kurusha gushaka umuti w’icyo kibazo cyawe mu gihe umugabo we ngo yihutira kujya gushaka imiti gusa.

Ntabwo ari bibi pe, kuko ibi byerekana uburyo umugore muri rusange yita ku bintu kandi akabiha agaciro cyane, akantu ako ariko kose gashobora kumubabaza mu gihe ku mugabo we ibintu yitaho cyangwa bimutwarira umwanya ari bike cyane.
Uratekereza ko ikosa ari irya nde?

Yaba umugabo cyangwa umugore nta n’umwe ufite ikosa kuko Imana niyo yaturemye mu buryo butandukanye, nabyo kandi nsanga atari bibi kuko bidufasha kuzuzanya.

Nibyo koko imiterere y’abantu iratandukanye cyane, ari nayo mpamvu uzabona umugore afata umwanya we kugira ngo agutekere ibiryo ukunda, akaba azi mutwe itariki yawe y’amavuko kandi wenda wowe waranayibagirwa, akaba azi n’andi matariki akomeye mu buzima bwawe. Ibi byose abagore babikoreshwa n’urukundo baba bafitiye abagabo.

Jya wibuka kandi ko mu nkuru zose, mu migani myinshi ivuga ku bakobwa, irangira ibagaragaza nk’abamikazi, ikarangira igaragaza ko mu mpera buri mukobwa ahura n’igikomangoma (prince) cye kandi kiteguye kumuha urukundo mu buryo bwose.

Muri iyi nkuru turashaka kukwereka bimwe mu bintu abagabo batazi ku bagore kandi nyamara ari ingenzi mu mubano n’urukundo rwabo. N’ubwo bwose bidashoboka ko umukobwa/umugore abona uwo yifuza (l’homme parfait, perfect man) ariko nibura wowe musore/mugaboo gerageza kumwumvisha ko witeguye guhinduka.

Aha rero turagufasha kumenya ibyo wakora bikamushimisha bityo akarushaho kukwibonamo kurushaho kandi nawe ubwawe bitagusabye ko uhindura uko uteye cyane dore ko n’akenshi bigorana.

Dore rero ibintu usanga akenshi abagabo benshi badasobanukiwe ku bagore, kandi nyamara ari ibintu bishobora kububakira cyane:

- Abagore bakunda umuntu ubabwira ko ari beza: Kubwira umukunzi wawe kenshi gashoboka ko ari mwiza ni ikintu cy’ingenzi cyane. Aha kandi ugerageze no kumuha compliments (kumushimagiza) ku bintu bikomeye yagezeho, ku manota yabonye (niba ari umunyenshuri), kuri promotion yabonye ku kazi (umubwire ko yari abikwiye), ku mpano ze, n’ibindi.

- Kumwereka ko wiyizeye: Jya wereka umugore/umukobwa ko kuba ari inshuti yawe bigushimisha cyane, kandi ko uko bwije n’uko bukeye urushaho kumukunda. Kenshi bisa n’ibiteye isoni kuba wamusomera mu ruhame rwa benshi, ariko nibura niba muri mukugendana jya umufata ukuboko, abone nawe ko gukundana bikunezeza no kubyereka bose. Bishyire kuri bose babireba daaaa!!!

- Si byiza kumubeshya: kimwe n’abandi bantu bose burya iyo umuntu akubeshye akantu n’aho kaba ari gato, ukakamenya, birakubabaza kandi ugahita umutakariza icyizere.

- Irinde guteza intonganya mu ruhame no kuburana cyane : Ibi nabyo biri mu bintu abagore badakunda na gato, bituma basa n’aho bamwaye, bikabatera isoni,…ntibibashimisha muri rusange.

- Kumwitaho kandi wenyine: Hari abagabo benshi batekereza ko kuba muri kumwe n’abandi ari byiza kwita ku bandi bakobwa muri kumwe, niba murimo kubyina bose ukabitaho (ukababyinisha, ukabazanira ibyo kunywa,…) ariko burya wa mukobwa mukundana cyangwa wa mugore wawe rimwe na rimwe icyo witaga kuba ‘gentleman’ abifata nk’aho ari ukurengera kandi ko noneho muramuttse muttari kumwe warengera ukaba wakora n’ibindi. Rimwe na rimwe rero abibona nk’aho wamuca inyuma mu buryo bukoroheye cyane. Byirinde bitagusenyera.

- Irinde gusohokana inshuti ze utabimbwiye: Ni byiza ko umenyana n’inshuti ze, ariko burya iyo ugeze aho kujya uzisohokana utabanje kubimubwira cyangwa mutari kumwe ntibimushimisha, habe na mba. Ahubwo atangira kwibaza ko ahari harimo uwo usigaye ukunda, udashaka ko amenya; agatangira kutakwizera nabo atabasize.

-Ntuzigere ugiramo n’umwe mufitanye umubano wihariye kabone n’iyo nta kindi cyaba kibyihishe inyuma. Ikindi kandi ntukagire uwo wandikira ubutumwa bugufi muri kumwe mwese, ahita yibuka uburyo namwe byatangiye bisa no kwikinira akabona ko namwe ariho murimo kuganisha. Ni byiza kandi kumwereka ko wishimira kuba uri kumwe nawe wenyine, kurusha iyo muri kumwe mwese.

- Komeza kwiyitaho: Niba ari uwawe ntibivuze ko wafatishije bihagije ku buryo nta handi yajya. Reka da! Komeza umwereke ko uri umusore/umugabo mwiza w’igikundiro, umwereke ko rwose umukwiye kandi ko no hanze aha babona ko afite umugabo mwiza.

- Kumwitaho bihagije: Niba muri kumwe n’inshuti zawe witerura ibiganiro mu nshuti zawe ngo umere nk’aho adahari. Mwereke ko umwitayeho, mu kugenda umwiyegereze mbega umubere ingabo imukingira, umubere ukwezi kumumurikira, … Erega jya wishyira mu mwanya we, byagushimisha se niba iyo ari kumwe n’inshuti ze agufata nk’aho udahari??

- Kugaragaza isura nziza ku babyeyi be, no ku muryango we: N’iyo waba utabakunda ariko burya ni byiza kwibuka uruhare runini bafite ku mukobwa wabo, bityo ubibubahire kandi ukore ku buryo rwose urukundo rwanyu baruha umugisha.

- Gutekereza no kureba kure: Urukundo nta murongo runaka uhamye rugira wo kugenderaho. Jya rero uhora utekereza utuntu twose twamushimisha, ntugume mu bintu bimwe gusa kuko bigera aho bikamurambira, umuzanire indabyo nziza, umutegurire icyayi, niba ari ku kazi cyangwa ku ishuri umutungure ugire akantu umushyira yo mutari mwabivuganye, n’ibindi byose bishobora kumushimisha. Rimwe na rimwe umugurire impano nta kindi cyabaye,umuzanire filimi nziza muyirebane. Burya abakobwa ntabwo bakunda ibintu bihenze, baba bashaka gusa ibyo ubakorera bikuvuye ku mutima.

- Kwibuka amatariki akomeye mu buzima bwe : Iki ni ikintu wenda ahari utari uzi ariko gikomeye cyane ku bagore. Nuhora uzirikana itariki z’amavuko, ubukwe, itariki mwakundaniyeho, itariki imwibutsa ibintu bikomeye mu buzima bwe,… ntushobora kumva ukuntu azashimishwa cyane no kubona ukuntu umwitaho.

- Kwibuka ibyo akunda n’ibyo yanga: Umukobwa biramushimisha cyane kumva uzi ubwoko bw’indabyo akunda, ubwoko bwa filimi zimushimisha, ibara akunda, umunsi yanga cyangwa ibintu yanga kurusha ibindi. Ibi nabyo abibonamo urukundo rwinshi no kumwitaho cyane.

- Kumwandikira: Abagore muri rusange bakunda cyane umuntu ubitaho, biramushimisha gutaha agasanga akandiko wamusigiye ku musego, ako wamushyiriye mu isakoshi atabizi; biramushimisha cyane ko umubwira ko wagize amahirwe atabonwa na bake kuba ari uwawe. Si ngombwa ko ako kandiko kaba karekare cyangwa ari umuvugo wamuhimbiye, n’iyo kaba ari akajambo kamwe, kamugwa ku mutima.

- Kumuha umwanya: Buri mugore nk’uko twabibonye ko akunda umuntu umwitaho, jya umusaba umunsi yaguha atazaba ahuze, mwirirwane muri babiri gusa, murebane filimi, umukorere massage, umuririmbire; nta n’ikindi kinini ukoze ibyo byonyine azabigukundira pe.

- Kumwumva no kumusangiza ubuzima bwawe: Mubwire gahunda ufite, ibyo wakoze, ibyo wagezeho n’ibyakunaniye; umwumve nakugira inama, umutege amatwi yewe kabone n’aho waba utemeranywa nawe kubyo murimo kuvuganaho.

Mu bintu abagore binubira kenshi ni uko abagabo badakunda kubatega amatwi iyo barimo kubabwira inkuru. Jya umutega amatwi umwumve, umwereke ko witeguye kumwumva igihe cyose. Niba hari ikosa yakoze, yaba ari wowe yarikoreye cyangwa undi, nabikubwira ntugahite umukankamira, ahubwo jya ubanza umwumve, umugire inama, umukosore kandi byose ubikorane umutima mwiza bityo icyizere yari agufitiye kiziyongera.

- Kuba mu ruhande rwe: Buri gihe jya uba mu ruhande rwe, uko byaba bimeze kose, n’iyo yaba ariwe uri mu makosa, ugerageze kumuhana ariko kandi umwumvishe ko igihe cyose uhamubereye

- Mwereke ko nawe ashoboye: Niba mwasohokanye akakubwira ko yifuza kuba ariwe wishyura uwo munsi, jya umureka yishyure, umwereke ko nawe afite ubushobozi ko kandi umwubaha.

- Kumwitondesha: Niba mwarashakanye, si ngombwa ko buri gihe uko muryamye mukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina. Niba ubona atabishaka cyangwa se wenda atanabyiteguye, mwihorere, umuhe umwanya, umureke agire uruhare rufatika mu kwishimisha no kugushimisha.

- Kwirinda inshuti zawe za kera: si byiza kugarura abakobwa mwigeze gukundana (ex-girlfriends) , si byiza kandi ko uvuga ibyiza bari bafite bamurusha kuko ahita yumva nawe ari umwe mu bakobwa benshi mwakundanye, agatekereza ko urimo kubashyira mu gatebo kamwe; bityo cya yizere yari agufitiye kigatangira kugenda gishira, ndetse utaniyibagije ko byanatuma afuha.

Ibi byose nubikurikiza, azaguhora hafi kandi mubane mu munezero. Kenshi abantu bashobora gutandukana kandi nta n’ikintu gifatika bapfuye, gusa bigaterwa n’uko batabashije kumenyana bihagije.

Uburyo bwo Gutuma Umugabo Aguha Ibyo Wifuza

2011-05-05T06:16:00.000-07:00

Abagore benshi kimwe n’abakobwa ntabwo bazi amagambo bakoresha kugira ngo umugabo agubwe neza maze abakorere ibyo bifuza. Aha hari uburyo butanu wakoresha:

1. Mubwire uti: “ndagukunda mukundwa” cyangwa se umwite akandi kazina kuje rukundo

Si ngombwa ko ukoresha iyi nteruro gusa, ushobora no gushaka akandi keza kamushimisha cyangwa se ugahina izina rye mu buryo buryoshye . Ibi ngo biramushimisha cyane kuko niba utajya ubwira umugabo wawe cyangwa se umuhungu mukundana ko umukunda ngo uba urimo kwishyiriraho inzitizi z’uko atazapfa kukugirira impuhwe no gutuma hajyamo ikintu gisa naho kibatandukanya. Ibi kandi bituma akujya kure mu mutima no mu byiyumvo bizatuma atazagukorera ibyo wifuza.

2 . Niba wakoze ikosa geregeza guca bugufi usabe imbabazi

Bwira umugabo wawe uti ‘mbabarira’ mu gihe wumva umutima wawe ugushinja ikosa kuko atari byiza kwihagararaho kandi wakosheje. Ibi nubikora uzatangira kubona uburakari bugenda bumushiramo bityo nawe uramutse ugize icyo umusaba yahita akiguha vuba na bwangu kuko mu mutima we haba hera.

3. Jya ubwira umugabo wawe ko ari mwiza

Birashoboka ko umugabo wawe atari mwiza ku isura cyangwa se ari na mwiza kandi nawe abizi. Niba atari mwiza ku isura ibyo ari byo byose afite izindi ngingo nziza; jya umubwira uti “nshuti yanjye ufite ibirenge byiza cyangwa se ureba neza” niba koko areba neza. Ibyo bizamushimisha cyane abone ko umubona ukishima.

Niba ari mwiza kandi akaba anabizi si ngombwa ko abandi bazajya bakubwira ko ufite umugabo mwiza cyangwa bakanabimwibwirira nyamara wowe utajya ubyatura ngo ube wabivuga. Mubwire ko ari mwiza bizatuma agubwa neza muri we yumve ko ujya ugira igihe cyo kumumamaho akajisho.

4. Niba mwirirwanye mu rugo mubaze uti “ urifuza kurya iki ngo nkigutunganyirize”

Ibi ngo bigereranwa n’indiririmbo nziza umugabo akunda kumva. Burya ngo abagabo ntibavuna, ibintu bito bito birabanyura , Burya abagabo baba bifuza ko abagore babo cyangwa abakobwa b’inshuti zabo babategurira ifunguro mu gihe birirwanye mu rugo kandi bashonje; niyo mpamvu uzumva abantu bavuga ngo umugabo yumva bitewe n’ikiri mu nda ye. Numara rero kumutunganyiriza ifunguro ukanamugaburira nta kintu uzamusaba ngo akikwime.

5. Jya umubwira ko ariwe mugabo uzi gukunda mubo mwamenyanye bose

Buri mugabo wese ngo akunda kumva ko ari umuntu udasanzwe kandi ko yihariye; niyo mpamvu nawe ugomba kujya umubwira ko ari umuntu udasanzwe mu buzima bwawe. Ibi bizatuma yumva ko ashoboye kandi ko agushimisha; maze ahite agukorera icyo wari waramusabye mu rwego rwo gukomeza kukongerera umunezero.

Uburyo bwo Gusaba Umukunzi Imbabazi Wamukoshereje

2011-05-05T06:11:00.000-07:00

Gukosa si ikintu kidasanzwe, si n’ibintu bitangaje yewe kuko burya nk’uko bivugwa mu Kinyarwanda nta zibana zidakomanya amahembe. Umuhanga Yahya Messi mu gitabo yise ‘Leurs top secrets’ yemeza ko bidashoboka ko umuntu abona uwamubera umuziranenge (parfait) kuko bigoranye cyane kubona umuntu wakubera ‘parfait’ muri ‘imperfection’ [ukutaba umuzirange] nawe ubwawe uba wisanganiwe. Ibi bisobanuye ko mu buzima bwacu bwa buri munsi tugwa mu byaha cyangwa mu makosa kenshi.

Hari amakosa mu rukundo asa n’akomeye cyane ku buryo iyo wacitswe ukayagwamo rwose , rimwe na rimwe ushobora no kubura aho uhera umusaba imbabazi. Ariko se, umuti ni ugatererayo ukamwihorera pe, ntugire icyo wirirwa ubikoraho?

Ushobora kuba wumva ibyo wakoze bikomeye ku buryo bidashoboka ko mwanasubirana, ariko se nibura mwanatandukanye neza mukubaha uburyo mwabanye, ibihe byiza mwagiranye, yewe mutibagiwe n’ibigeragezo mwaciyemo? Nibura se ntimwakwishimira kujya munahura na nyuma y’aho mukanasuhuzanya?!

Dore uburyo bwiza wakwitwaramo mu gihe wakoshereje umukunzi wawe ukaba wifuza kumusaba imbabazi.

- Banza umuhe umwanya wo kubitekerezaho no gusubiza ubwenge ku gihe, kuko kenshi bitewe n’uburemere bw’ikosa wakoreye umukunzi wawe, hari n’igihe atifuza ko mubiganiraho. Urugero: niba umukunzi wawe akwiciye gahunda mwari mufitanye ushobora kubabara, ariko se wageza aho wababara umusanganye n’undi muntu baryamanye badahuje igitsina batanagira yewe n’icyo bapfana? Amakosa aratandandukanye, ni nayo mpamvu n’uburyo ubyitwaramo iyo wakoshereje umukunzi wawe bigomba gutandukana!

- Mwereke rwose ko ubabajwe cyane n’ibyabaye, gusa wirinde kuburana no kwisobanura cyane igihe murimo kubivugaho: Abantu benshi bagwa mu makosa, birasanzwe kandi bibaho pe; Ariko burya iyo uburanye cyane cyangwa ukamwereka ko ari ibintu bisanzwe niko birushaho kumubabaza.

- Niba ubona atarashaka kugutega amatwi no kuguha umwanya ngo umusobanurire, byaba byiza ushatse umuntu uzi asanzwe yisanzuraho kandi agirira icyizere; (ashobora kuba ari umuvandimwe cyangwa inshuti ye magara) umubwire uko byakugendekeye, umusabe ko yamuganiriza, akamugusabira ko yaguha umwanya. Ibi ni ukugira ngo utazamwegera akibabaye agahutiraho akaba yahita anafata imyanzuro atabanje gutekerezaho neza.

- Si byiza ko ukomeza guhatiriza, ushaka kumuvugisha mu gihe atarabikwemerera, bitware gahoro.

- Niba akubabariye, mwemerere kandi ubikuye ku mutima ko iryo kosa utazongera na rimwe kurigwamo; ikindi kandi koko nawe umwereke ko wahindutse kandi ko ukimukunda ndetse kurushaho!

- Rimwe na rimwe rero hari igihe bishoboka ko byanga burundu. Niba ubona byanze burundu akaba akubwira ko adashobora kukubabarira, ntuzakore na rimwe ikosa ryo guhita umureka burundu, ngo uhite umwereka ko ukomeje ubuzima, musabe ko yakubera nibura inshuti isanzwe, umuhamagare, umutumire nta kindi ugamije, umenye amakuru ye, n’aba yageze ku kintu kiza ubyishimire, niba kandi yagize ibyago umutabare, umube hafi, nawe bizatinda abone ko koko umukunda uruzira agahararo nta kabuza azakugarukira.

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2011-01-18T08:50:00.000-08:00

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2010-08-17T12:37:00.000-07:00

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2010-08-10T23:18:00.000-07:00

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Ndavuga ibintu byambayeho kandi numva ngomba gurangira umukobwa wese cyangwa umugore wifuze umusore cyangwa umugabo wo kumuswera akumva ashize ipfa.

Umusore cyangwa umugabo umugaye araguswera ukumva wamuha ibyo utunze byose akabyijyanira. Mfite ubuhamya bw'ibyambayeho ku basore 5 twaryamanye bamugaye, ariko ibyo bankoreye ntaho bihuriye n'iby'abatamugaye twaryamanye. Nubu iyo mpuye numwe muribo ntashobora kunjyendana atasweye kugira ngo ngire amahoro.

Rwose bakobwa namwe bagore mwapfubye nabarangira gushaka abasore cyangwa abagabo bamugaye ubundi bakabanyaza bikamyatiriza namwe ubwo muza mbwira.

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Igituba cy'Ikibano Kiraryoha

2010-07-20T01:12:00.000-07:00

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Igituba Giteye Ubwoba":

Ubu nta kintu kinezeza nko guswera umugore w'undi mugabo. Naje no kumenya ko abagore na bo baba babishaka ariko bakagira amasoni, bakaryamana n'abagabo babo ariko ntibaryoherwe. Barajijisha rero igihe arimo kumpa igituba nkumva atuye umutwaro wari umuremereye. Fidélité nta cyo ivuze.

Bangambiki: Iyi ni inkuru y'umusomyi, wowe se urabivugaho iki, muri kumwe cyangwa uramuhinyuza, kora commentaire hano hepfo

Uko Nasweye Umukobwa mu Gihe Gito Tumenyanye

2010-07-19T09:50:00.000-07:00

Iyi nkuru twayigejejweho n'umusomyi utarivuze izina muri commentaire yakoze kuri blog igituba aha "KUNYAZA:GUSWERA UMUGORE AKANYARA.":

uko nasweye umukobwa mugihe gito tumenyanye

Bakunzi b'igituba, umukobwa witwa Chantal yampaye igituba mugito tumenyanye ku buryo mubuzima bwanjye ntashobora kwibagirwa uwo munyabuntu!! Twari kuri stade amahoro tureba umupira wa Rayon Sport, twicaye vraiment namutinye ntawuvugisha undi.uko bacenze nkabona aritera hejuru anshinga urwara, nza kumenya ko dufana ikipe imwe(Rayo) ubwo iba iraduhuje da! Ku mutima nti amaherezo uzampa ku muhore!! Byaje kurangira dutsinze bibiri ku busa bwa Mukura Dufata i modoka ya ville. yatahaga kimisagara nyje ntaha Gikondo. namusabye ko twagerana i gikondo ngafata ikoti kuko hari umusore nagombaga kwambarira kimisagara mubwira ko tugarukana aremera. Twagezeyo mfata ikoti ngiye gusohoka nihagararaho nti nsigira akamenyetso gato k'urukundo(kiss)yayitanze nta kuzuzaza ariko iza kumukoraho kuko nashize ubwoba nzamura muni jupe yari yambaye manura collant na gakariso nkora mugituba numva aramfashe cyane yitsa n'umutima. najombyemo urutoki nka karindwi ubwo umugezi uba uratembye. Nahiye muterura ngo nkumvishe akanyenga mpita njyana kuburiri. nkuramo byose ubundi kubera ukuntu yasaga kandi yiyubashye(yigaga KHI)sinigeze nibuka na condom. Naramusweye aranyara karahava mbona ko bibangamye ku buriri twicara hasi. Naramunyaje kuburyo mvuye mubukwe kuwundi munsi nasanze ikiziba kikiretse ngomba gukoropa!!!!!!!!!! mugihe gito twamaranye namusweye amaturu ane duhita twambukana mugeza hafi y'urugo nanjye njya mubukwe. Iminsi ikurikiyeho yaransuye tumarana iminsi itanu nkajya kukazi ngasiga aryamye nkaza ngasanga igituba cy'umwari utagira uko asa kirantegereje ngahita nswera. ndihuse iyi nkuru ni ndende nzayibagezaho ku buryo burambuye ubutaha

Nta mugabo agira imboro nto

2010-07-19T07:52:00.000-07:00

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "UBURYO BWO GUSWERA":

Nta mugabo agira imboro nto. Ahubwo izo twita nto nizo zigezweho. Imboro ndende ntiryohera abagore. Umugore wawe jya umutegura neza. Ukakimusaba ntukire gutarukirako. Hanyuma utanguye kumwenda ntuce usumagiza canke ngo unyarutse. Gira bukebuke kandi uze uramubwira n'utujambo tw'urukundo. Niwihuta gusohora imboro ica igwa hanyuma umugore ukaba uramuhemukiye. Tureke rero kurutwa n'ibikoko. Uzorabe ibikoko nk'impene, inkoko,intama, inka,.... ntibikira gusimbirako bibaza gutegura bigasaba. Uzorabe isake ibanza gutorera inkokokazi ikayirisha. None tuturtwe n'ibikoko?

CG Bujumbura.

Ngiye ku Cyanika(Igituba)

2010-07-11T13:30:00.000-07:00

La toute has left a new comment on your post "Urwenya rw'Igituba

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Umugore yakubitiwe ku Kibuye bamubwira kujya kurega kuri polisi yari aho hafi (Ku Kirinda), ahageze hari ukuntu bamurangaranye, abari aho bamugira inama yo kujya kuregera kuri polisi yo ku Cyanika kuko niho uwamukubise yari atuye biri bworohe kumubona hafi, afata utwe aragenda. ageze nzira ahura n'abari bamubonye akubitwa bamubajije aho agiye, ati ku Kirinda byananiranye ngiye ku Cyanika kuri Polisi

Imana Satani Igitsina

2010-07-11T13:24:00.000-07:00

Inkuru umusomyi yasize ku Igituba, ni ibitekerezo bye ariko, ababajwe n'abazana Satani n'Imana mu bitsina, wowe se urabivugaho iki?

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "AMAFOTO YA RUGONGO

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Ariko se abantu ko ari ibicucu, ni nde wababwiye ko shitani ibarizwa mu byo guswerana? Biba ibya shitani iyo ubikoze ugamije kugirira nabi mugenzi wawe. Uramutse ufashe ku ngufu, uramutse urwaye ukanduza mugenzi wawe ubizi kandi ubishaka... Naho rero, igihe uhuye n'undi muntu imitima yanyu ikabasaba guhuza ibitsina, nimubikore kuko Imana ikunda abagiriranira neza. N'iyo waba ufite undi mugore cyangwa umugabo, ikibazo kirihe niba uri bugere mu rugo ukamushimisha nta kibazo? Gufuha ni idwara y'ubuswa!

Uko nasweye umukobwa twari duturanye

2010-06-21T05:53:00.000-07:00

Inkuru umusomyi wa www.igituba.org yanditse hano Dore Uko Batanga Igituba

Uko nasweye umukobwa twari duturanye, natuye i Nyarutarama , hashize amezi atadatu ntagira kumenyana ho gato n` abaturanyi, harimo n`umukobwa w` umuturanyi. nakundaga kubyuka nkora sport muri cour, nambaye aka mayo de sport , umukobwa agakunda kumvugisha dore ko inyubako yabo yatumaga asa nundi hejuru , akambwira ko umubiri wanjye wubatse neza , igihe kimwe ansaba ko dukorana sport, ndabimwemerera , araza turakora , turangije ngiye koga , arambwira ngo reka andindire ndangize maze muherekeze, noga vuba nziko ngiye guherekeza , mvuye mu rwogero njya muri chambre igihe ntagiye kwisiga numva umukobwa arinjiye ahita amfata munda ahereye inyuma amanuka afata imboro , nayo imwikiriza vuba ihita ishyukwa , narahindukiye mpita ntagira kumusoma cyane , ariko afashe imboro yanjye najye ntangira kumukora mu gituba doreko yariyambaye akantu katamufashe cyane , uko nkoze kugashyimo agakanda imboro, ngezaho ntagira konka amabere ye njombagura urutoki mugituba , numva atagiye kumisha utuzi dushyushye , ariko yitsa imitima akanahumagira , twahise tujya kuburiri, musesetse mo imboro yahise yiruhusta ngirango arapfuye dore ko nayo itari ngufi , natagiye kumucumita , ncumise nkishuro 20, yatangiye kuzana ibintu bimeze nkigikoma mugituba , nahise mbonako yashyutswe cyane nta ngira guswera nerekeza kuri rugongo , imboro yasohotse ato kubera kuyerekeza hejuru, arinako asakuza anihira , yaranyaye , anjye mpita mfatiraho imboro nyikubita mumishino no kuri rugongo , aranyara amaso mbona aratukuye , hashyize akanya arambwira ngo ararangije , nanjye nahise nsohoro amasihoro yanjye ahita ayarya , yananiwe no guhaguruka , kubera yari yanyaye ahari bkabije , ndamureka araryama araruhuka none ubu hashyize icyumweru ntamunyajije ahari yanyica , niyo nakoreye muntara ansangayo, ubu ndamukunda kuburyo nanye yanyemeje.

Agasuzuguro k'Inkumi cyangwa Uko bimana Igituba

2010-06-17T06:45:00.000-07:00

Iyi nkuru ni ya Latoute, umwanditsi kuri www.igituba.org

AGASUZUGURO
Soma wumve uko basuzugura!!!
A: Ariko sha ko twakubonye na wa musore kandi waratubwiraga ngo uramusuzugura?
B: nibyo koko, naramusuzuguye menya n’ubu iyo ambonye ahita abyibuka!!!
A: kagire inkuru……
B: yarantumiye ngo musure, murebana agasuzuguro, ndamwikiriza;

ndagenda ngera iwe, ampa karibu, ndinjira ariko namusuzugiyeeee bya hatari
Ambaza icyo anzimanira, mubwirana agasuzuguro ko ari Jus na Carte;
Aba arabizanye, jus ndayinywa na unités nzongera muri samsung yanjye ariko namusuzuguye;
acuranga cd ya zouk, ansaba kubyina, ndamwemerera ariko namusuzuguye nyine : yanyegera nkamwegera nanjye ngo ndebe icyo bimwungura

Kugira ngo mupinge, namusabye gusura chambre ye; mbona biramushimishije, ndamuseka cyane mu mutima ariko sinabimwereka ndamusuzugura
Aba azanye alboum aranyereka, ndayireba ariko n’agasuzuguro kenshi!!!
Aba ansabye kumusoma, ndamusoma ariko ndamusuzuguraaa pe…
Aba atangiye kunkuyakuya, numva ntacyo bimbwiye ariko ndamusuzugura ndamureka arishimisha!

Arambwira ngo tujye ku gitanda, ndamureba ndamusuzugura, ndurira;
Agiye kunkuriramo inkweto ndamusuzugura nzikuriramo ngo atazica!!!
Akomeza kunsoma no kunkuyakuya, ndamusugura ndamwihorera!!
Ansaba gukuramo imyenda yanjye ngo itipfunyarika ko nta pasi afite: mbona ko ambeshye ariko ndamusuzugura mpita nyikuramo…
Akomeza iby’ikuyakuya, ankora ku mabere, mu misatsi, ndamusuzugura sinamuvugisha, arumirwa mbona ashatse kurira!!!!

Aba atangiye kumanurira ikariso, ndamureba, ndamusuzugura ndamwihorera;
Aba azanye condom ifite uduheri ambaza niba nyikunda, ndamupinga sinamusubiza!
Ngiye kumva numva ikintu cyangezemo, ndamureba ndamuzusugura nigizayo amatako ngo ndebe icyo bimumarira; ndayeganyegaaaaaa akambwira ngo arishimye cyane, ndamusuzugura sinamusubiza!!
Aritunenga, aritunenga sinakubwira…..akajya azunguza uruntu rwe mu kintu cyanjye, ndamwihorera nifungira amaso ndamusuzugura!

Ngiye kumva numva ahanitse ijwi araryururutsa, aranyegera cyaneeee, mufata mu mugongo ariko namusuzuguye!!
Aransomagura cyane, ndamusuzugura ndamwihorera!
Numva utuntu twiza tunyuzuye umubiri wose, ubwenge bwange sinzi aho buri, ndamusuzugura sinamubaza ibyo ari byo!
Agwa agacuho nanjye numva ndaruhutse, ariko ndamusuzugura pe!
Hashize akanya aba ansabye kujyana muri douche kwiyuhagira, ndamureba ndamukuba mpita mutangayo…ngo nigire ahari heza

Afungura amazi yo hejuru aransirita, ndamureba ndamusuguzugura bya hatari!!
Tuguma muri douche, ndamwihorera sinamuvugisha…
Mu kanya aba yongeye kwambara condom, ahita anyicaza ku gatebe kari aho, ndamupinga nicara ntambikije bya hatari!!!
Aba atangiye kunyaza, ndamwihorera mwereka ko namusuzuguye..
Agezeho anyinjiramo weseeeee najye numva uburyohe bwinshiiiiii mpita musuzugura ndamusoma cyane, mubuza kuvuga!
….hakurikiyeho n’ibindi byinshi ariko ndamusuzugura bya hatari: ibyo ambwiye nkabikora ariko namupinze nyine urabyumva!! Kugeza igihe amperekereje aranshimira cyane; nanjye ndamupinga ndamuninura ngo « merci »
….ndemeza ko atazongera kunyitereza: namweretse ko mupinga nawe menya yarabibonye;
None umva ngo arirarira ngo ndamukunda!!!

Isomo:

Uyu mwari ngo yakurikizaga inama yo gusuzugura abahungu, ariko menya uburyo babikora barabwize yasohotse yagiye gusuzugura uriya musore we nyine!!!!!!!!!!!

Ijambo ry'Ibanze ry'Umwanditsi Mukuru

2010-05-11T11:30:00.000-07:00

Reba iyi video aho dusobanura uburyo abantu batagomba gutinya kuvuga no kuganira ku bitsina badafite ubwoba, kuko kuba igituba n'imboro twarabihinduhe ubwiru nabyo bitwica mu cyayenge. Twe ku igituba.org nta soni tugira kuko isoni zirisha uburozi!
. Reka rero tubyisobanmurire tubisobanurire abana inshuti n'abavandimwe kugirango tumenye iyo tuva n'iyo tujya mu rwego rw'imibonano mpuzabitsima. Utarabikora azabanze antere ibuye!

KUKI UKUNDA UMUGORE WAWE KANDI ARI MUBI CYANE?

2010-02-07T07:14:00.000-08:00

KUKI UKUNDA UMUGORE WAWE KANDI ARI MUBI CYANE?

Urwenya rwanditswe n'umusomyi w'Igituba witwa Gaternelson

Babwiye umugabo bati "kuki wakunze umugore wawe kandi ari mubi cyane?" ati " njyewe sinita k'ubwiza ahubwo nashakaga uwo kubaka gusa! bati " noneho uko uzajya ubona umufundi uzajya uhita urongora!!"

Par Gaternelson

INKURU BISA

1.Urwenya rw'Igitsina I

2.Urwenya rw'Igitsina II

3.Inganzo y'Igituba

4.Urwenya

5.Urwenya Rusanzwe

6.Urwenya rw'Igitsina

7.Urwenya Tuba!

DUKUNDANA AHANDI-KU GITSINA BYARANZE!

2010-02-07T06:56:00.000-08:00

DUKUNDANA AHANDI-KU GITSINA BYARANZE!

Njye nkunda umugabo wange nawe akankunda ariko iyo atangiye muhaye igitubaubona atabishaka nanjye nkumva ntabishaka ngire nte?

Bangambiki:

-Mwese mushobora kuba mufite appetit nke y'igitsina,
-mushobora kuba mudakundana,
-buri muntu yifitiye icyana
-cyangwa mugeze mu za bukuru.
-umubano wanyu urimo inzika no guhemukirana mwananiwe kubabarirana

INKURU BISA

1.Kuki Abagore Batinda Gusohora?

2.Ndaswera Ariko Sinsohora

3.Kuki Ntakunda Gushyukwa

4.Iyo Ngiye Guswera Imboro Ndayibura

BOYFRIEND WANJYE YANGA KUNYAZA NGO NI UMWANDA

2010-01-17T06:03:00.000-08:00

BOYFRIEND WANJYE YANGA KUNYAZA NGO NI UMWANDA

Claudine
Murakoze mfite ikibazo iyo mpuye na boyfriend wanjye nkamubwira ngo anyaze arabyanga ngo ntabyo azi. Kandi ambwira ngo ni umwanda mu buriri. Nzabigenze gute?

IGISUBIZO

Bangambiki:
CLAUDINE ni byo kunyaza bishobora kwanduza uburiri, uzashake agasambi kabigenewe kandi umuganirize kugira ngo yumve akamaro kabyo

INKURU BISA

1.Dore Uko Banyaza!

2.Kunyaza Bita Gukama

3.Kunyaza Bita Gukamisha

4.Kunyaza Bita Gukunguta

5.Kunyaza Bita Gutsibura

6.Kunyaza Bita Kujabagira

7.Kunyaza Bita Kunyatiriza

8.Kunyaza n'Urutoki

9.Kunyaza Uhagaze

10.Kunyaza Wicaje

11.Kunyaza Wicaje Ku Ntebe

12.Ibitekerezo ku Kunyaza

GUSWERWA HABONA CYANGWA HATABONA ICYIZA NI IKIHE

2010-01-07T05:58:00.000-08:00

GUSWERWA HABONA CYANGWA HATABONA ICYIZA NI IKIHE?

Diane
Ari uguswera cg se guswerwa ku manywa cg hatabona ibyaba byiza ni ibihe Kubera iki se?

IGISUBIZO

koffi
guswera ku manwa nibyo byiza kuko bituma mumenyana neza ,kd abahungu bose nzi ko aribyo bifuza ,kureba neza igituba cy'umukobwa bari kumwe.

INKURU BISA

1.Uburyo Bunyuranye bwo Guswera

2.Guswera ni iki?

IKIBAZO-AMASO YANJYE YIBERA MU MAGURU Y'ABAGORE

2010-01-01T05:31:00.000-08:00

IKIBAZO-AMASO YANJYE YIBERA MU MAGURU Y'ABAGORE

Sinshobora kwihanganira kureba k'umugore ntamurebye mu maguru, iyo ijisho rigeze mu maguru ntekereza Igituba. Aho sinzakigwa inyuma?

Bangambiki: Abagabo benshi bikunze kubabaho cyane cyane abadafite abagore n'abasore. Uri muzima rwose kandi ufite amahirwe kuko uzi situation yawe. Ikiryoshye kirakundwa gusa umuntu agomba kwifata ngo kitamubera ikiyobyabwenge. Gusa nubona watannye cyane ku buryo kwiruka inyuma y'abagore bikubuza gukora inshingano zawe uzamenye ko ari uburwayi, uzabihagarike wiyambaze muganga.

INKURU BISA

Ni ibihe Bimenyetso Byerekana ko Nkunda Igitsina Cyane?

Nkunda Kureba Porono Mbese Hari Icyo Byantwara?

Nyama kwa Nyama Kama Mbaya Mbaya

Inshuti Zirashukana

Icyampa Ngaswera Isi Yose

Mbese Indayi Iruta Umugore?

2009-12-15T10:09:00.000-08:00

Iki ni igitekerezo umusomyi yasize ku Igituba.org kuri ino nkuru "UKO NAKOZE KU GITUBA CY'UMUKOBWA UBWA MBERE

":

ICO NSHIMA INDAYI

Hari ibituma vyinshi abagabo bo mumiji bishimira kurondera indaya iyo bashatse gushimishwa n` igitsina:

- Indaya ikubwira karibu neza ikwereka ko igushaka mugihe hari abagore bagerageza kwumvisha abagabo ko barushe imissi yose

-Iyo mwumvikanye kw`ibeyi indayi itega amaguru neza, ikagushukwisha, ikakunyongera yinihisha.Umugore wanje aragarama gusa ibisigaye nkimenya aho vyoryoshe akinamura ngo ndarushe nyarutsa.

-Amafaranga yo guha indayi iyo ifise aho ipanze ni makeya cane ntashobora gukenesha uwo ariwe wese.

-Ikindi, indayi yamana agakingirizo, iragushukwisha,ikakakwambika,

ikagushirira imboro mugituba, ikakakwambura uhejeje,ikanaguha n` amazi yo gukaraba.Umugore wanje ambwira ko arije no muhanagura iyo yibutse kukimpa nka rimwe mu ndwi, no gufungura ntiyigera ambwira karibu, hari aho ndamurindira nateba ndaba television nkabona arahejeje gufungura akambaza ngo uno musi nturya?Ikimuryohera niyo ndamuteguriye icayi canke ivyamwa arya avuye kukazi ariko nta merci ndamwumvana.

-Icanyuma, ntawumenya ikingeza iyo nigiriye kuraba indayi.Ino mpereye ibihumbi bitatu kumuswero umwe ubibuze waza ugomba ugapfa.Ariko ntimwime umubiri ico ushaka ngo mwihatiye amashetani y` abagore. Gura igituba kw` iduka, baza abahabona.igisubizo kuri bukombea@yahoo.fr

Inkuru bisa

Kuki Igituba cy'Ikibano Kiryoha?
Guswera Indayi
Indayi Zirashukana

KUNYAZA,IBANGA RYO GUSOHORA KW'ABAGORE

2009-10-18T21:47:00.000-07:00

Nkunda Imboro Cyane

2009-10-13T18:30:00.001-07:00

Commentaire y'Umusomyi wacu ku ri www.igituba.org

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "KUNYAZA:GUSWERA UMUGORE
AKANYARA.":

Alice. Mfite imyaka 19 ntuye muri UK, nkunda imboro cyane kuburyo
butumvikana nyamara ngira ubwoba bwo gutanga igituba, iyo nsomanye na
boyfriend akankorakora gake ikariso ihita yuzura amazi, nkashyukwa
bikabije igituba kikandya cyane, imitsi ikarega nkabura amahoro pe! Iyo
ntekereje imboro ibaye iri mu gituba ibyorogamo gahoro gahoro numva
nsheshe urumeza. Ubuse n'abandi niko bibagendera, ese ubu nzihangana
kugeza nshatse, aha!!!!. A

Posted by Anonymous to IGITUBA at October 12, 2009 9:20 AM

Ibanga ryo Guswera

2009-10-11T09:16:00.001-07:00

Igitekerezo cya Peter. Nakongeraho ko ugomba kumenya kumuganiriza ngo
akiguhane ubwuzu
http://womensecretsrevealed.blogspot.com

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From: PETER <noreply-comment@blogger.com>
Date: Sun, 11 Oct 2009 08:38:12 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: [IGITUBA] New comment on IMBORO NTO.
To: bangambiki@igituba.org

PETER has left a new comment on your post "IMBORO NTO":

GUTSERA NEZA BITERWA N'UBWUZU UMUKOBWA AGUHAANYE IGITUBA IYO AKIGUHAYE
ATABISHAKA NEZA NAWE UCIKA INTEGE

Posted by PETER to IGITUBA at October 11, 2009 8:38 AM

Mbese Gukuna Biracyakenewe

2009-10-10T09:44:00.000-07:00

Igitekerezo cy'umusomyi. Shyiraho igitekerezo cyawe
http://igitubaproject.blogspot.com
http://videozakutombana.blogspot.com

Kuki imboro igwa ntarangije guswera

2009-10-09T07:09:00.001-07:00

None se usanzwe ugira ibibazo byo kudashyukwa?Niba atari ibyo uba
wumva ko iyo uhagije umugore uba urangije akazi, ni ugushimishana.
Ibyo biba no ku bagore umugabo yamara kurangiza umugore ati"wikirirwa
ukomeza nta kibazo mfite".Biterwa no kumenyerana cyane ya maji
y'urukundo rushyushye imaze gushira, niyo mpamvu abakundana bagomba
kwita ku rukundo rwabo kuko "nta rurabo rutoha rutuhiwe".

2009/10/9, Twagirayezu Spiridio <tspiridio@yahoo.fr>:
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> Muraho ? Ni mpamvu ki ituma rimwe na rimwe nkora imibonano
> mpuzabitsina n'umugore wanjye akarangiza, njyewe igitsina cyanjye kigata
> umurego hatabayeho gusohora (éjaculation) ? Bishoboka mwansubiza vuba .
> Murakoze.
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Kuki ntakunda gushyukwa

2009-10-07T08:54:00.001-07:00

Kuri iki kibazo cyo gushyukwa soma hano
http://www.igituba.org/2008/02/iyo-ngiye-guswera-imboro-ndayibura.html

2009/10/7, françois xavier niyitegeka <fraxan@yahoo.fr>:
> Muraho? Nasomye site yanyu mbona mushobora kumfasha, muzi ko abagabo benshi
> babyukana umushyukwe mu gjtondo ariko njye mbiheruka nkiri muto, nkeka ko
> byaba bjterwa n'uko kera nkiri muri secondaire nakundaga kwikinisha ariko
> simbihamya none nakora iki ko iyo ngiye guswera ntinda gushyukwa cyane, ku
> buryo umugore mbona yarambiwe kandi n' iyo nshyutswe nta murego ufatika mba
> mfite ku bburyo ntanakwambara prudence. rwose mumfashe mungire inama .
> Murakoze ni Frank
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